Batya33 Posted March 24, 2010 Share Posted March 24, 2010 It's kind of a weird situation. Right now he's going through issues so we are casually dating (which is what I want now because of my job situation). We are long time friends who recently reconnected and realized the spark was there (he mentioned this). A few years ago he desired kids and marriage with me (he'd even talk about what our kids would look like) but at the time I wasn't ready (I had gotten out of a bad relationship). Now he says one thing and then another thing. That's why I take a wait and see approach. If others come around then I'll date them, but if not, no big deal. I'd focus more on the feet (what he does) than the lips. I agree that you should be totally open to meeting/dating others and be careful that hanging out with him isn't distracting you from that goal. What I did find in my mid-late 30s was that I had to be far more proactive about meeting people even than in my 20s, when I was still frequently being set up by friends, friends of friends, etc. I didn't ask guys out but I was on on line sites and contacted many men, as well as suggested meeting in person (but I let them do the asking out for the first real date). Link to comment
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