kjt2017 Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 My boyfriend of 11 months and I are amazing together. I know I could never find another man like him. He is all I want and need. There is just one problem- his parents, more so, his father. The first day I met his father, his dad said, "We all know this is just puppy love. You guys might not make it. But nice to meet you." From that moment my life has been hell. His father says all the worst things he could. When I got my first tattoo, his dad sat me down and told me how I will never get a job and that my opinion is wrong and it's "just the real world, so get used to it." My tattoo is of music notes, which represent how through suicidal times, music helped me. At the end of his dad's rant, he sarcastically said "I don't get it. You're a musician. Congratulations." He's also told me that I need to learn to "shut up" and not argue with people by just not speaking. He's very old fashioned so also, in his mind, I am "a woman, and should know to go straight to a full sink and fix it." My boyfriends father is also a raging alcoholic. He calls my boyfriend ugly, tells him his beard will prevent him from getting a job, etc. His dad is very concerned with work and not good mental health. My boyfriend is 17, and I'm 16. He is continuously taking my boyfriend who works 20 hours a week's money to pay for car repair parts even though he has the money. Last night at dinner, his dad was telling me that I should get a job again (I quit at McDonald's because of the terrible treatment I received) and that all I have to do is "shut the up and do whatever they say." He then told me to say "yes" and then said "did that really hurt?" My boyfriend cries at least 4 times a week because of the way this man treats him. I'm at the point where I cannot go over there or I will call his dad many not-nice things and not be allowed to see him. I've asked my boyfriend if he wants to stay in contact with his father in the future, more importantly, let our future children around his father. He replied yes. I'm concerned because I want my daughter to know that she is more than an accessory to men. My boyfriend's father tells my boyfriend to keep me under control and be the man of the house, but I want my future daughter to know that she should aim to share the household, not be under superior rule. I want my daughter to know that she is more than barbies, she is more than the color pink, she is more than chores and being silent at a man's command. I want her to know that she doesn't need to learn to "shut the up" every time she is treated terribly. I also don't want to be treated terribly in the future. My boyfriend is too afraid to stick up for me because of his dad's alcoholism, but if I stick up for myself, his dad messes with his brain by saying I'm controlling his mind and brainwashing him to hate his parents. This man is the love of my life and I know I'm only 16, but I've been raped, emotionally abused, and just treated terribly by men. This man is the one. His parents just make it so hard to imagine a future together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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