11moreweeks Posted March 5, 2018 Share Posted March 5, 2018 I'm trying to recover from a pretty devastating breakup with someone I had been planning to propose to for a couple years after 8 years of dating her. She ended up leaving me for someone else she met last Fall after starting an emotional affair with him during a hard part of my life, and she also had an emotional affair with someone else in the first 6 months of our relationship during another hard part of my life. Where I have been hardworking and am about to get my degree, she was truly doing nothing with her life and was setting herself up for money & lifestyle trouble. A huge part of my motivation for wanting to propose to her, and for working so hard, was to ensure she'd have healthcare after she'd no longer be able to be on her parents' health insurance. I'd wanted to be there for her financially to ensure she'd never have to experience some of the things I'd already experienced (and never want to experience again). I've been trying to tell myself that I've dodged a bullet and/or that reconciliation with my ex would be setting myself in front of a firing squad. The last thing I want is to marry someone who'd have an affair while something was stressing me out (or if I was just busy working too hard to be emotionally available for a time period) only to end up having a financially ruinous divorce because of a fiscally one-sided relationship. I'd been reading the initial pages of bwknight's thread a bit and saw some parallels there. Other people mentioned that there are many similar stories. Reading the thread and how these things can pan out was helping me get over my ex, so I'd like to find more stories (and compile them) if any of you can provide me with them. Divorces: bwknight - https://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=540327 Link to comment
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