tanya53 Posted January 22, 2018 Share Posted January 22, 2018 My mother is 61 years old. She likes being on her own. Presence of friends or relatives at home will make her uncomfortable. I don't stay with her but visit her on holidays. She stays at her house and often visits my sister who lives in a different city. My father passed away 3 years ago and she lives on her own. My grandma and my aunts visit her often as they also live nearby. I don't want to label her as spoil spot but I've noticed a pattern that during festivals and when the family house is with relatives she becomes grumpy and upset for very small things and creates a big issue out of any small things and sends people away. My granma visits her and she is ok for 2 days and the third day she will start picking up on some small things and send her away to her home and this has become a pattern. My grandma is just tolerant because it is her daughter so doesn't take it personally. This time I came to visit her, we were having a good time with family and in-laws and first 3 days was good but the fourth day she started picking up on a very small things my sister did and started looking grumpy. My sister and my mom had a small argument over a cooking recipe and something as trivial as that had upset her and she spoilt the fun of a holiday totally. She made everyone worry and ask her what was wrong but dint tell the real reason until we begged. 6th day she started crying a lot and started complaining that as daughters me and my sister do not respect her etc.. We are clueless in fact my sister and I have our own issues with our marriages and jobs and we feel our mother is introducing more drama to it. I am scared to think if she has any serious issue with the way she is thinking (imaginations). Now she is planning to buy a new house for herself which is far away from the city. We have advised her many times that it is not a good idea to stay alone far away from the city because it wont be convenient for many things as she doesn't know driving. But she is adamant that she wants to buy this house. My sister and I are not that financially sound that we can afford a house for ourselves, we are only renting but my mom is in her own house which is big and now she wants to move to an apartment away from the city. Is this something we can get professional help for? the problem is she WONT get out of the house to a counsellor or anyone as she thinks nothing is wrong with her. I am helpless :( Note: she has been always like that but things has gotten a bit worse after death of my father. Relationship between my parents hasn't been so great either. They always had problems. Link to comment
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