Chapter 3

[Batya33]

3 hours ago, dias said:

I returned to Athens yesterday evening. I liked Barcelona but not to the extent of paying for a hotel when I have to stay inside most of the time during the week. It sucks when you have a lot of work during the week. I need proper holidays, a couple of ....years... would do it.  

Damn though, every time I come back I am sad. I am a nomad at heart. My heart longs for adventures and new land/city-scapes. It's difficult to describe the feeling. It's like when you expect to meet a gal you really like. Two years max, this is how long I am staying in Athens. Then I will try to find a remote job as a contractor (even for a lot less money) and travel wherever I want. Since I don't have much luck with the ladies anyway there is nothing to stop me. 

I am quite fed up with all the rules and procedures in the corporate world. Let alone the fact that it does not matter if you work harder and be more productive than the others when everyone will get the same payrise and most likely the person who is in the clique and kiss butts will get the promotion. 

I like to wander...a lot. 

Damn, born in the wrong century....

You know it's good to know yourself so well. The 15 plus years I spent in the corporate world was mostly a great experience and made my life -financially and professionally -what it is today. And originally met my husband  that way.   And I know of many who had far different experiences. I certainly experienced more than one toxic environment. I never recommend it either way to people -I entered it from the nonprofit/government world with specific purposes and goals in mind which I accomplished way beyond my expectations. 

I worked extremely hard at a level I know I'm done with given my job as my son's mom and my husband's far more than full time work (but not in the corporate world anymore).  When son goes off to college I'll be in my 60s so I don't see being intense full time corporate at that point.  But from my mid-late 20s to my early 40s it served me so well. Again you have a very strong sense of who you are and what you want - not everyone has that and it's great IMO.

[dias]

On 1/7/2024 at 1:35 AM, dias said:

 

I watched all the episodes. It's a 10/10, tantamount to True Detective Season 1. Only the Native Americans were not very convincing, they spoke English a little too well, I assume in 1883 most native Americans didn't have English lessons. 

The series is a 10 for me. I loved everything I watched from Taylor Sheridan. He is a great story teller. He reminds me of Louis L'amour. The plot, the characters, the romantic outlook on life, the fights, the way he unravels the story, everything in 1883 reminds of Louis L'amour. Funny thing, he didn't succeed as an actor but from his brief appearances on his shows he is not a good actor in my opinion. He definitely has a talent on writing stories though. 

Tim Mcgraw and Faith Hill are perfect. It's unusual for an actual married couple to impersonate a married couple on the screen. Tim Mcgraw has also the right voice to play the character. Sam Elliott was a foolproof choice too. 

 

[mylolita]

On 1/15/2024 at 8:49 AM, dias said:

I returned to Athens yesterday evening. I liked Barcelona but not to the extent of paying for a hotel when I have to stay inside most of the time during the week. It sucks when you have a lot of work during the week. I need proper holidays, a couple of ....years... would do it.  

Damn though, every time I come back I am sad. I am a nomad at heart. My heart longs for adventures and new land/city-scapes. It's difficult to describe the feeling. It's like when you expect to meet a gal you really like. Two years max, this is how long I am staying in Athens. Then I will try to find a remote job as a contractor (even for a lot less money) and travel wherever I want. Since I don't have much luck with the ladies anyway there is nothing to stop me. 

I am quite fed up with all the rules and procedures in the corporate world. Let alone the fact that it does not matter if you work harder and be more productive than the others when everyone will get the same payrise and most likely the person who is in the clique and kiss butts will get the promotion. 

I like to wander...a lot. 

Damn, born in the wrong century....

We are a nomadic species at heart, it is deep within our wandering ancestry. 
 

You have that bug! It’a not so much of a bad thing Dias - I think this is one of your biggest strengths! 
 

x

[Jibralta]

On 1/8/2024 at 9:22 AM, dias said:

the coffee is the worst coffee I ever tasted.

Shocking! I can't believe it.

[dias]

Any American here to explain the origin of the 15-20% tip in everything in the US? Since I am coming from a different background I don't get it whatsoever.

For instance, I remember when I bought a beer at a bar that let's say cost 10$, I "had" to give 2$ tip. It does not sit well with me. First, I think 2 dollars is a lot for moving your hand to the level of your knee, grab a bottle and put it on the table. 

Second, why the stores don't pay the employees and it's customers paying the salaries with tips? Ok you will tell me it's not always the customers who essentially pay the employees since the revenue is coming from the customers? Sure! That being said, then the initial price is too high since you have to tip as well. 

I am trying to figure out who "loses" here in this situation. Certainly not the store since it does not pay the employees. The employees? Hmm it depends, this way they might make a lot more than if the store paid them a normal salary but they could also make a lot less. It kind of forces the employees to be salesmen as well. However, I think the customer is the one who pays the heftier price. What a strange system. 

And you can tell you are being judged for not leaving a good tip or no tip. It's like an unwritten rule. Regardless if the food/drink/product/service was not worth it. Also for me it doesn't make sense because it's like our clients giving me tip for every line of code. Ah, that would be great, I would have been a billionaire. 

Oh another thing I almost forgot,... in the US they have the price but the price is usually before tax. So every time you purchase something you need to think you will pay the advertised price+tax+tip = advertised price+40% more less. What's the deal with displaying pre-tax price btw? Show you are not ripping off the clients? 

One last question because I am really curious about it...do you like having a waiter coming every 5 minutes to your table to ask if everything is ok? One time is ok. 5 times it's not ok. It's freakin annoying. 

There was only one time I tipped because I wanted it. It was the guide on the airboat tour in the swamps of Lousiana. All the other times I didn't. 

 

 

[reinventmyself]

I'll get on my soap box here,

During my young adult years I waited on tables.  I was paid min wage plus tips.  I never felt entitled to a tip. The tip was based on my level of service.  Loved the job at the time but it was a lot of work, physically, mentally.  It comes down to timing and providing the customer with an exceptional experience.  There were occasions I messed up and I didn't expect a tip.  

Today I have the stupid apple pay screen turned toward me requesting a tip for the young girl who turned around and put a donut in a bag for me.  This really ramped during Covid and I'll admit I felt somewhat obliged.  Certainly not 20% but I would tip.  Now I am dialing back tipping for any damn thing that comes my way.   Especially considering in CA fast food workers now make $20 an hour.  It just got way out of hand.

You provide me some level of service I will consider it.  But I didn't get tipped for merely showing up to work.  I think of how much I hustled to get that tip and it gets under my skin we are now being asked to tip for basically nothing.

[mylolita]

I never understood the hefty and expected tipping culture either! I think it’s one of the big differences between Europe and America.

 

I always tip bar staff (“get one for yourself”), leave a nice tip at restaurants, my hairdresser, and delivery service people (they are always very grateful actually and have come I think not to expect it now with everything going towards cashless!) If I’m in a coffee shop, I’ll throw in a couple of pounds into their tip jar for the general staff. 

 

But! I wouldn’t tip a set percentage every time, and I only tip if it’s worth it, or the service was kind and decent. I am probably very unusual in tipping people like a hairdresser. Whenever I go to a salon here in England; I can tell they never expect it. Sometimes if I’m in a small independent shop I will say “keep the change” after buying something. 
 

I would hate to feel obliged though and that would make me want to tip less!

 

When I also worked behind a bar, tips became an extra 3/4 on top of my usual wage, and the club was in an affluent area. I was always very happy and grateful for any tips. I was, may I think, a pretty good bar girl and I think those tips were well worked for! 🥲🥳

 

But as a waitress I messed up a good few times with the odd order and would apologise. People were always okay but I didn’t expect any tip after having my head in the clouds. 
 

$10 and then an extra $2 is a lot. And the before tax thing reminds me of large commercial places like Costco which, is that American? Everything seems “ooo so cheap!” And then the next second you realise oh; it’s cos they haven’t added on the tax! 
 

Tell it to the judge! 
 

🤣 x

[Batya33]

6 hours ago, reinventmyself said:

I'll get on my soap box here,

During my young adult years I waited on tables.  I was paid min wage plus tips.  I never felt entitled to a tip. The tip was based on my level of service.  Loved the job at the time but it was a lot of work, physically, mentally.  It comes down to timing and providing the customer with an exceptional experience.  There were occasions I messed up and I didn't expect a tip.  

Today I have the stupid apple pay screen turned toward me requesting a tip for the young girl who turned around and put a donut in a bag for me.  This really ramped during Covid and I'll admit I felt somewhat obliged.  Certainly not 20% but I would tip.  Now I am dialing back tipping for any damn thing that comes my way.   Especially considering in CA fast food workers now make $20 an hour.  It just got way out of hand.

You provide me some level of service I will consider it.  But I didn't get tipped for merely showing up to work.  I think of how much I hustled to get that tip and it gets under my skin we are now being asked to tip for basically nothing.

I worked at a very popular doughnut chain in my teens when they still had counter service but we had to split tips with those who worked in the front and not waiting at the counter and those who made and filled the doughnuts in the back.  It wasn't true waitressing for sure.  And still very hard!

[mylolita]

Sorry to de-rail, but saw this and thought you might appreciate… 🤭🤣

 

 

 

[dias]

So essentially we agree. It's getting out of hand. 

I don't agree with the general consensus on this forum that every job is difficult. This is b*ll***. Yes every job is obviously more difficult than doing nothing that's why it's called a job. However, saying that every job is equally difficult is nonsensical. 

If you work in the fields and raise cattle yes it's difficult, if you are a Navy Seal yes it's difficult, if you work in an oil ring yes it's very difficult, if you are a surgeon saving lives yes it's difficult, if you are doing a PhD in math yes it's difficult, if you are fighting pirates in the Persian gulf yes it's difficult. 

But delivering food or putting donuts in bags is not difficult. Jeez. 

When I was in Navy, my days were spent doing chores all day long. In the morning I had to clean the toilets, then I had to scrub baking sheets, wash dishes for 200+ people and serve food. In the afternoon I had go with the garbage truck and empty all the dumpsters in the base. I am telling you, aside from the last one which was difficult because of the unbearable smell the rest were not difficult. Everyone can do these things. 

There is huge difference between working long hours in a job that everyone can do (which yes it's difficult in and of itself) and doing a difficult job. 

 

[mylolita]

2 hours ago, dias said:

So essentially we agree. It's getting out of hand. 

I don't agree with the general consensus on this forum that every job is difficult. This is b*ll***. Yes every job is obviously more difficult than doing nothing that's why it's called a job. However, saying that every job is equally difficult is nonsensical. 

If you work in the fields and raise cattle yes it's difficult, if you are a Navy Seal yes it's difficult, if you work in an oil ring yes it's very difficult, if you are a surgeon saving lives yes it's difficult, if you are doing a PhD in math yes it's difficult, if you are fighting pirates in the Persian gulf yes it's difficult. 

But delivering food or putting donuts in bags is not difficult. Jeez. 

When I was in Navy, my days were spent doing chores all day long. In the morning I had to clean the toilets, then I had to scrub baking sheets, wash dishes for 200+ people and serve food. In the afternoon I had go with the garbage truck and empty all the dumpsters in the base. I am telling you, aside from the last one which was difficult because of the unbearable smell the rest were not difficult. Everyone can do these things. 

There is huge difference between working long hours in a job that everyone can do (which yes it's difficult in and of itself) and doing a difficult job. 

 

The pay reflects the difficulty in most jobs - and the unique skill. The pay usually (but not always) seems to correlate to this which, makes sense. Also, how in demand that skill or service is. When plumbers are scarce, all the prices shoot up, and their work gets sloppier because they can walk out of one job, straight into the next. 
 

I once thought that the tedious and undesirability of service and other low paid labour was not the obvious low wage, but the tedious repetitive ness and mundane ness of the tasks. Then I came to realise a surgeon just specialises in usually one area and a couple of procedures, and does that same thing day in, day out, on speed repeat. All jobs are mostly full of tedium and repetitiveness too. 
 

A job to me is also, I agree, something l you get paid for and the main factor is, you would not do in your spare time for free. If you would do your work unpaid happily and for free, off your own back because you love it so, then you are one of the lucky few. Most people are there for the money, which is why I often don’t buy the “this is my passion” thing. I suppose it is, halfway true - you like the field, you enjoy many aspects of it and the occupation plays to your strengths and talents, but… I think most people seek their passions outside of the work hour. Again, if you can truly marry both, you have struck gold. 
 

Being a waitress and barmaid and cleaner, had its trials, but I would never wish to replace my situation back then with guys who go down to fix sewers under the city, have to brace storms on oil rigs, or climb insane scaffolding to fix sky scrapers in all weather, or soldiers who go to war.
 

I often also hear other mothers refer to full time looking after kids as work, or a job. You would hopefully do this for free, as you do. It’s not a job, but your duty, and a blissful and extremely precious one at that. I never understood that. And then them tallying their “mother working hours” against the hours their husband or partners pull in at the office. It’s not the same. Being a mother or father is beyond a job description - it’s your life’s calling, and you never cease until your dying day. I never got that one either! 
 

You started off something here Dias 😂🍿🍿🍿

 

x
 

 

[Batya33]

5 hours ago, dias said:

But delivering food or putting donuts in bags is not difficult. Jeez. 

It is when you are front facing with the public, it is when so much of your pay is in tips, when you have to deal with high maintenance customers, with a boss who expects employees to take on graveyard shifts, more shifts, it is when it's a single parent who stresses over -will the babysitter show up /will the fever go down enough so baby can go to daycare tomorrow and if not how  can I tell my boss I won't be in yet another day? Or with food delivery -if I don't work Saturday during the big game everyone is watching I'll lose $$$ but my son wants me to go to his piano recital?

The lives of the people who do that also factor into the difficulty. Yes when I did it part time during high school for some extra $ it was no biggie, I said no to extra shifts -didn't care if my coworkers were annoyed (the full time ones) or if I had to leave the job. That obviously made it easier.

Also many of the people work while they're very sick etc because they have to.  And working from home is easier when you're sick than delivering food at all hours. Etc.  Just offering a different perspective.

I'm not a single mom at all and when I went back to work part time 7 years ago and my son was 7 I worked hard to have all the backup plans - husband worked more than full time, traveled often/no family around.  I had to put in hours finding backup sitters "in case" arranging for after school once or twice a week, figure out when I could be in person at the office around all of his schedule/appointments.  And this where we actually had almost 2 weeks of low cost childcare as part of insurance for emergencies.  In 7 years I only had to miss one in person meeting because my son was sick and there was no alternative. 

My work is difficult as in a lot of brain work and focused work -can't do brain work easily on no sleep/with a son doing virtual school/home sick etc.  I'm not complaining but just giving you the broader picture.  Sure not everyone has kids - and many adults care for siblings/parents/relatives/other family responsibilities.  I don't have to work so  there's less stress in that way but I want to and I see how good it is for me as a person and for my marriage and family particularly since my child is a teen now.  Good role model! Anyway that's off topic, sorry.

[dias]

Damn, I am floundering  to get back to my routine since I came from Spain. My mind is racing. I am thinking about travels, adventures and new lands. 

I have so many things going on and I need to focus. It is getting busier at work again, I am going to be placed into two projects at the same time, plus I need to prepare a presentation for a technical subject. I did a dry run yesterday to get feedback. Oh man, it would be a big event and I would get noticed but damn I am not exactly excited about it and my manager told me I need to make a cool presentation unlike the other engineers and get people's attention. Easier said than done when we are talking about boring technical stuff. 

Also, I need to keep making YouTube videos. You need to upload consistently if you want YouTube to promote your videos. This is time consuming. At least this is something I enjoy doing because I do it the way I want and it's for me. 

Plus, I have to practice the hip hop choreography religiously if I want to participate in the stage performance in the summer and the dance teacher pushes me a bit (in a good way). I want to do it too because the more familiar you get with stage performances the better you get at presentations for work. I like that something so vastly different can benefit me in other ways too. However, this requires time and dedication as well.

I have already planned two trips in the next few months which I think would be awesome. Another thing I keep forgetting is that I have to see how the heck those procedures for internal transfer to the US work. 

So many things to do so little time. Actually time I have, it's the lack of focus right now which frustrates me. I need to get acclimated back to the routine to become more productive. 

[dias]

On 1/13/2024 at 12:07 PM, mylolita said:

British drinking culture is like a badge of honour

Legendary British dude!!! Hahaha

[mylolita]

13 hours ago, dias said:

Legendary British dude!!! Hahaha

“Conscious at a temperature they shouldn’t be” LMAOOOOOO! 
 

Popped back for a drink! Excellent 🤣

 

The way he gave up his place and they threw in left behind women probably so depressed and distraught wanting to go down with their husbands and saved their lives too? Ahh! Wow. 
 

Are you interested in the Titanic Dias? I’ve watched some amazing interviews with real life survivors. It’s sad and mind blowing and interesting. 
 

x

[mylolita]

 

 

[dias]

Finally a productive day! Did lots of things today. 

On a more depressing subject, I learned that a family acquaintance has late stage cancer and she does not have many months or days left. It's not that I knew her well but this is always sad to hear. I met her a couple of years ago at the beach with her daughter who is about my age. She was perfectly fine back then.  She is my mother's age. Quite young to die. 

We take life for granted until it isn't....I am worried/thinking about my mother when I hear about cancer. All her immediate and extended family members died from cancer. Her brother died at 23 from cancer. 23 years old. Nature plays nasty games sometimes. I pray I won't have to experience this with my parents or brother. I hope I won't have to experience it myself either. I think I would prefer euthanasia, I wouldn't be able to handle it, seeing myself in the condition cancer brings you. 

This is why you really have to live your life the way you want. Everything else is pointless. At least I haven't regretted living my life how I want. I have done plenty of things for my age and I have 1 million more things I want to do in this life. And I will do it all and then some. And more...I am not leaving this planet without doing the things I want. 

 

[mylolita]

Sorry to hear that Dias.

 

My Mum’s cousin Katie died at 24 from breast cancer. 
 

My Mum was so close to her - she was her best friend. My Mum had no other female friends, no other friends at all.

 

The night she met my Dad, her and Katie snuck into a country club when they were 15. It was so young and rare, it took everyone by shock. My Mum said she was so full of life, such amazing fun, and a redhead, as all my Mum’s cousins are and were!

 

You do really have to live. I don’t know if anyone else has these strange and paranoid feelings, but sometimes at random points during the week, I can have a thought like “this could be my last year and I would never know it” or, “if this was my last week, would I have made the most of it?” Or “I hope if I went in the next few years the kids would get over it”. It’s horrible and morbid, I have quite a dreadful fixation on life and death sometimes.

 

I just feel like I know how fast it can whip around, and when our time comes, sometimes we don’t even see it arriving.

 

Sorry, wow, I am putting a morbid downer on a Sunday night! 
 

Back to disco music… 🥲🍸👏

 

x

 

[Batya33]

Dias I'm so sorry.  My cousin and dear friend died from cancer many years ago in her 30s.  It's so hard. I miss her so much still.  I'm sorry.

[dias]

This chick is so freakin cool. Now, this is a girl you marry. 

I have already searched for shooting ranges in Atlanta and Miami. I can't buy all the this cool gear but I think I will buy a cowboy hat this time. 

[mylolita]

3 hours ago, dias said:

This chick is so freakin cool. Now, this is a girl you marry. 

I have already searched for shooting ranges in Atlanta and Miami. I can't buy all the this cool gear but I think I will buy a cowboy hat this time. 

Well ya wouldn’t want to peeve her off that’s for sure! 
 

🤣 

 

What a marks woman!!! Wow!
 

I think you would have really gotten on with my Great Grandfather Dias; the two times world war sniper! I wish he hadn’t passed away when I was 3 weeks old, because there is a lot I would have wanted to ask him. But then again, from what my Mum has told me, he never once spoke about it. A few sentences now and then and all that was left was his diary documenting his fateful tour in France. 
 

x

[dias]

Every time I laugh with Snoop Dogg on this scene at 1:40 regardless if I have seen it a billion times over the last 20 years haha 

"He don't drive a cadillac" "Whatttt?"

 

 

[dias]

On 1/22/2024 at 1:32 PM, mylolita said:

Well ya wouldn’t want to peeve her off that’s for sure! 
 

🤣

Hahahahaha I like playing with fire, I would have taken my chances hahaha

I like cool chicks. I like strong personalities too. There is a practical reason. You don't have to babysit people with strong independent personalities. I don't babysit. Period. 

I can tell you 3 types of gals that would never go for me (the feeling would be mutual):

1)Gals who listen to their friends. Or listen to people in general. Hearing opinions is fine but acting based on what your friends or relatives say show weak personality. It would be a good fit for guys who like "submissive" women which has a few advantages for sure but essentially means babysitting. 

2)Gals who want to change you. The thing I value the most in life is freedom and independence. At first I go with the flow to observe but then I always do my own thing. Period. Although it's a mistake to think that people can be fully controlled even if they have weak personalities. You don't get something for nothing from anyone. 

3)Gals who like to "save". Typical cases you see here on this forum that perfectly fine girls go for the chronically unemployed/drug addict/whatnot and try to save/change him. I guess that is the equivalent of the knight syndrome in women. 

These are the types that would never ever go for me. We wouldn't get past the first 30 seconds on a conversation hahahaha

What's left? Only cool independent chicks who are like the 10% at best. Ah, difficult stats to beat.

On 1/22/2024 at 1:32 PM, mylolita said:

I think you would have really gotten on with my Great Grandfather Dias; the two times world war sniper! I wish he hadn’t passed away when I was 3 weeks old, because there is a lot I would have wanted to ask him. But then again, from what my Mum has told me, he never once spoke about it. A few sentences now and then and all that was left was his diary documenting his fateful tour in France. 

He was in both wars? Wow. He must had a lot of stories to tell if he wanted. The guy sure witnessed things. Two wars! Jeez. How old was he when he died? If he died at 1989 and was in both wars then he must have been at least 90 or thereabouts. From what I know there were cases in the wars when teenagers joined the army.

Shame he missed the woke culture, I am sure he would have appreciated it after fighting in two wars. You would tell him "this is what you fought for, happy now?"

[mylolita]

1 hour ago, dias said:

Hahahahaha I like playing with fire, I would have taken my chances hahaha

I like cool chicks. I like strong personalities too. There is a practical reason. You don't have to babysit people with strong independent personalities. I don't babysit. Period. 

I can tell you 3 types of gals that would never go for me (the feeling would be mutual):

1)Gals who listen to their friends. Or listen to people in general. Hearing opinions is fine but acting based on what your friends or relatives say show weak personality. It would be a good fit for guys who like "submissive" women which has a few advantages for sure but essentially means babysitting. 

2)Gals who want to change you. The thing I value the most in life is freedom and independence. At first I go with the flow to observe but then I always do my own thing. Period. Although it's a mistake to think that people can be fully controlled even if they have weak personalities. You don't get something for nothing from anyone. 

3)Gals who like to "save". Typical cases you see here on this forum that perfectly fine girls go for the chronically unemployed/drug addict/whatnot and try to save/change him. I guess that is the equivalent of the knight syndrome in women. 

These are the types that would never ever go for me. We wouldn't get past the first 30 seconds on a conversation hahahaha

What's left? Only cool independent chicks who are like the 10% at best. Ah, difficult stats to beat.

He was in both wars? Wow. He must had a lot of stories to tell if he wanted. The guy sure witnessed things. Two wars! Jeez. How old was he when he died? If he died at 1989 and was in both wars then he must have been at least 90 or thereabouts. From what I know there were cases in the wars when teenagers joined the army.

Shame he missed the woke culture, I am sure he would have appreciated it after fighting in two wars. You would tell him "this is what you fought for, happy now?"

He lied about his age to get into WW1 - he was 14 and said he was 18! He looked a lot older. Men back then were like whippets with strong jaw lines and well dressed. Men were men when they were 14 or about anyway! 
 

And he died yes, in his 90s, I can’t exactly remember how much into his 90s! I should ask my Mum! My Mum’s side are all pretty long living, even the men. He was slender even up to his death. Great posture, fantastically dressed even in the end my Mum said. Always wore a tie! 
 

He was one of 7 and one of his brothers died, the other had his leg blown off and had a wooden leg the rest of his life. My Mum says, “Uncle Gordon, he swung that leg when he walked!” 
 

And I get your list! I think women can list very similar things. It’s your free spirit and independent mind - you want someone with the same principles and passions! 
 

I once had a guy at college tell me he liked me because “she does her own thing”. That was the highest compliment I could have gotten! He was quite the artistic type actually, is a commercial photographer and artist now, and works in adverts. Was in bands, played the drums. So was my husband actually, a drummer. Always liked the drummers. Never been one for the guitarist or the lead singer 🤣

 

You stuck to your list Dias! 
 

x

[dias]

Random thought:

There is a little girl about 7-8 years old I reckon that the dance teacher put her in the adult class because her school was at the same time with the kids lesson. We were all "wow, ***...the kid is dancing hip hop better than the teacher who has been teaching 25+ years". To be honest, I think even better than most professional dancers I have seen. Even if she sees the steps for the first time she knows how it goes. I guess she "feels" the tune and finds the rhythm naturally without thinking.

When there is talent, it is so obvious, it can't be hidden. For me that I have no talents it's mind boggling when I see naturally gifted people.