Lotusavx Posted January 1, 2017 Share Posted January 1, 2017 I had my first fight with my boyfriend of almost 2 months last night, of all nights new years eve. It ended up being a terrible night. During the fight, he said that I need to show him respect. I was not disrespecting him, but just calmly communicating. He told me that he deserves more respect than me during a fight, and I have to be subservient and subordinate towards him especially in his house. I understand you have to show respect to people, but my argument to him was that we both deserve the same amount of respect. Everything was great until this fight, where I got to see his true colours. On top of it all, I hate that I rang in the year with negativity. I don't know what to do. Link to comment
mustlovedogs Posted January 1, 2017 Share Posted January 1, 2017 Ugh. Gross. He expects you to be subordinate to him. END THIS. That is disgusting. And it'll only get worse. Link to comment
j.man Posted January 1, 2017 Share Posted January 1, 2017 What was the fight about? A whole lot of context is missing. Did he actually use the words "subservient" and "subordinate?" Definitely wouldn't be a fan of him throwing words like that out there and would encourage you to exit stage right if he did. But if you're simply reflecting on your perception of his sentiment, I do believe in treating other people's homes with more respect than your own and, ultimately, what they say goes (barring the obvious extremes). You don't have to like it or stick around. Link to comment
Lotusavx Posted January 1, 2017 Author Share Posted January 1, 2017 Understandable. He did start the fight. He said some rude stuff to me, granted, I did get defensive which probably didn't help Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 1, 2017 Share Posted January 1, 2017 I would be gone right there . Buh bye. Link to comment
j.man Posted January 1, 2017 Share Posted January 1, 2017 Understandable. He did start the fight. He said some rude stuff to me, granted, I did get defensive which probably didn't helpMind giving us actual concrete details? Link to comment
Scoe141 Posted January 1, 2017 Share Posted January 1, 2017 Could be a case of incompatibility. 2 months is still early on in the honeymoon phase. If this is how it starts out, chances are it's going to be a toxic relationship. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 1, 2017 Share Posted January 1, 2017 "be subservient and subordinate towards him" This is all you need to know. You should be done! Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted January 1, 2017 Share Posted January 1, 2017 This is all too vague to make a judgement. Link to comment
BrokenGator Posted January 2, 2017 Share Posted January 2, 2017 What were the actual words he used? And what triggered that reaction from him? Link to comment
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