dhjjessel Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 Do you think the key to a healthy relationship is when you are supplementing your life with your girlfriend/boyfriend, rather than making them the centre of it? my ex was the air that i breathed. Maybe you need to have a full life without them for you to able to sustain a relationship what do you think? Link to comment
greywolf Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 Needing someone is a huge burden to put on them, don't you think? I think it should be about wanting to share your life with each other, not about needing each other. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 Maybe you need to have a full life ithout them for you to able to sustain a relationship I totally agree with the above! A partner is not there to "make you feel whole". You should be "whole" on your own. A partner is the bonus which compliments the relationship (imo). Link to comment
penelope13 Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 I think it's the most wonderful feeling when someone tells you: I don't need you, but I WANT you in my life Link to comment
_Asti_ Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 I feel that you need to feel whole as a person, first. It is then that you can ADD to it...and feel a completely different sense of energy and have a totally different and healthy relationship when you don't need someone. You're CHOOSING to have a relationship. Its a beautiful thing when two whole people make a choice to be together. A partner isn't your life, they are just part of it. Link to comment
havefaith Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 I feel like people don't understand this until their first big break up. Why the hell don't they tell us this ahead of time???? Link to comment
Vince99 Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 Do you think the key to a healthy relationship is when you are supplementing your life with your girlfriend/boyfriend, rather than making them the centre of it? my ex was the air that i breathed. Maybe you need to have a full life ithout them for you to able to sustain a relationship what do you think? Yes. Never get into a state of NEEDING them. It will be a total disaster sooner or later. Link to comment
Rickster Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 I feel like people don't understand this until their first big break up. Why the hell don't they tell us this ahead of time???? Damn right! Link to comment
cl76 Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 It's a bugger, neediness is often seen as unattractive... we often realise this too late. This trick is to be happy with yourself, rather than needing someone to be happy. Link to comment
dhjjessel Posted May 28, 2009 Author Share Posted May 28, 2009 I think it's the most wonderful feeling when someone tells you: I don't need you, but I WANT you in my life wanting someone in your life doesnt necessarily mean being with them, eg an ex. That is the crux. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 life isn't about relationships. it's great to have someone to love, but it isn't everything. if you are content with that, drama, breakups, jealousy, all that crap goes out the window and life is nice. Link to comment
penelope13 Posted May 29, 2009 Share Posted May 29, 2009 wanting someone in your life doesnt necessarily mean being with them, eg an ex. That is the crux. considering the context of the question, i thought it was implied that we are talking about people in a relationship. so yes, my statement is meant to be: in a relationship, it is the most wonderful thing IMO, if my partner tells me, that he doesn't need to be in a relationship with me, but that he simply wants/ likes being in a relationship with me. Link to comment
sandrawg Posted May 29, 2009 Share Posted May 29, 2009 Absolutely. You gotta have your own life, for many reasons. Sounds like you're learning valuable lessons from this breakup. Do you think the key to a healthy relationship is when you are supplementing your life with your girlfriend/boyfriend, rather than making them the centre of it? my ex was the air that i breathed. Maybe you need to have a full life without them for you to able to sustain a relationship what do you think? Link to comment
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