Gingerygnetum Posted January 13, 2018 Share Posted January 13, 2018 We broke up 40-50 days ago, and on NC for 20 days. I kind of slightly lashed out(nothing abusive, just pointed out that she was selfish for breaking up.) the last time i talked to her. so her Birthday is around the corner, should i send a text or not? I have mixed feeling, i feel i finally moved on but there are moments i just want her beside. I'm not sure if she would Reply with a cold shoulder or be glad i texted. Any ideas? should i do it or not. Link to comment
milly007 Posted January 13, 2018 Share Posted January 13, 2018 You're no longer together. You say you finally moved on. No point in opening old wounds. Don't text. Continue NC. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 13, 2018 Share Posted January 13, 2018 No. Are you trying to get her back or just low and lonely about a breakup in general? How long were you dating? What was the breakup about? Link to comment
Gingerygnetum Posted January 13, 2018 Author Share Posted January 13, 2018 Yes, I'm low and lonely. But i have bigger goals. Studying for my masters entrances. I don't really know if i want her back or not. It was more of a infatuation than a romantic relationship. we went out for 3 months only. But i gave my 100%, which i shouldn't have. She broke off because she didn't want to be in a relationship and wanted to be single. She either played me or she reasonably wanted to be single. I have seen her hanging out with lots of guys after the breakup. It was torture in the beginning but i don't really care now. BUT THIS DILEMMA IS KILLING ME. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 13, 2018 Share Posted January 13, 2018 At 3 mos in it just didn't work out for whatever reason. Let go and find a more interested, compatible girl. She didn't play you, she just didn't want to continue dating.Ywe went out for 3 months only. She broke off because she didn't want to be in a relationship and wanted to be single. Link to comment
Birdie Posted January 13, 2018 Share Posted January 13, 2018 This isn’t a dilemma, there’s a very clear answer. Don’t text her. You’re going to do nothing but set yourself back. Link to comment
SweetGirl28 Posted January 13, 2018 Share Posted January 13, 2018 No. It was a short relationship and she made her feelings clear. You don't owe her anything, find a girl that's worth your time. Birthdays and holidays should not be an excuse to contact. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted January 13, 2018 Share Posted January 13, 2018 If you "don't really care" this "dilemma" wouldn't be "killing" you. If you feel that strongly then contacting her would be a really, really bad idea. Link to comment
Starlight925 Posted January 13, 2018 Share Posted January 13, 2018 If I only had a nickel for every “Should I send a Happy Birthday text to my ex?” No, that’s part of breaking up. Link to comment
abitbroken Posted January 13, 2018 Share Posted January 13, 2018 noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo Link to comment
abitbroken Posted January 13, 2018 Share Posted January 13, 2018 If I only had a nickel for every “Should I send a Happy Birthday text to my ex?” No, that’s part of breaking up. I wish it was a message at the top of the forum like a FAQ "if you are thinking about wishing your ex a happy birthday..." Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted January 13, 2018 Share Posted January 13, 2018 NO. Bad, bad, bad idea. It's over and done with. No point in sending birthday messages. She's an EX. No longer interested in you. That should be enough reason not to. Link to comment
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