derPhilosoph Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 I am almost 30 and the biggest thing I have noticed is a welcome one: sex drive has taken a nose dive! It is much easier for me to focus on work, learning new things etc. now that that has decreased. It is easier for me to ignore women that I find attractive, especially because I have spent a lot of time reading and watching stuff about the current divorce rates in the US, etc. Guys who never married in their 20s, and who are now in their 30s+, say that they dodged a huge bullet in terms of not getting married so young when it seemed "everyone else was"... Is decreased libido perhaps one of the reasons that there is the cliche "life starts after 30"? Link to comment
Clinton Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 Noooooooooo. That's waaaay too young for your libido to take a downturn.See your doctor. Link to comment
DoF Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 I don't think so. Personally, sex drive hasn't really changed for me in 30s. Actually, I find myself more driven/better performer now. I'm also much better at it as well. Our sex drive/and frequencies are actually up and climbing now that we are almost 20 years in! The whole "maturity" thing in the 30s is kind of hard to describe in words. Let me put it to you this way. When you realize that things you desired, wanted, valued and did in the teens/20s are quite opposite (worthless/turn off/last things you want) and realize that things you found 0 appeal become important......it's a first sign of maturity. One can also say "things that were lame" became awesome and things that were awesome became lame. Link to comment
Dottieflanogon Posted November 12, 2015 Share Posted November 12, 2015 For me personally,I'd like to think that it's not necessarily about having a higher drive, but more a reflection on knowing myself better. I didn't really have a hell of a good idea about what I actually wanted in my 20's. I'm now more self-aware, secure and vocal, which leads to better sex, which leads to wanting it more. Link to comment
derPhilosoph Posted November 13, 2015 Author Share Posted November 13, 2015 Noooooooooo. That's waaaay too young for your libido to take a downturn.See your doctor. I think it is a welcome change for me since I have below average looks due to severe acne scarring on my face..... Link to comment
jennylove Posted November 15, 2015 Share Posted November 15, 2015 I think it is a welcome change for me since I have below average looks due to severe acne scarring on my face..... Oh ok, embrace and enjoy! Link to comment
tarrel Posted November 15, 2015 Share Posted November 15, 2015 Life definitely started after 30 for me Layoffs Hair loss Arthritis Vision issues All the things I never experiences at the age of 29 and younger Link to comment
dias Posted November 15, 2015 Share Posted November 15, 2015 I always thought that life starts after 30 because by this age you will have a good degree, a stable career , money , 6 packs and girls. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted November 15, 2015 Share Posted November 15, 2015 I don't agree with that expression personally and I don't like how limiting it is. It sounds like you are looking for validation from statistics and anecdotes to make important life decisions. Link to comment
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