Darlington Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 Hello folks, I need some of your wisdom: So I started chatting to a guy online about 3 months ago. We seemed to get on well and we're in touch on a weekly basis. He takes longer than I'm used to to write back, but he always follows up with an apology for the delay and an explanation. He asked me to meet up in his first message to me and although I agreed, due to the length of time it took to hear back from him the set date crept up quickly without us having spent enough chatting (I'm a survivor of stalking so cautious about meeting someone in person too soon). I ended up cancelling the first date and explained I would like to have got to know him a bit better before meeting in person. I didn't expect to hear from him again as some might say I was a bit lame...but it was important to me. Anyway I got a message back almost immediately with apologies about the slow responses and that he would still like to meet up in future. From then on, he was in contact more regularly and we eventually set another date and met up about 3 weeks ago for the first time. We got on really well in person, laughed the whole time and seemed to enjoy each other company. Following the date I didn't hear from him until a week later. I sent a message 4 days after the date to say I had a good time and would like to meet up again. He eventually responded (apologising/explaining delay) saying he had fun too and would also like to hang out again and we proceeded to set up another date. Here is where I get confused about his level of interest. Most of our communication happens via email. When I ask conversational questions he ignores them. I tried texting and asking if he was up for a call but that got shot down (no response and then a txt the following day apologising and saying he had been busy...but no offer to call). Since then I've taken my foot of the gas...kinda feel like I'm the only one pushing this. We're due to meet again next week but I'm wondering whether to call it quits now and cancel. I do like him, but we live 2hrs a part and both travel 1hr halfway to meet up so I'd potentially be putting in a lot of effort for someone who is just meh about me. He says he is busy and I believe him but so is everyone. He has my number but isn't using it....it takes 2 seconds to send a "hi, how are you" text. Also because of the distance it's difficult to meet often enough in person, so I'm struggling to understand how else We're supposed to get to know each other if communication isn't maintained. Last heard from him almost a week ago - he was asking which areas we should meet in next week. Experience and the silence tell me 'he's just not that into you', but don't know if I've read this wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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