The Wheel Posted April 13, 2010 Share Posted April 13, 2010 Started dating a girl about three months ago. Things went well. We clicked, started seeing each other more, eventually had the exclusivity talk (her choice), began hanging out with each other's circles of friends, and so forth. In short, we were doing the normal early-couple thing. I was content to take things slow and feel it out. There was no rush to start making it too serious, too soon. Sure, I began to feel those deeper feelings beginning to bud, but it was something that could wait for when it was right. Or not. Within the span of a couple days, the girl--who by all rights was really quite sane and normal--appeared to freak out and started spouting the odd line of "I'm not feeling what I should be after three months and I don't think that I will." This seemed rather dissonant considering days earlier she eager to talk about how great I was and how happy I made her. I calmly talked to her about how insane this sounded while she wept at the dinner table. I left it with a "Call me if you want to see me again." Four or five days later. I received this rather, well, awful email. I'll edit it down to get it to the core points. You are an amazing guy...funny, smart, attractive and so incredibly sweet and thoughtful. Ultimately though, there's just something missing for me...the spark or romantic chemistry or whatever you want to call it...I'm sorry to be so brutally honest, but I just don't want you to get the wrong impression of the situation...to think that you did something wrong or that I was leading you on in any way, because that's definitley not the case...Sorry to take the * * * * * route and write an email, but it was really hard talking about it on Monday and I just couldn't bring myself to call. Er. What? Apart from the insult of not doing this in person, I really can't figure out what in the bloody hell happened. No romantic spark? Please. That's something we all know early on. And even if that was the case, what the hell was with all the nice words and sweet gestures just days earlier? It's not that this was such a serious relationship that I'm devastated by the loss, but more like I'm bewildered because it seemed to have been going in a good direction and then splat! Frankly, I'm disinclined to even reply. Either this girl never had any interest and more or less faked it, or has absolutely freaked out about a commitment I had never even pushed. Yeah, I'm lucky to get out now rather than later, but it left me deeply puzzled and disappointed that something that seemed so good had gone so bad. Link to comment
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