Helpline said not abuse just incompatible

[Billie28]

You have this completely wrong. I never said my mother had mould . Secondly what do you call red rashes ?then it is allergies. I was there you weren't I have throat closing tightness this isn't not self diagosed but confirmed my allergy specialists. I went to a hotel for other reasons not because of mold. You have no idea of my situation from the way you misquoted stuff I said, stop posting please, this has got out of hand, it just feels like your being mean. I did not ask for this response. Your comments are inappropriate and show you have no standing of my situation.

 

You are changing your story yet AGAIN.

You said you haven’t had an appointment with an allergy specialist yet.

Google “anxiety rash”

 

The only thing that has got out of hand is your ANXIETY.

You don’t need an allergy specialist , You need anxiety meds asap and a psychologist to help you deal with anxiety.

[Annia]

OP, do you have a job or means of supporting yourself or do you depend on your husband financially 100%? Do you have kids? You don't need proof that a relationship is abusive to get out of a toxic relationship. You need to start making a plan to get out. Ask for help from your mother (why doesn't she take you in her house for a few days or helps you?), contact friends if you have them, talk to a divorce attorney, etc. Make an exit plan with the help of the people close to you and professionals/hotline who can help you navigate this.

 

Also, do you live so isolated that you can't get a bus or other means of transportation to get to the doctor or whatever you need to go? You need to be seen by a doctor several times to have a diagnose, once or twice is not enough in most cases. What is keeping you from going to the places you need to go by yourself? Do you have crippling fear/anxiety of going alone to these places by your own means? Not judging, but some people suffer from paralyzing anxiety that prevents them from doing even the most "simple" things like going out the house or take public transports.

[boltnrun]

OP, in your other thread you said you were "on the dole". Are you still? Is that why you won't leave, because you have no dependable income (other than what the government provides)?

[maew]

OP you need to be independent and learn to function on your own if you want to get out of this relationship. Relying on him in any way is only going leave you disappointed and frustrated, unable to see a way out of your situation.

 

Whether you have allergies, anxiety, stress, etc... you need to be more diligent about finding ways to get where you need to go, to advocate for yourself, to see a doctor consistently. Many people manage to function just fine in the world without leaning on others for help.... it takes more effort but where there is a will there is a way.

 

And by the way, opening the windows to treat throat closing for an allergic reaction? Sure way to get yourself killed. Next time go to the hospital for some epinephrine. Also... rash does not = allergy. It can also be a result of stress and anxiety.