Being used??

[HeartGoesOn]

Ya well I should of just asked straight up before sleeping with him that seems to be my problem I am too scared to ask what the other person is looking for

 

To each their own, but I would find it much easier to ask a person what they're looking for, as opposed to getting naked and giving a near stranger access to my body.

 

OP, Are you afraid that you have nothing else to offer him?

[reinventmyself]

I've said it before and I'll say it again. Why, why is it so hard to ask someone what it is they are looking for, but yet easy to get naked with a stranger and swap bodily fluids w them?

[Blue Spiral]

I've said it before and I'll say it again. Why, why is it so hard to ask someone what it is they are looking for, but yet easy to get naked with a stranger and swap bodily fluids w them?

 

Because I am secretly in control of the universe and have adjusted humanity's settings accordingly.

[Helpexpressme]

I've said it before and I'll say it again. Why, why is it so hard to ask someone what it is they are looking for, but yet easy to get naked with a stranger and swap bodily fluids w them?

 

Because that conversation is not sexy or appealing. People don't want to scare other people away.

[Ms Darcy]

Ya well I should of just asked straight up before sleeping with him that seems to be my problem I am too scared to ask what the other person is looking for

 

Well that's what you need to work on in the future ... communication before sex. If you are the type of person who feels used for sex, even though you consented, then wait until you are in a relationship.

[greta96]

Ya well I should of just asked straight up before sleeping with him that seems to be my problem I am too scared to ask what the other person is looking for

 

And not only ask, but you also need to take a bit of time and watch his actions towards you. People can very easily lie and tell you what they know you want to hear, so in addition to asking, you need to take your time and make sure that what they told you is indeed true. That can only be done by waiting before jumping into sex.

For the record, I don't think you were used. In this day and age, you need to be really smart about dating, if you don't want to have your heart broken.

[Darksoul26]

Yes I completely agree. Thank you everyone for the helpful advice