I’m not sure if I made the right decision

[Quest Queen]

My boyfriend and I have been separated for almost 5 months now after being together for 2 years and a half because he had to go to his country (Morrocco) to settle some business matter with his mom. But even though we agreed to take time off and be free, none of us has gotten involved with anyone else. We have tried to talk to other people but we have confessed to one another that talking to other people doesn’t make us feel the way we have felt for one another. We had a very difficult relationship but as we’ve been apart, we’ve been trying to understand each other more because we were planning to renew our relationship when he got back on December 1. I had found that he had created a fake page on instagram where he was following two of my daughters. I was pissed and asked him why? His first response was that he wanted to see if I was on their posts doing other things like having other men on their posts. I didn’t buy it so I let a couple of weeks go by. This past Tuesday as we were trying to go over how we can better things and how to act better towards each other when we reunited again, I asked him again that why was he following my daughters in a page that he kept from me. I said to him that I will respect him more as a person if he told me the truth. Then he answered, I was following them bc I was admiring them in their pictures. I was flabbergasted!!!! Confused as to why he had the balls to tell me this and questioning his respect for me and my daughters. I cursed him out and blocked him from social media and everywhere else. I believe I make the right decision but a part of me questions it. I just need reassurance bc he was really good to me and always went out of his way to make sure our relationship stay united but I’m really confused and distraught at the same time! 😩😩 I know I probably wasn’t too specific but don’t hesitate to ask any questions as I’m just trying to put closure on this situation or make the effort to reach out to him again 

[kctiger]

You have every right to be hurt, confused, even feeling betrayed. Just to specify, are you saying this guy created a fictitious social media account with the sole intent of stalking your daughter’s photos because he was attracted to them? 

If the answer to that question is “Yes”, then you absolutely made the right decision and you should never talk to him again. Block, delete, remove, whatever you have to do. This is nowhere near the type of man you want in your life nor is it someone that is deserving of your affection. Solid relationships aren’t built on any of the qualities he’s exhibited, no matter how good to you he’s been. He’s gone behind your back and crossed boundaries there’s no coming back from. 

Better stated, if you were me and you read the same story you posted, what would you tell that woman? For all you know he wants to keep you around to get closer to your daughters. 

[JohnLee]

He sounds like a pedophile to me. How old are they?

[Tinydance]

Yeah no!! Bye bye to this creep! I mean, I understand you were on a break and he could see other women but he was checking out YOUR DAUGHTERS? First of all there is obviously a big age gap between him and your daughters. Unless you were dating a man much younger than you? I know you posted this in "age gap relationships". What is the age gap between you and him?

Anyway the age doesn't matter. To me it would be a deal breaker if my boyfriend checked out or was into my daughter, sister, mother, friend, etc. It's completely inappropriate. Especially the fact he actually made a fake page just to follow your daughters on social media! Super creepy.

[DarkCh0c0]

You two sound very incompatible, and HE is a creep!!

Honey, increase your dating standards and don't go back to the trash.

[Wiseman2]

8 hours ago, Quest Queen said:

 he answered, I was following them bc I was admiring them in their pictures. 

 You made the right call deleting and blocking him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. How old are your daughters, do they live with you? It's rather creepy that he is catfishing to view their social media. Inform and protect your daughters. Report him to IG. Consider that you dodged a bullet.

[Kwothe28]

9 hours ago, Quest Queen said:

Then he answered, I was following them bc I was admiring them in their pictures.

***?

OP, you were right to get rid off somebody like that for good, dont question yourself on it.

[hundal]

It sounds terrible, how old are they.

[catfeeder]

If his intentions were reasonable, he could have followed them with his own account. He didn’t do that, so he’s proven himself to be untrustworthy.

Add that to the fact that the two of you didn’t even get along well before any of this, and there’s really no question that you’re far better off without him.

[jul-els]

The test of time has proven the two of you to be incompatible. It’s time for you to let it go. 

[Quest Queen]

On 10/27/2022 at 7:23 PM, JohnLee said:

He sounds like a pedophile to me. How old are they?

My daughters are 26 & 28

[Quest Queen]

20 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

 You made the right call deleting and blocking him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. How old are your daughters, do they live with you? It's rather creepy that he is catfishing to view their social media. Inform and protect your daughters. Report him to IG. Consider that you dodged a bullet.

My daughters are 26 & 28 and no they don’t live with me, they live with their boyfriends 

[Quest Queen]

On 10/27/2022 at 7:18 PM, kctiger said:

You have every right to be hurt, confused, even feeling betrayed. Just to specify, are you saying this guy created a fictitious social media account with the sole intent of stalking your daughter’s photos because he was attracted to them? 

If the answer to that question is “Yes”, then you absolutely made the right decision and you should never talk to him again. Block, delete, remove, whatever you have to do. This is nowhere near the type of man you want in your life nor is it someone that is deserving of your affection. Solid relationships aren’t built on any of the qualities he’s exhibited, no matter how good to you he’s been. He’s gone behind your back and crossed boundaries there’s no coming back from. 

Better stated, if you were me and you read the same story you posted, what would you tell that woman? For all you know he wants to keep you around to get closer to your daughters.

On 10/27/2022 at 7:18 PM, kctiger said:

No he said his sole intention was to see if I posted something out of the ordinary and my daughters posted it on their page. He was also following my daughters boyfriends also but I don’t know, I still think it was so wrong. Especially the fact that then he proceeded to tell me that he was following them to admire their pages. It just sounds creepy and I don’t plan on unblocking him 

 

17 hours ago, hundal said:

It sounds terrible, how old are they.

 

[Quest Queen]

On 10/27/2022 at 10:06 PM, Tinydance said:

Yeah no!! Bye bye to this creep! I mean, I understand you were on a break and he could see other women but he was checking out YOUR DAUGHTERS? First of all there is obviously a big age gap between him and your daughters. Unless you were dating a man much younger than you? I know you posted this in "age gap relationships". What is the age gap between you and him?

Anyway the age doesn't matter. To me it would be a deal breaker if my boyfriend checked out or was into my daughter, sister, mother, friend, etc. It's completely inappropriate. Especially the fact he actually made a fake page just to follow your daughters on social media! Super creepy.

I am 20 years older than him. It’s actually confusing because he was also following their boyfriends but I still think it was creepy. And on the other hand, he said he started following them to see if I was in their post doing something out of the ordinary like I have time for that! Still, I don’t think I plan on unblocking him 

[Quest Queen]

On 10/27/2022 at 7:23 PM, JohnLee said:

He sounds like a pedophile to me. How old are they?

26 & 28

[Quest Queen]

18 hours ago, hundal said:

It sounds terrible, how old are they.

26 & 28 

[Tinydance]

1 hour ago, Quest Queen said:

I am 20 years older than him. It’s actually confusing because he was also following their boyfriends but I still think it was creepy. And on the other hand, he said he started following them to see if I was in their post doing something out of the ordinary like I have time for that! Still, I don’t think I plan on unblocking him 

But why did he follow from a fake account? And he actually admitted to you he did it to check out their pictures! Also he knows they have a boyfriend but obviously he's into them? Sorry but to me that behaviour would be unacceptable.

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, Quest Queen said:

My daughters are 26 & 28 and no they don’t live with me, they live with their boyfriends 

Have they blocked him also? Yes whatever his reasons are, it's creepy that he cyberstalks.