Mustang Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 My ex has been hinting that she wants me back. She sent me a long email to me saying how horrible she's been feeling lately, that she really misses me and wants to see me again. The weird thing is, I would've done anything for her to say that to me a year ago - even six months ago but now, I just don't have any interest in her whatsoever. The way she treated me during the break up and after the break up made me realise who she really was and that person is not somebody I want to be with. I don't think I could ever be with her again. Even seeing her name on Facebook just makes me angry. Sadly, a friend of mine died last week and it really put things into perspective. I was clinging onto my ex so much when we broke up. I was miserable and put myself through hell. Looking back, I wasted a year of my life doing that. I really don't care anymore. My ex decided to leave and she can live with that. For those of you that are hurting right now, believe me, I have been there. Long time members of this board will know that. I never really believed it but it seems that once you're truly over someone, they come back. Annoying or what? Nevertheless, be strong. It's not easy I know but at the same time, the satisfaction of telling somebody that hurt you that you no longer want to be with them when they come crawling back is great. Link to comment
DN Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 Sure? ...................... Link to comment
Anyway Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 Nevertheless, be strong. It's not easy I know but at the same time, the satisfaction of telling somebody that hurt you that you no longer want to be with them when they come crawling back is great. The ultimate victory Always remember: Living your life to the fullest is the best revenge ;-) Link to comment
SighSob Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 I'm waiting for the day my ex comes back crawling to crush her with tons of rejection. The thought of revenge sure makes my days easier. Link to comment
Pandaman211 Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 Thats great Mustang. I'm glad you put this story up, so that people can see that they very well may not want them back if they do decide to come around. Link to comment
Pandaman211 Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 I was reading through your previous threads, and that at the end of the day is awesome how far you come. How long were her and this other guy dating? I really hope someone that reads this can relate to this and see how effective moving on was for you, and what potential unexpected things can come of letting go and living your life. Link to comment
lostandhurt Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 Well done! Be careful though. I think this is the second thread like this today. You have definitely come a very long way. You should be proud of your growth. lost Link to comment
Mustang Posted January 26, 2009 Author Share Posted January 26, 2009 Mustang, I remember how you struggled....I am so happy to read this from you! Do you have anyone new in your life? Thanks! I have nobody new at the moment no. There's a few girls here and there that I'm interested in/have been interested in but I'm in my final year of university, working two jobs, doing a radio show and doing an internship. I have no time! Girls are nothing but trouble anyway. Link to comment
1MoreChance Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 My greastest wish is not to get my revenge on my ex by seeing him crawling back to me, but for him and me to find happiness and inner peace, ehther together or apart. I agree though that desperation comes accross as a turn off, and that no contact is probably at some point the best way to get clear, heal and have any hope of getting back together. I agree that for some people, they come back when the other person has moved on. Maybe they are afraid of intimacy and thrive on rejection? I know that both my ex and I do. I hope that if he comes back, I will have open arms, at least for a friendship. Otherwise I wish peace and happiness for both of us. Link to comment
gee Posted January 26, 2009 Share Posted January 26, 2009 Mustang, Glad you finally made it. I know you went through some rough seas awhile back. The important thing is you took this time to work on yourself and you got stronger from it. Keep on going buddy! I praise you! Good luck. gee Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted January 27, 2009 Share Posted January 27, 2009 First of all, there is a big difference between saying "I miss you, let's meet up" and actually getting back together. Lots of dumpers say I miss you, let's meet up...but then they have no intentions of getting back together. So you really don't know what her intentions are. She just could be going through a lonely period in her life and that's why she called. Who knows. As for you, are you really sure you wouldn't take her back? Link to comment
browneyedgirl36 Posted January 27, 2009 Share Posted January 27, 2009 .. That is beautiful.. I agree. I never wanted "revenge". I just want to not hurt anymore. Same here...I love him and want him to be happy. I wish he could be happy with me, though. And, yeah, I don't want to hurt anymore. It's a difficult process, letting go... Link to comment
browneyedgirl36 Posted January 27, 2009 Share Posted January 27, 2009 First of all, there is a big difference between saying "I miss you, let's meet up" and actually getting back together. Lots of dumpers say I miss you, let's meet up...but then they have no intentions of getting back together. So you really don't know what her intentions are. She just could be going through a lonely period in her life and that's why she called. Who knows. As for you, are you really sure you wouldn't take her back? Yeah...mine wants to meet up all the time, and we met for dinner recently. He doesn't want me back, though, as far as I know...Unless he specifically says to me, "Browneyedgirl36, I really would like another chance with you," I'm assuming he's just being friendly, or that he's lonely, or bored, or whatever. Link to comment
Ashsun87 Posted January 27, 2009 Share Posted January 27, 2009 Hey buddy I remember you, we were in VERY similar situations about what, 10 months back? haha I'm glad to hear you're in a good place man, I'm happy for ya! Want to know something funny? My ex wanted me back too, and I told her "No thanks I would have done ANYTHING to hear those words 6 months ago, just as you say. Looks like things happen for a reason afterall. Stay strong everyone. Link to comment
Psychomagnet Posted September 29, 2009 Share Posted September 29, 2009 It's not FALSE hope that this thread gives...but genuine hope for YOU about YOU...not the ex, well at least that is what this wonderful thread translated to for me at least. Mustang, Thank you....I really hope the day comes when I reach where you are, in myself, I think we all hope for that, congrats! Link to comment
Blue Shark Posted September 29, 2009 Share Posted September 29, 2009 Not wanting to get back with your ex girlfriend seems very odd to me at the moment. I don't think I will ever reach that point. I think that if the girl that recently broke up with me 2 and a half months ago wanted to get back together 5 yrs from now I would. Link to comment
LillyLooWho Posted September 29, 2009 Share Posted September 29, 2009 It feels like you'll never get over the ex, but you will. I feel bad now but i know that eventually (when exactly?) I will be ok. A lot of my ex-bfs come back and want to try again, but by then I am over them and can see the relationship clearly. I never go back. I'm happy to be friends with them, but without the rose-colored glasses, I'm not interested in a relationship with them. Link to comment
Puckdog27 Posted September 29, 2009 Share Posted September 29, 2009 Another case of the minute you feel your past them, they come rushing in from nowhere. Link to comment
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