Stargazed88 Posted July 13, 2017 Share Posted July 13, 2017 For the sake of anonymity we will call the couple Jayke and Kathy (or "Jathy" for those of you who love naming couples). Jayke and Kathy will have been together for 5 years in August. They have had their moments, small arguments here and there, but for the moat part their relationship has been fairly full of bliss. Just after taking a vacation marking their 2nd year anniversary Kathy became pregnant and they now have an almost 2 year old son. They have been a pretty rare couple as far as fighting, arguments, jealousy, or infidelity goes, as it has been non-existent. Here recently they have both started new jobs and have had some financial issues that go along with that. They have also recently become engaged as well. Its been these past 6 months that most of the arguments and issues have been arising. Jake has been complaining to his buddies that their once bountiful sex life that was usually 2-3 times a week has turned into 2-3 times a month. And the times that they do get intimate it seems like Jayke is always the initiator and has to "talk" Kathy into it. When he asked her what's different or wrong, she says that her new hours at work have her extremely tired and that she just has "no drive" towards sex in general. She also said that she felt like her hormones were out of whack so she went back on birth control. It was never an issue before but seems to be pretty prevelant now. It has Jayke wondering if he still makes Kathy "tick" or if she may be leaning back towards her bi-sexual side. Its been enough of an argument and fight that Kathy got tired of Jayke asking for sex that she proposed a "once a week" sex night. Jayke isn't to ask for it any other night and she has to "try to turn on her switch" that night as well. Its been almost 2 months now and their weekly ritual has only happened 4 times. It truly has Jayke wondering if this is how their future looks does he really want to feel shot down and denied every time he tries to become intimate with his fiance. I'm not an expert so I can't help him too much. All I could say is "it'll work itself out bro, every other part of your relationship is good, right?" And he says yeah. So can anyone with any KNOWLEDGE or EXPERTISE give some insight or advice on how to help or what to say? I asked if he haa been taking on more of a lead with their son, cleaning the house, making dinner, doing the laundry, helping out in any possible way he can to help her become more relaxed and use her energy towards "them" and he says yes, but it doesn't seem to make much of a difference. I think deep down he thinks that their time may have passed, that possibly he's not the same man she was once crazy in love with and head over heels for. That maybe their happiest days are behind them. Link to comment
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