DMK Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 Bumping this...I love what Mr So and So said on page 1. What a great post. All dumpees in NC should read this all the frickin time. Link to comment
MalibuOne Posted June 11, 2010 Share Posted June 11, 2010 Bumping this...I love what Mr So and So said on page 1. What a great post. All dumpees in NC should read this all the frickin time. I'm with you. Let's keep it front and center for awhile. So many of us can learn from Mr. So and So. I know I'll be reading it over and over as I progress through NC. Link to comment
GenoGeno Posted June 11, 2010 Share Posted June 11, 2010 I rarely read full threads from start to finish but I started reading and became very intrigued in the advice that was being said. It made a lot of sense and seemed very logical. Thumbs up * Link to comment
danslenoir Posted March 1, 2011 Share Posted March 1, 2011 I just thought this thread deserves a bump. Everyone who has been dumped should read this thread, and particularly mrsoandso2009's words of wisdom. It is the best advice I have seen during the countless hours spent trawling through this forum and I wish so much that I had seen it a couple of months ago. Link to comment
BackToYou Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 "It is amazing how an ex can get you to pursue them and they don't even know they are doing it -- when you do pursue them, they reject you and feel even more certain of their decision. They get you to pursue, but then they reject you again and again.." Dear Mr.SoandSo2009, I want to say that you post should be read everyday twice by all ENA members on this getting back forum It is the only way to get your ex back--if there is even a small possibility of getting them back. As a dumper, this is precisely what I did and felt when I dumped my steady boyfriend. If a dumpee doesn't understand this, then it is a waste of months, years. Bumb. All dumpees, please read this thread. Link to comment
chidecoi Posted March 27, 2011 Share Posted March 27, 2011 I am in the same situation like you bro! It is so hard for me to see her everyday staying at school studying and be by herself alone. I know she is doing it because it helps her to not think a lot. It keeps her busy from seeking help and love from others. Thats what I love her, her personality is so great and now where I am. I lost her. I regret things over and over again, beat myself up because my mistake. It has been more than 3 weeks since I started NC and I felt a little bit better. The last time we saw each other, she smiled at me. I did the same thing back and thats pretty much. I don't know how it will go but all we hope for the best right?! If it meant to be then it will be. At this point bro, stay at NC and keep being polite not totally ignore her if u run into her. and wish you the best! Link to comment
BONO Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Great thread - See MrSoandSo page one ! Link to comment
Vaglar Posted October 17, 2011 Share Posted October 17, 2011 Agreed, this post is great and is definitely worth a read, or two! Link to comment
vel2011 Posted October 17, 2011 Share Posted October 17, 2011 This is a fantastic post! Link to comment
vel2011 Posted October 17, 2011 Share Posted October 17, 2011 Bump number two. This should be kept at the top for a while. Link to comment
tholouras Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 This is hard, but necessary, because you have to realize that if she were to come back to you, and only if the relationship is VIABLE, then it's really only worth it for her to come back because she works through her emptiness of living life without you and discovering that she misses you and wants to make a conscious choice for a deeper commitment. What do you mean with the condition Viable relationship???A relationship that can be turned around again??? Or the reasons of BU weren't so strong??? Link to comment
Aleina2011 Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 Great post, thank you guys! Link to comment
6yeardumped Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 What do you mean with the condition Viable relationship???A relationship that can be turned around again??? Or the reasons of BU weren't so strong??? My 2 cents on the concept of "Viable relationship": Long term relationship (> 1 year), among mature people (not high school relations) that ended on a good note (no cheating, no physical or emotional abuse), usually due to one of the parties "falling out of love", or other generic reasons such as GIGS, one emotional fight, etc, etc,... Link to comment
VFV2010 Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 wow, just wow, this is the best thread ever. going to read it every day. alot of information in here and it helps alot, thank you guys/gals. and it needs a bump to. Link to comment
Voodoodoll Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 Fab fab fab thread..... Bump it up xx Link to comment
brandnewday47 Posted February 10, 2012 Share Posted February 10, 2012 One of the absolute best threads here... MrSoAndSo2009 and Siberia provide so much insight. Hopefully this helps calm some stressed nerves for a few of the posters. Link to comment
unhappy2000 Posted May 15, 2012 Share Posted May 15, 2012 This is a good thread, it makes more sense as to what my BF did. He sounded logical yet not logical at the same time. When I tried to talk to him about his decisions he got upset and didn't want to talk about it just said he couldn't be the person he needs to be for us to work. He still is in love with me, etc. I have been NC and this has helped me see why I need to be. I don't know if we have any hope for the future but we didn't end because of one of us doing something wrong, and I never want us to think badly of each other. Link to comment
Lightning87 Posted May 16, 2012 Share Posted May 16, 2012 I believe NC is a way of healing yourself. Not trying to get them back although occasionally it can work as they start thinking you have moved on with them. If you want them back, I would say LC is better. And when you are in contact, make it nice and fun. Not serious and asking why the hell you guys broke up. They don't want to come back to that shizzle. This can be talked about if you do get back together. Make them fall again for the person they fell for in the first place. I wouldn't initiate contact though. Leave them to contact you. If they done nothing to hurt you apart from break up with you, then there is no reason not to speak to them. But I would hold off reply for a good couple of hours. You don't want them thinking you are actually waiting on them texting do you? Again, NC is a way of making YOU feel better. Not trying to get them back. Do not make the mistake of constantly texting/calling/e-mailing/stalking her. Let her do the running. She dumped you, she needs to prove why YOU should have HER back. Link to comment
Lightning87 Posted May 16, 2012 Share Posted May 16, 2012 Oh, and perhaps sending a funny card for their birthday or at christmas with some kind of joke about something you both laughed about can help I know this is about NC not working but most people go NC in the hope to win the other half back. I don't think it does, only very occasionally. Link to comment
trisprior Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 This thread deserves another bump. Link to comment
dave_1966 Posted April 10, 2015 Share Posted April 10, 2015 Check out Wayne Correy on YouTube, it's very entertaining and he is a sort of guru. Link to comment
kbbcoop77 Posted April 10, 2015 Share Posted April 10, 2015 Actually Corey Wayne but yeah he's good and entertaining and straight to the point Link to comment
dave_1966 Posted April 10, 2015 Share Posted April 10, 2015 Why did I get his name messed up? I've been listening to loads of his stuff and I really like the guys insights. Hope all's good with you kbb! This is a superb thread by the way, especially the first few pages. Link to comment
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