notopposed Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 So I'm at about 7 weeks since the breakup (about 1 month NC) and I'm basically sitting on my hands trying not to call my ex. These forums help incredibly as I'm able to search through other peoples mistakes. I realize that if I break no contact and call: 1) There's probably a 95+% chance of not getting the response I'm looking for. 2) I give up the balance of power that I would get if she contacted me first. Whats killing me is that I don't see her reaching out to contact me any time soon, if at all. Most of the 'getting your ex back' books do recommend some sort of contact happen in the 1-2 month NC period to break the ice and set up an innocent meeting. I haven't seen this approach work for anyone on this website except people who got broken up with because they weren't putting enough effort into the relationship. I know that if I called my ex girlfriend she would answer or respond. I'm just not sure she'd say what I want to hear. Using No contact to move on while you still have strong feelings for your ex is like... trying to drive a car but having one eye focused on the rear view mirror. I'm trying my best to move forward... but I still love my ex girlfriend. I still think about her daily. Weekends are much worse than weekdays. For those who have gotten ex'es back using NC... how did you keep it up? For those who got ex'es back with LC after a period of NC - how long did you wait to break the ice? Link to comment
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