How to be a good boyfriend?

[kamurj]

How to be a good boyfriend?

[Jamie425]

Assuming you know to be caring, considerate, affectionate,, compliment more than you criticize. Specific tips.

1. Be nice to her in front of her friends. In case there's a fight, she will be vulnerable and impressionable. You want them on your side.

2. If you want to break up, Break up. Don't be unbearable until she can't take it anymore. If you want her back, you'll have to admit being a jerk or a coward. Do it decently, she'll be sad. The other way? She's like an escaped hostage by the time she leaves.

3. If she wants something like for you to say I love you more, just do it. If she keeps asking, it's important to her and doesn't cost you anything.

4. Set boundaries. If you want to know how to be a good boyfriend, you're probably a good guy. Don't let her take you for granted or settle for less than you're worth.

In ideal relationships, both feel lucky to have the other. Don't settle for less. Best wishes for your future happiness.

[Cherylyn]

I remember how my husband was as a boyfriend.  He had the same characteristics as now.  He was and still is kind, responsible, unselfish, caring, respectful, considerate, well mannered, honorable, moral and all virtues which are equated with class. 

[indea08]

Remain curious, always seek to understand, and learn to love her in her language.

[mylolita]

If you absolutely adore, love, and worship the ground your girlfriend walks on, and want to make her happy - you can’t go that far wrong!

 

I would accept also, that you are both imperfect, and both need work. And you both will mess up, and have arguments, and clash, and disagree. But the main thing is, that you both talk about it, with a view of hearing each other, and working to solve or minimise your issues.

 

You need to be a team, and have both your futures aligned, working together to better yourselves as a couple and as an individual.

 

Have her back, and she should have yours. 
 

Love and amazing relationships aren’t about finding someone who is perfect for you. No one is. And you are also far from perfect. Love is adoring and embracing her imperfections; and loving her despite of them, or even because of them.

 

It’s okay to fight, as long as you don’t go on having the same argument unsolved forever. Be there for her, and she will be there for you.

 

x

[mylolita]

And, if you love her, really love her? Take her off the market. Put a ring on it. Or at least make the gesture and propose.

 

She needs to know you’re not going to leave. She wants to feel secure. 
 

Don’t leave her hanging for marriage if that is what she wants. Your futures, dreams and desires should align in harmony. Or, as much harmony as you can get in a relationship.

 

x

[Batya33]

See loving as giving more than as a feeling. And make it your business to give in a way that works for her. Even if it means giving space.  (And if you bring home a plastic bag from the chain pharmacy and your wife asks if it’s candy but it’s really her birthday card purchased early totally lie and do that sheepish look ….. but also buy her candy. ASAP.  Ok a girl can dream. 

[catfeeder]

On 7/11/2022 at 2:58 PM, kamurj said:

How to be a good boyfriend?

Reciprocate. Accept loving gestures or words with gratitude, and when possible, demonstrate thoughtfulness by expressing some of your own.

Never take a loved one's care for granted. This will keep you in a reciprocal balance that will come to feel natural over time--and it will grow your happiness.