Crj84 Posted May 26, 2017 Share Posted May 26, 2017 Some history before I jump in.. I am 33 and wife is 30. We have been married 4 years and together for almost 8. We have 2 young children. About 4 weeks ago I was headed out to meet a buddy of mine after the kids we taken care of and asleep. As usual I could not locate my phone and my wife was in the shower so I grabbed her phone so I could call mine to locate it. So, as I pick up her phone and turn it on the screen is on a text message thread with another mom friends in which she has a close relationship with. Ive never had reason to distrust my wife so I was taken by surprise that they were talking about a guy from the gym (she had just gotten home from the gym and she was texting her friend about this guy the whole time she was there). So I read the thread in its entirety and it was obvious my wife has the hots for this guy and the messages suggested that my wife and her friend, next time they were at the gym, would approach this guy, sorta like being my wife's wing girl. It was obvious that although my wife has had an eye on him, they had never spoken. His visual interest in her was unknown. Additionally, it was kind of bothering me the whole time I was hanging out with my buddy so I logged into her FB account, again I've never had suspicions until early that night regarding any form of cheating. Turns out she private messaged him. The message was- 👀, that's it. He did not return the message before I had confronted her regarding this, which in hindsight was the wrong move, I think I should of waited it out to see if there was further messaging. In short, my wife said she was unsure of why she. Private messaged him and also indicated that he was way out of her "league" and knew he would not reply. Something along the lines of " guys like that (muscles on muscles gym guy) don't want girls like me ( post baby body, although I love it) What do you all think of this? Would you all consider this infidelity, at least a first step to it? As of today I am torn by this and feel anxious and unfocused, not sleeping while the first few weeks after I was able to deal with it. Sorry for the book Link to comment
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