grymoire Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I am bald at the vertex point... So when a girl looks at my pictures she can't really tell that i am bald.... I don't want a girl to look at my profile, be interested, meet me for the date, and then be shocked when she sees my bald spot. I don't want her to think 'oh jeez i had no idea from his profile'.... What is your opinion on this guys? Ever since I read some posts here from some women that went like 'he was nothing like his photos in his profile.. i almost barfed when i saw him in person' I have been concerned... it has got me really thinking... Link to comment
JadedStar Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I am curious as to what others say but i would say no, no need to mention it. Show a very clear pic but if it isn't obvious in regular pics then so be it. Many guys have the balding on top that can only be seen when they bend down - it isn't that much of a big deal...I went out with a guy or two when i was single from match that had what you are talking about and i couldn't tell in the pic. My opinions on how the date went had no bearing on this issue. If your pic is very clearly a good facial shot then she has a good idea of what you look like in the face and if she 'barfs' then she has a very weak stomach that she should get checked out by a medical professional. LOL Link to comment
grymoire Posted March 30, 2009 Author Share Posted March 30, 2009 I am curious as to what others say but i would say no, no need to mention it. Show a very clear pic but if it isn't obvious in regular pics then so be it. Many guys have the balding on top that can only be seen when they bend down - it isn't that much of a big deal...I went out with a guy or two when i was single from match that had what you are talking about and i couldn't tell in the pic. My opinions on how the date went had no bearing on this issue. If your pic is very clearly a good facial shot then she has a good idea of what you look like in the face and if she 'barfs' then she has a very weak stomach that she should get checked out by a medical professional. LOL Thx JS. If I were totally bald then it would become obvious from the photo. But I am going bald at the vertex point. So you really can't tell from the pic. I just don't want some girls to get disappointed. Link to comment
Honey Pumpkin Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Thx JS. If I were totally bald then it would become obvious from the photo. But I am going bald at the vertex point. So you really can't tell from the pic. I just don't want some girls to get disappointed. I don't know, it's never been an issue for me - but I like the big, strong, shaved head type, mmmmm. Some profiles you can mention it in your self-description - so where it says "Hair: xxxx" instead of saying colour, say "vanishing...;-)" or something? Depends what it's like and whether you're trying to hide it or not? Just shave it off is my view, and have done with it... Link to comment
grymoire Posted March 30, 2009 Author Share Posted March 30, 2009 I don't know, it's never been an issue for me - but I like the big, strong, shaved head type, mmmmm. Some profiles you can mention it in your self-description - so where it says "Hair: xxxx" instead of saying colour, say "vanishing...;-)" or something? Depends what it's like and whether you're trying to hide it or not? Just shave it off is my view, and have done with it... I am not yet at the point where I have to shave it off HP... I just cut my hair short... And no, I don't try to hide it. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Iunno, I wouldn't be upset about it. Sort of like how I wouldn't be upset if I found out after meeting him that he had webbed feet or a lot of freckles on his back. It's not something you'd put in an online profile and I wouldn't consider it decietful in any way. Link to comment
Honey Pumpkin Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Well, just mention it if appropriate in a witty, self-deprecating way on your profile if there is somewhere that you have to describe your looks. Honesty is always good - a lot of the guys I met always lied about their height, which kind of annoyed me. I don't CARE about height, but I found it offputting if they had lied about it! There are always good words to use to describe however you look. Link to comment
Ac143 Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 If its not visible in pictures and you aren't going completely bald yet, I say dont mention it. When Im having a bad hair day or month (which I definitely have), I wouldn't put in a profile..."my hair has been really dry & stringy lately" lol. Link to comment
Honey Pumpkin Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Iunno, I wouldn't be upset about it. Sort of like how I wouldn't be upset if I found out after meeting him that he had webbed feet or a lot of freckles on his back. It's not something you'd put in an online profile and I wouldn't consider it decietful in any way. I would so go out with a guy who had webbed feet - that would be a plus for me, lol; if he mentioned it, I would just be intrigued and find it funny! Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I would so go out with a guy who had webbed feet - that would be a plus for me, lol; if he mentioned it, I would just be intrigued and find it funny! Ha, me too probably. One of my best friends had webbed feet and every body always wanted a look at them. Link to comment
Honey Pumpkin Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Ha, me too probably. One of my best friends had webbed feet and every body always wanted a look at them. Ashton Kutcher has webbed feet - I saw it on an interview. See, Grymoire, everything can be sexy, intriguing or funny!! (Trying to get back on-topic, lol) Link to comment
alli Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I've always heard that you should post a picture of yourself that is not only a good picture, but a good representation of what you actually look like, so the person isn't expecting a model when they come to find out they are meeting Quasi-Moto. Now back to your question... exactly how much hair have you lost? Is it like, a bald spot or is half of your hair missing? If it is a lot, I would probably mention it to a person online after you have already been chatting for a while, but not flat out say on your profile "well, I'm kinda bald". Good luck! Link to comment
grymoire Posted March 30, 2009 Author Share Posted March 30, 2009 My idea is to have a total of 3 photos. 2 photos showing my face and 1 photo is full length of me. That way the girls can know how tall I am and also get a fair idea about my weight. I am a bit over-weight though. Link to comment
Honey Pumpkin Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I've always heard that you should post a picture of yourself that is not only a good picture, but a good representation of what you actually look like, so the person isn't expecting a model when they come to find out they are meeting Quasi-Moto. Yeah, that's definitely the best. I had a good face shot and a full length shot, and both were recent and flattering but a good idea of me as I am now. Link to comment
Honey Pumpkin Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 My idea is to have a total of 3 photos. 2 photos showing my face and 1 photo is full length of me. That way the girls can know how tall I am and also get a fair idea about my weight. I am a bit over-weight though. Wouldn't worry about that, so long as they are nice, friendly photos of yourself, you should be fine! Link to comment
grymoire Posted March 30, 2009 Author Share Posted March 30, 2009 Wouldn't worry about that, so long as they are nice, friendly photos of yourself, you should be fine! Thanks. I guess I am not going to mention about the baldness... The florida girl wasn't surprised when she met me... that date ended up being fantastic... lots of kisses.... i miss her Link to comment
JadedStar Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Ashton Kutcher has webbed feet - I saw it on an interview. See, Grymoire, everything can be sexy, intriguing or funny!! (Trying to get back on-topic, lol) And i'll bet he didnt tell Demi this on the first date. LOL Link to comment
Ariel85 Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 FWIW, I think when a guy starts to lose his hair, he should just shave his entire head OR keep the hair really, really close cropped. It's a much more flattering look that trying to hide the obvious. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Some girls like bald guys. I wouldn't be all, "By the way, I'm bald.", but put up a picture that shows what you look like. Link to comment
grymoire Posted March 30, 2009 Author Share Posted March 30, 2009 yea.. the girl can't see it unless and until she sees from the top or from behind Link to comment
JadedStar Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 FWIW, I think when a guy starts to lose his hair, he should just shave his entire head OR keep the hair really, really close cropped. It's a much more flattering look that trying to hide the obvious. Well i think the guy should go with what he feels most comfortable with because you can't please everybody and it is a given that you will always be going home with yourself everyday of your life regardless of if you are on a date or not. Link to comment
Jd1983 Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 No, I would not mention that you were bald on your dating profile. If the girl sees this as an issue, you will find out about it after the date. Besides, it's not as though you were entirely bald. You can also see where it leads to - and whether or not she likes you for you. Link to comment
Kaiser_Soze Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 yea.. the girl can't see it unless and until she sees from the top or from behind Honestly, I wouldn't mention it, but not for the obvious reasons. I think it may imply that the picture isn't recent. That seems to be a bigger issue on dating sights. Link to comment
alli Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I wouldn't mention it, either. Link to comment
lila... Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I don't think it's absolutely necessary that you mention it. You said it's not really obvious, so...I think the ones who would care are shallow and you wouldn't want to date them anyway. Link to comment
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