msmd17 Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 I have been really confused and through a lot of emotions about a certain situation and really want to work it out. Last year I was living in South America for about 4 1/2 months and towards the end I met someone I really clicked with immediately. I have to say we are both adults and it was the first time a guy has ever asked me out on like a real, mature adult date. We are four years apart and in retrospect I may have come across as a little immature. Anyway I really liked him and my Spanish is pretty decent, but he speaks very little english(almost none). Anyway I felt a really intense feeling of security with him that I've never experienced with anyone else ever in my life and it had a really psychological impact on me that made me feel really attached to him. Anyway I had a really amazing time with him. I have never felt like that with anyone it was like being high. (Not on drugs..but like being in a dream. I don't know how else to describe it). Anyway he basically dumped me after the date, he tried to "let me down easy" I guess and he promised we would see each other the next day and I was really kind of blindsided because it was like being on this whirlwind of amazing emotions and then just being dumped with no explanation. I am trying to tell the story quickly...there are some details I will leave out to summarize. Anyway I got his information and searched him on Facebook and found out he was married and was completely shocked. Like I have never been so shocked in my life. (I went out with him and two of his coworkers, one who was married and the other who had a girlfriend and he basically made it a point that he was the single one and even made fun of his friend for being on the phone with his gf the whole night). Him and his friends left a few days later(they were in town for work). When I saw his Facebook I didn't do anything and basically accepted it as over because he looked so happy with his wife. They have been married since 2009 and they have two kids about ages 3 and 5 which is also really shocking because he is really pretty young and that means he got married really young. Anyway I got back to the US about a month later and couldn't stop thinking about him so I sent him a friend request and a short note just saying hi. I got a notification that he accepted my request and got a reply that he had written in English that made no sense. Despite the notification that he accepted my friend request our "status" never changed to friends. I wasn't sure what that meant, and I was really busy and despite the bad English his message seemed really curt so I didn't try talking to him again. Then about 6 months later I was thinking about him all the time and was sure that I was completely in love with him so I tried again. This time he flat out ignored me and I read on a relationship advice site that if a guy doesn't want to talk to you not to pressure him and to wait at least 30 days before trying to talk to him again. So I waited 30 days and when I tried to write him again I found out he had blocked me. I was really hurt and got really depressed and eventually blocked him back. I unblocked him and noticed he'd also unblocked me, but I've since blocked him again. Anyway, I don't want to sound stubborn or in denial but I REALLY don't want to let go. Please don't be too harsh. I tried to explain it as briefly as possible but I did leave some things out. I feel really nervous and knots in my stomach posting this. Link to comment
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