Confused8p Posted April 16, 2019 Share Posted April 16, 2019 So here is some background. I grew up in a domestic abuse household where we had to grow up quick to try and protect my mom from getting beat and then from us getting beat by both my parents. I am the middle child and have a constant need to please everyone. I have worked really hard to become successful and so became a medical professional opened my clinic I the last month. Have a relationship for the last 16 yrs with an amazing man who’s life is very normal and calm. My older sister isn’t married but she has been on a hunt to find anyone to marry in the last few years going from guy to guy and wanting to marry every one. I got engaged two years ago and postponed my wedding to help make money so that I could pay for it. Fast forward to today and I’m two months away from getting married to a good man, building a home for us, openedmy own clinic and excited to be getting married. My sister recently started dating someone about a year and half ago and she wanted to get married. She hid this guy because he’s nothing she was looking for and all of a sudden brought him in and I found out he’s going to propose. Anyways he got together with me and my brother where he told us my sister is pushing him to propose before my wedding and she has already started planning her wedding to be fewmonths after mine so he feels he has to do not to disappoint her. We advised him to not just do it because my sister but do it because he wants to right now as well. He spoke to my sister and she demanded a proposal so he proposed over the weekend. He didn’t tel us but as soon as we found out my brother and I got balloons a banner and flowers for her to be ready when she called us. She didn’t cal my brother and I but only called my parents and then the next day, my sister and parents and his parents all got together for the first time. They are now demanding that I have to invite her in laws everywhere and said if I don’t they want me to cancel the pre wedding events held at my parents houseas they don’t want it if they can’t call my sisters in-laws. I feel hurt and betrayed that they didn’t tell us firstly and then went to get together with the other family without us bug demanding things from me. I also found out that her fiancé now has been complaining about my brother and I and causing a rift between my family and I. What should I do? My family are the type to berate me in front of my in-laws for my sister as they’ve always had a soft spot for her as she was the first born and they didn’t have marital problems during her time but only after I was born. I’m feeling helpless as I feel like I don’t want her in laws there nor her fiancé because of all that he has caused but I also know if they’re there my parents will be wanting them to be everywhere in the front the whole time and it won’t be about what I want anymore. By the way they’re not paying anything I have paid for everyone’s outfits and everything (Over 6000 in clothes ) the only thing they were doing is allowing me to have one of my pre event ceremonies at home. Any advice? My father has threatened to throw my clothes out including my wedding outfits but I can’t go home as I know it will only get worse. Link to comment
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