abitbroken Posted February 15, 2017 Share Posted February 15, 2017 I felt confused why he asked me (after a year after I refused) instead of someone else Because he just wants sex. No one else will give it to him. He hopes to try again. IF you would not have sex last year, do not have sex now. tell him to go away. Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted February 15, 2017 Author Share Posted February 15, 2017 Thank you If I would be sure to trust him I would like to Link to comment
abitbroken Posted February 16, 2017 Share Posted February 16, 2017 Thank you If I would be sure to trust him I would like to You cannot trust him. He only wants sex. Don't trust him, Find a man who wants to get to know you through conversation and does not want to have sex right away - a man who wants a meaningful relationship. This guy found you again to see if you would have sex. Link to comment
spandora Posted February 16, 2017 Share Posted February 16, 2017 You were in love with him after the 2nd date?? oh honey, no.. Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted February 16, 2017 Author Share Posted February 16, 2017 After the first, in fact Link to comment
boltnrun Posted February 17, 2017 Share Posted February 17, 2017 You're not in love. You just think you have to be because you had unprotected sex with him. And in your mind, being "in love" justifies the unprotected sex. Best thing is to get tested for STDs and do not ever again allow unprotected sex until and unless you are in a committed love relationship with a man who agrees you two are committed. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted February 17, 2017 Share Posted February 17, 2017 After the first, in fact Wait, you had one date with this guy a YEAR ago and are in love with him? Then a second date one whole year later?? Am I the only one completely confused here? Nothing makes sense here. Link to comment
intheferns Posted February 19, 2017 Share Posted February 19, 2017 Belgian, do you think if you give him what he wants that he will love you? His actions do not say love, or even respect. You are falling all over yourself to give him what he wants when he puts very little effort into fostering any kind of relationship with you. He can't even be bothered to maintain regular contact, yet you want to expose yourself to a TON of risk both with STDs and pregnancy. You don't know this man at all. He called you after a year because he hit a dry spell and is pinging his contacts looking for sex. You should have told him to kick rocks because you value yourself more than to be a backup hookup. Giving him the unprotected sex he wants will not make him love you. He's out on the prowl, as soon as a more convenient opportunity presents herself he will likely disappear again. Link to comment
Tick Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 Hehe SEX and pleasure are the only thing this guy want from you. His head must be hit so hard that he all of the sudden falls in love with you Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted February 20, 2017 Author Share Posted February 20, 2017 Only protected happened, second date Link to comment
Dahl Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 You.. You mean in the past, right?.. Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted February 25, 2017 Author Share Posted February 25, 2017 Thanks all for the good suggestions. Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted February 25, 2017 Author Share Posted February 25, 2017 I don't understand the question Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted February 25, 2017 Author Share Posted February 25, 2017 I do feel a bit hurried because of my age Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted February 25, 2017 Author Share Posted February 25, 2017 I guess it's the oxytocin land my religion which makers me deel in live ans I agree with your wise wordt He said by the way/agreed tot be willing to do std test and said he had done that before first meeting Hello, Belgian. Normally, I would not post in a thread that is so thoroughly well answered, but your seeming persistence in pursuing further interaction with this chap makes me awfully concerned for you. The replies you've received are just, unequivocally, dead bang on point. Fortuitously, the above posters are among the top shelf members that I have thus far encountered, and I dearly hope you'll go back over their feedback and concern for your questions and your situation with an open mind. And then go back over it, again. Particularly with an eye to how the information affects you, and you alone, independent of this fellow or any other. Please recognize that the unifying theme in these posts to you has been about *you* and what is in *your* best interests. Please further note that the fellow at the crux of your present turmoil is not, himself, seemingly concerned in the slightest with the same - you and your best interests. Most critically, please be willing to follow the forum's lead and put yourself front and center in your own intelligent, informed and proactive care and attention. You deserve to be safe and secure and you are the best and often only advocate you can rely on to make sure this is a genuine priority in your life. Whatever this fellow is thinking, whyever he might be thinking it, he is certainly not demonstrating any appreciable consideration, care or respect for you. My profound suggestion is to stop thinking about him. Start thinking of yourself and what you truly want and need, and do not settle for less. You have the right and the privilege to remove any influence from him, and place it on yourself and your well-being, mind, heart and body. You are worth it. So please, please do. I wish you luck, regardless your decision. You deserve much better treatment than this fellow is giving you and I urgently hope you gift it to yourself. Link to comment
Dahl Posted February 25, 2017 Share Posted February 25, 2017 I guess it's the oxytocin land my religion which makers me deel in live ans I agree with your wise wordt He said by the way/agreed tot be willing to do std test and said he had done that before first meeting Good on you for sticking up for yourself! I'm relieved that he responded reasonably. Keep being your own champion. I hope you will keep the forum updated. I wish you good luck, Belgian. Cheers. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted February 25, 2017 Share Posted February 25, 2017 He said he was tested before your first meeting. But wasn't that a YEAR ago? Those tests could be totally invalid now. Especially if he engages in unprotected sex (like he's trying to do with you). And your "age" doesn't mean you have to try to convince yourself you're "in love" with a man. You don't just latch onto the first man who gives you attention because you're getting older. It's better to hold out for a quality man who truly wants to be a partner with you, not some man who contacts you once a year for sex. Link to comment
Dahl Posted February 25, 2017 Share Posted February 25, 2017 Belgian, did he agree to do an STD/STI test series *now*? Boltnrun makes excellent points and I am concerned that I may have misread / misunderstood you. Link to comment
abitbroken Posted February 25, 2017 Share Posted February 25, 2017 Please don't sleep with this idiot. He just came back to you to have sex. Its not a loving relationship. Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted March 2, 2017 Author Share Posted March 2, 2017 @dahl i think the reason he had been online day and nicht and as paid member at datingsite he found me back in order to make the 2nd apointment we have had.. Has (at least) been the result of my response to one of his text messages he sent during his way back home. He texted for example 'I don't know yet when I will be back.' and 'Only meet up with me .' I explained the strange thing about the plans seems to me to be is our final goals aren't exactly the same and i'm against abortion Yesterday i texted him 'I think it is always wrong to make yourself pregnant secretly as a woman' Haven't noticed him online since then Link to comment
Dahl Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 @dahl i think the reason he had been online day and nicht and as paid member at datingsite he found me back in order to make the 2nd apointment we have had.. Has (at least) been the result of my response to one of his text messages he sent during his way back home. He texted for example 'I don't know yet when I will be back.' and 'Only meet up with me .' I explained the strange thing about the plans seems to me to be is our final goals aren't exactly the same and i'm against abortion Yesterday i texted him 'I think it is always wrong to make yourself pregnant secretly as a woman' Haven't noticed him online since then Eep. What do you think this means, Belgian? Or has he done anything similar in the past? You deserve so much more! Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted March 2, 2017 Author Share Posted March 2, 2017 Thanks I felt very much in love Link to comment
Dahl Posted March 2, 2017 Share Posted March 2, 2017 I'm sorry that he's turned out to be so disappointing. If I had a magic wand, I'd loan it to you, Belgian! Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted March 2, 2017 Author Share Posted March 2, 2017 That he is a liar giving the impression we both wait while he tries to take every chance to swing around. Not sure if you mean the same. Eep. What do you think this means, Belgian? Or has he done anything similar in the past? You deserve so much more! Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted March 3, 2017 Author Share Posted March 3, 2017 Anyway i am going to get myself 2nd vaccin Gardasil 8-) Link to comment
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