Tryingit Posted January 31, 2018 Author Share Posted January 31, 2018 You can turn that around and decide that being respected begins and ends with yourself and I think you handled your part perfectly. Kudos. I don't think he disrespected you in any way. You were a willing participant in something that was not yet defined and with someone you didn't yet know. He was honest about his limitations and yes, somewhat intimidated. OK. . the timing sucked, imagining him saying all those things while crawling out of your bed. Choose to be thankful you didn't become more attached to someone so mismatched and that unavailable. By being respected or respectful you flush out mismatches much sooner. The alternative is he could have kept it to himself and carried on much longer, right? Choose at look at this as a success, not a failure. Next time be leery of the intensity you described. It blinds you to paying attention to important clues. You alluded to some of them if you were to go back and reread your own previous post. It's ok . .We've all done it. We'll do better next time. I don't think you've heard the last of him bytheway. I definitely agree with you. I don't think he did anything wrong nor I. I didn't feel disrespected or done wrong, and I don't think he did either. It was a very enjoyable two months and an amicable parting. Just sucks because it was awesome, but like you said, you can't go on being awesome together and just get more attached and eventually hurt much more. I think he's a good guy and he could have def dragged me along much much longer, but didn't out of "respect" (his words). I'm unfortunately very drawn to the passion and charm of instantly intense relationships. It is definitely the way to my heart. But after reading the posts on here, apparently it's a red flag (?) I don't know. I've always taken the sparse and un-focused attention guy at the beginning to be too disinterested, and I lose interest in him as a result. It's all just so confusing. Link to comment
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