scubagirl72 Posted January 19, 2018 Share Posted January 19, 2018 I am 45 years old and have been seeing my 61 year old boyfriend for 5 years. He has been a private naturist since I've known him (enjoys doing anything he can in the nude as long as there were no guest or children) and has encouraged me to be the same. Unfortunately, I just can't wrap my head around it and am not comfortable being nude unless I am bathing or being intimate. Last winter he went away with a couple who are naturists to a naturist resort for a week. I was uncomfortable with the idea, but read many articles about these resorts and naturism and was able to convince myself that it was ok. He is wonderful to me and a great person so the positives outweighed this difference in comfort levels. He has recently hired a new 22 year old employee that is the grand daughter of friends of his. She is your typical 22 year old that posts on instagram a dozen times a day. Pouty selfies with lots of cleavage, bum and legs... I'm already dealing with the insecurities of an aging womanly figure, but am able to get over myself and realise that I'm being silly having this upset me. She lives with her grandparents and often invites him over to eat with them all. She has also gone out of her way to bring him food that she has cooked for him and has told him that she wants to meet a guy just like her papa (grandpa) to spend her life with. (Does that mean she wants a much older guy?!?) This is starting to make me feel a little uncomfortable but realise that it is probably just my own insecurities coming out again. I just found out that he is planning a vacation with his new employee and her grandparents next month. Fair enough, he's been friends with the grandparents for ever and has known this girl since she was young (she was in school with his daughter). The kicker is that they are naturists... He'll be spending a week buck naked with the 22 year old new employee. I am not feeling at all comfortable with this situation and now wonder if they are all nude together when he goes to their home for dinner, to drop off a paycheque, etc... I'm trying to feel ok with this, he insists that it's not a sexual thing, but I am really struggling, it makes me feel sick. He is so kind and good to me, I'll probably never find another quite like him, but I'm afraid that this is too big a difference in values to get over and I'm afraid I have to end this relationship. He has said that he would cancel the trip because he doesn't want to lose me, but my fear is that this situation can't be avoided forever... He visits their home, they have a pool, a hot tub. If it hasn't already happened, he will spend time with her naked. I have caught him in a lie in the past (lied about spending time with an ex girlfriend) and my trust is a little broken. And now I'm afraid that he will just lie about situations that may arise to save my feelings. Is it appropriate for him to spend naked time with his employee? Am I overreacting? Link to comment
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