jonRock Posted March 7, 2018 Share Posted March 7, 2018 Hello, this is my first message on this forum. I really need some advice from people that know a lot about relationships. I am currently in a somewhat long-term relationship (10 months) with a girl that I love. (Where should I begin.) Ok. So I'll start with this since it pertains to the topic at hand. We broke up for a month after dating for 6 months. During that time we were broken up, she had slept with a guy (multiple times) who she claimed was just her friend before we broke up. She would bring him around me and hang out with him. She dumped me because I wasn't "affectionate" enough, and she said she started having feelings for this "friend." She claims that she can only have guy friends because she doesn't get along with girls because they hate her. The only problem is that she has slept with so many of her guy friends in the past. Now we are living together and have a child on the way. This is extremely ****ed up, but there is a slight possibility that the baby is not mine and actually her friend's that she slept with during the time we were broken up. So that is where I'm at right now. She claims that she is loyal, but she cheated on the last person she dated before me. Now, ever since we've been dating she constantly texts and private facebook messages her single, straight guy friends. At first I had trusted her, but after what happened when we were broken up I'm having a hard time. She never even told me that she had slept with him until I questioned paternity after finding out the possible date of conception. She just said that she thought I already knew that she slept with him. So naturally I told her to completely erase that "friend" from her life (his phone number from her contacts and delete him from all forms of social media) if she wanted to be with me, and she did, but she argued about it at first. So this is why I have a problem with her constantly talking to her guy friends behind my back. She literally talks to her guy friends all throughout the day and even late into the night sometimes. I had told her that she needs to stop this because I feel it's not right, but she keeps doing this. She usually turns her phone away from me when she talks to them, and when I ask politely who she's talking to she gets really mad and defensive, and she says something like "why? do you think I'm cheating on you." And I'm just like, "No! you just literally talk to a bunch of people I don't know all throughout the day every day, and you never tell me what you're talking about or who you're talking to." She still even talks to guys she has dated in the past! She also still wants to hang out with friends that she has slept with in the past! Just tonight I asked her who she was talking to because she was turning the phone away from me as she was talking, and she got extremely defensive and actually hit me in the face. She was talking to some straight, single guy as usual. I've only ever asked who she was talking to a few times in our relationship because she never tells me. I am so good to her. I am extremely kind, and I do everything she asks of me and then some. I am even much more affectionate now. I constantly clean for her. I do the dishes, laundry, clean the restrooms, etc. And she barely does anything. I just can't take this! It's literally driving me crazy. I need real personal advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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