Kcrimsonk Posted January 2, 2020 Share Posted January 2, 2020 So I am an 18 year old guy and there is this 20 year old chick at my workplace thats real cool and just being around her makes me smile. I never done this before but I would really like to get to know her better, so I asked her out, and she used the age excuse. Should I have waited? Or what did I do wrong? First time I've felt like this and I would really like to get closer to her. Link to comment
happyfrank Posted January 2, 2020 Share Posted January 2, 2020 Maybe she likes her job. It's not a good idea mixing business with pleasure. Let's say it doesn't workout. It will make workplace situation very difficult being around each other. It's best to date outside the workplace. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 2, 2020 Share Posted January 2, 2020 It's fine to have crushes but do not ask coworkers out. Leave her alone and read your workplace sexual harassment policy. Date other girls. Go to work to work. It's not a dating app or singles club.So I am an 18 year old guy and there is this 20 year old chick at my workplace thats real cool and just being around her makes me smile. Link to comment
Clio Posted January 2, 2020 Share Posted January 2, 2020 You are approximately the same age so this is not really an age gap problem. Chances are that she is just not that into and/or she doesn't want to mix business with pleasure. Most people think that romance in the workplace is a bad idea and they are right. Link to comment
Andrina Posted January 2, 2020 Share Posted January 2, 2020 Guys usually take longer to mature than women, and especially at the ages you and she are at, those differences can be huge. Take what she says at face value. You took a risk and it didn't pan out. Now you can start devoting your attention elsewhere, and as the others have said, it's better to look outside of the workplace, as most new relationships don't work out for the longterm, and that's especially the case at your young age. You don't want to end up with the awkwardness of seeing an ex every day at work. Also, I'm married and wouldn't want to work with my husband. It's nice to miss each other during the day when apart. Too much togetherness is boring, amongst other negatives, IMO. Link to comment
Cherylyn Posted January 2, 2020 Share Posted January 2, 2020 I agree with others, women mature faster than men. However, age is not always an excuse to decline. She most likely is simply not interested in you and doesn't wish to date guys whom she works with. She prefers to keep her dating life completely separate from her work life. It didn't matter whether or not you waited. You did nothing wrong. Don't take it personally. Move on and ask a non-coworker lady out in the future. Good luck! You will be ok! Link to comment
boltnrun Posted January 2, 2020 Share Posted January 2, 2020 And don't refer to women as "chicks" when you talk to them. Just a helpful tip. Link to comment
smackie9 Posted January 2, 2020 Share Posted January 2, 2020 You didn't do anything wrong...she doesn't want to date a teenager. Looking back, when I was 20, I wouldn't have either. Link to comment
Cherylyn Posted January 2, 2020 Share Posted January 2, 2020 I agree with boltnrun. Women are not baby chickens! Call women ladies and you'll receive more admiration and respect. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 2, 2020 Share Posted January 2, 2020 And don't refer to women as "chicks" when you talk to them. Just a helpful tip. I totally agree. Link to comment
Cherylyn Posted January 3, 2020 Share Posted January 3, 2020 When I was 20 years old, I was not interested in an 18 year old guy. Try being with girls who are 18 years old or 17 years old. You'll have more in common and it's safer to date non-co-workers. Link to comment
SGH Posted January 3, 2020 Share Posted January 3, 2020 Regardless of whether she was honest or not, she gave you a no. You have to respect that and move forward. Don't make it weird at work. Link to comment
catfeeder Posted January 4, 2020 Share Posted January 4, 2020 Most people won't date a coworker from any job that they intend to keep. So find people to date outside of work. Link to comment
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