Techusy Posted February 20 Share Posted February 20 Long story short, I was with my first love for 3 years before we broke up nearly 10 years ago. We were young and in our early 20s back then, things just fizzled out. I've always thought about her but eventually we went our separate ways, she got in to a relationship with another guy for a few years but eventually he ended up cheating on her, this was around 2017. At the start of 2019, she did add me on social media but she didn't say anything to me so a few days later I ended up deleting her because I realised I still wasn't over her. At the end of 2019 I heard that she was engaged, she ended up getting married but then I heard she got divorced around a year and a half ago. A few weeks ago I found out that the reason for her divorce was because her husband cheated on her and was abusive towards her. As for me I have been single for a few years now, I have been evolving in my career and proud of how far I've come and have recently started a new chapter in my career. I considered getting in touch with her a few months ago but I noticed that she had cut off a lot of people from her social media so I wasnt too sure how she'd react to me adding her, I thought she'd reject me seen as she's cutting off a lot of people. So 3 weeks ago I took the plunge seen as I had nothing to lose and sent her a request on instagram, and she has accepted and also followed me back. She's been viewing my stories and today I posted a life quote on my story which she liked but I haven't spoke to her yet. I liked one of her posts a few days ago. I'm tempted to send her a message but not sure if she'll respond or how she'd react, I was hoping she'd message me first but don't think she will and I want to tread very carefully with her as I don't really know where her mind is given what she's been through. I know I may be overthinking it but any advice would be appreciated, thanks Link to comment
boltnrun Posted February 20 Share Posted February 20 Dude, this is the third time you've posted this exact same question. Can you go back and reread the other two threads you started where people already offered thoughtful advice? 2 Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted February 20 Share Posted February 20 11 minutes ago, Techusy said: I took the plunge seen as I had nothing to lose and sent her a request on instagram, and she has accepted and also followed me back. I was hoping she'd message me first Build some rapport through comments likes etc and eventually some small talk messaging. From there you could suggest catching up over a coffee/drink. It's unclear why the onus should be on her to reach out first? You're the one who's interested. Link to comment
tattoobunnie Posted February 20 Share Posted February 20 None of us can tell you the future. But I do know the fact that you keep doing the same thing over and over, and asking the same thing over and over, not much anyone can do about your fear of rejection. The worst she can say is, "No." 1 Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted February 20 Share Posted February 20 2 hours ago, boltnrun said: Dude, this is the third time you've posted this exact same question. Can you go back and reread the other two threads you started where people already offered thoughtful advice? This. I am not sure what you hope to gain by repeating the question over and over, OP. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted February 20 Share Posted February 20 Thread already exists. Closed. OP, please continue on in your previous thread on the same topic. Link to comment
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