JadedStar Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 No, I would not mention that you were bald on your dating profile. If the girl sees this as an issue, you will find out about it after the date. Besides, it's not as though you were entirely bald. You can also see where it leads to - and whether or not she likes you for you. Not only that it gives the reader of the profile the impression that he is insecure about it....like he is apologizing upfront for nature or something. Even if she might have been very ok with it otherwise, bringing it up may make her think he is too self conscious ... Women don't mention 'i have vericose veins' if she plans on wearing a skirt and has them, etc. It is always good to be realistic in your pics but those things that just do not and will not show up naturally in a pic should not have to be disclosed. Somethings that are more obvious that could cause a bit of surprise or shock out of the person you are going out with such as being in a wheelchair, you could show a pic of yourself in one, or if a person is blind it should be mentioned, but otherwise quirky things like a bald spot on top of the head are just not necessary to disclose. And i only mention the part about handicaps if the person wants to avoid any big surprises...disclosure and hwo much is certainly up to the person. Link to comment
testcase Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I'd say don't mention it, if you do it'll be seen as a flaw.. if you accept it you have no need to mention it. Link to comment
grymoire Posted March 30, 2009 Author Share Posted March 30, 2009 Thanks guys. I am not going to mention it Link to comment
penelope13 Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I also suggest not to mention it. As JS said, it would project insecurity to me. If you have an up to date picture, you are not misrepresenting yourself Link to comment
hers Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 what is "at the vertex point"? Is that the back/top of the head?? I'm confused? Link to comment
grymoire Posted March 30, 2009 Author Share Posted March 30, 2009 what is "at the vertex point"? Is that the back/top of the head?? I'm confused? yes, its at the back and top.. so you can't say that i am bald if you look at me from the front. Link to comment
hers Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 i know a gay guy who doesn't like guys who are balding, but i've never heard a girl say she'd turn a guy away if he was balding. seems like it's pretty minimal for you? Link to comment
heloladies21 Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 For your specific situation, online dating would be like hopping on one leg in a marathon - slow and painful. You just wouldn't be able to make the gains quick enough to prevent you from this cycle you're in of continuously getting discouraged. So I'd use online dating as a supplement if I were you. Now if you wanna run this race full speed, a PUA bootcamp would be like getting a running start. Link to comment
grymoire Posted March 30, 2009 Author Share Posted March 30, 2009 i know a gay guy who doesn't like guys who are balding, but i've never heard a girl say she'd turn a guy away if he was balding. seems like it's pretty minimal for you? well.. its quite a big spot but its at the back... Link to comment
hers Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 well.. its quite a big spot but its at the back... still wouldn't worry about listing it! Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 well.. its quite a big spot but its at the back... wear a stylish hat Link to comment
amipushy Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 If YOU feel better about it, then put it on your profile. Link to comment
servedcold Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 Now if you wanna run this race full speed, a PUA bootcamp would be like getting a running start. Ever since reading "The Game" I've wanted to go to one of those, think it would be a blast. May reward myself one day for meeting a goal of some sort. Gry seems to be doing well enough, though, his frustrations have been at flakes, not at being able to approach or get numbers, and that's simply a matter of upping the approaches and giving off an aura of more social value. On topic, no need to mention the bald spot. Link to comment
BrunetteBarbie Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 I would put a pic that is rly clear how you look. I just hate it when ppl I meet online, look totally different when i meet them rl (not dating,Ive never done online dating).... just cuz they hide something about them, or they put a pic where they look very better, etc. I dont think it will be a deal to many women that you have a little bit bald, maybe some, but I wouldnt try purposely hide it on your pic, only for the women.....So write it in your profile if you like (But I wouldnt do that rly), but especially put a pic where ppl can clearly see your face/body. Otherwise some girls might be disáppointed in a meeting. Link to comment
Ariel85 Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 I still think you should consider shaving it all, or getting a very short crew cut. Balding is far more unattractive than bald. Plus shaved/totally bald is still very fashionable for men. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 Gry, I think you should wear your hair however you want, just have a picture that shows what it looks like. No need to announce it in your profile. If you can't tell from a normal picture, then forget about it. if a girl has a problem with it, she can take a hike. Don't mention it in your profile, it will make you look insecure about it and that's unattractive. Link to comment
MinziGirl Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 Why not? If someone cannot accept you for who you are, then why should you be sharing even part of your time with her? Link to comment
grymoire Posted March 31, 2009 Author Share Posted March 31, 2009 If you can't tell from a normal picture, then forget about it. yep you can't see it in a normal picture... but if the pic is taken from the top or behind then yea.. you can see... Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 yep you can't see it in a normal picture... but if the pic is taken from the top or behind then yea.. you can see... Don't even worry about it. Act like you are a lion with a full mane of hair. RAWWWWRRR!!!! Confidence is hot. Link to comment
grymoire Posted March 31, 2009 Author Share Posted March 31, 2009 Don't even worry about it. Act like you are a lion with a full mane of hair. RAWWWWRRR!!!! Confidence is hot. haha.. thx scorpion Link to comment
fatcat1999 Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 what's wrong with bald? some girls are turned on by bald guys, i'm one of them. ps. all bald Link to comment
Ariel85 Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 what's wrong with bald? some girls are turned on by bald guys, i'm one of them. Bald IS hot. Balding is not. Link to comment
yellowcal Posted April 1, 2009 Share Posted April 1, 2009 "Hi my name is Grymoire I enjoy long walks on the beach as the wind brushes accross my balding head" Link to comment
mahipahl Posted January 18, 2012 Share Posted January 18, 2012 You need to mention it before you meet, balding,short, fat whatever. Why because it will save you a ton of time and money. Some try to hide physical attributes in the attempt that once they meet the person the "real" you will win them over, big mistake for onliners. People like what they like period. Some folks won't be attracted to someone overweight, oh well, but if you are why waste time and money, find out first. There are cases where people's personality sway someone, but that is usually in an environment where the other gets to know you over a period of time. That is rarely going to happen in the world of online dating. Link to comment
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