looking for some advice and venting simultaneously

[slammin16]

Quick cap, been 9 months since my ex left. limited contact for 7 then none for the last 2.

 

To be honest though, I still think about her quite often!

 

It's been 9 friggin months!!!! what the hell is wrong with me??

 

I was working today and thought about her for about 80% of the day. what the hell!!

 

We dated for 1.5 years, long enough yes but nothing crazy. It was a healthy relationship but nothing immensely intense. Why is she still on my mind all the time? Do I have love obession? is there something wrong with me?? I eat well, sleep well and am really busy with work and school but she is still there lurking in the back of my mind. I havent seen her in over 5 months and I can still picture her face like I saw her yesterday!

 

Anyways, was just wondering if anyone else has experienced this so long after a BU, someone just please tell me it will be better one day.

 

thanks

[Timefornc]

Hey, I'm the same six months on. I accept itsover, nOt sure if I want her back anymore but still have hope.

 

It's very confusing, but each day seems easier than the lost.

 

I personally thought I would be done with it after a month.

[ChellyV]

what is the nature of the BU? and more so, if you wanted her back did yuo do something about it?

[catfeeder]

Staying in contact is like procrastinating on grief, and it stalls your healing. So give yourself a break and consider that you've only been out of contact for 2 months. That's not the same as 9 months of healing, and your feelings are natural for a 2 month period of NC.

 

Head high.