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  1. SighSob
    8 years and 3 months of NC. Best of luck to all you guys just getting through this, it does get better
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    GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH I WANT YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU I WANT YOU I WANT YOU I WANT YOU I WANT YOU BUT just friends would be good as well even though I fear I am just trying to convince myself that I'd be fine with being just a friend to you. ANYWAYS... when are you going to dump him and come back to me?
  3. SighSob
    Strict No Contact will rarely bring an ex back by itself. You will have to switch to light contact at some point, maybe even become your ex's friend, and see where it goes from there.
  4. SighSob
    7 years later? I hope he's over her by now
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    1. Just because he seems like his usual self it doesn't mean that he is not feeling pain/hasn't felt pain at all. The fact that he hasn't invited you to the party and didn't answer to your card makes me actually think that he's not over you yet. 2. Yes, you're still in pain while he's (at least on the outside) having fun. So what? This is not a race where who heals first wins. You are human and you're hurt, it will take time to recover the pain. You shouldn't compare your situation with his one...you're both experiencing separation from each other, but you are the one that has to deal with rejection & regret & confusion. It will obviously take longer for you to heal! You're not pathetic at all. 3. You will meet someone else and you will have better days, trust me.
  6. SighSob
    this thread is 6 years old...
  7. SighSob
    Yup exactly. Weekends are the best and the worst part of the week to me. I enjoy the great times I have with my buddies & the girls, then again I start to wonder what she and her boyfriend are up to and it does make me a little...disappointed? It's not really sadness, it's more like something irritating...
  8. SighSob
    It's not childish. I think ego has a lot to do with the fact that dumpees obsess over their ex's. I would like my ex to beg for me back, I do really want her to do it, just to reject her. Still, it's not just about "revenge". If she came back to me, it would mean that what we had was indeed something good/special, which is something I'm starting to question and ultimately don't want to.
  9. SighSob
    No, NC is not supposed to make them miss you. NC is supposed to help dumpees move on from their ex's. Ex's may start to miss you at some point and NC will definitely help it, but that's not the point of NC, just a possible side-effect. Anyways, you did the right thing by asking your mutual friends to not tell you anything about her. I did too and it helped my healing a lot. Too bad Saturday night a "mutual" friend of us (hot chick by the way, lol) started telling me things I did not want to hear - such how horrible her new boyfriend looks, how she has turned into an easy girl and how I should be grateful that she ended it with me and not be thinking about her at all... Thinking about it now that's actually comforting and I like the fact that everyone dropped her like a hot potato and "took my side" - this means I'm not the jerk she was trying to make me look like - but still, I wonder what happened to the nice, honest & lovely girl I fell in love with? Why did she turn into an attention-seeking * * * * * ? I just don't get it... BTW: I think I'm close to day 50 & aside from this little setback I'm feeling fine I suppose...
  10. SighSob
    You give no response. I would not announce NC. And even if you want to tell your ex you're going No Contact, try not to make it look like a desperate move to get him back...which is what "when you are ready to be exclusive again let me know, till then don't contact me" would do. Just go with "Please don't contact me I am moving on". If he wants to be exclusive again he will contact you anyways, you don't need to tell him.
  11. SighSob
    2 weeks...? Lucky you! Better than being replaced the very moment she dumps you - which is what happened to me. If I survived the pain, you will too.
  12. SighSob
    Hey BHUK...don't forget that us dumpees tend to think that our ex's new love/sex life is wonderful while it's probably nothing amazing... When you're bored, you think she's out having the time of her life... When you're alone, you think she's cuddling with her new boyfriend... I mean, you tend to always think the WORST but her life without you is probably nothing but average.
  13. SighSob
    Healing is a necessary step if you're looking for a reconciliation. You can't "skip it" or just pretend you're not hurt.
  14. SighSob
    SuperDave you're back!! I want to thank you so badly for your posts...they really, REALLY helped me when I was drowning in the darkness... Hope you're not going to leave too soon...!
  15. SighSob
    It's ok to block things from your mind. If you've come here at ENA you've probably already suffered enough pain from the breakup and are now ready to heal. To think about it over and over won't do any good and won't be of any help. The best way to heal IMO is just try to look at the big picture...the world is still spinning around, today it's a sunny day (at least here lol) and you will be happy again!!
  16. SighSob
    Approx. day 40. I feel good. I don't wonder what she's up to anymore. I try to picture it and sometimes it is her happily hanging out with her new boyfriend, sometimes it's her looking at the plush dolls I gave her through our relationship and missing me...and honestly the former doesn't hurt me and the latter doesn't give me any relief. It's not acceptance though. It's just not giving a * * * * anymore. I still feel angry when I think about the way she treated me during the breakup and I still feel regret when I think about the way I played my part in killing the relationship but what is done is done and I just want to be happy again. I admit that I would like her to come back to me to give us another chance but I understand it's not going to happen and it doesn't hurt me anymore. I finally truly believe that there are other girls out there and I can't wait to fall for the right one. I'm living proof it does get better. One month ago I was a wreck. I spent Christmas crying in the bathroom. Now it is ok, and it can't get worse 'cause I've already received all the bad news I didn't want to receive...
  17. SighSob
    I like the stickers idea...I think I'm going to try it!
  18. SighSob
    Nah, it will go away sooner than you think...just don't sit in your room alone tonight wondering what he's up to cause it will only make the healing slower. Tonight I'm going out with friends - including a nice girl who fancies me - then at 1.30 AM I'll head to a techno party out of town. Screw my ex! I'm going to HAVE FUN tonight!
  19. SighSob
    I feel you. To spend the nights alone thinking about her and her new guy sucks big time...luckily it gets better with time.
  20. SighSob
    No it's not...](*,)
  21. SighSob
    Bad idea indeed.
  22. SighSob
    Same here. I don't know man. It's not just our fault though. I too wish I did things differently, but I think if they really cared about the relationship they would have given us another chance, instead of dumping us for someone else. I seriously hope they will ultimately realize that they made a mistake. I would have liked to date other girls too but I didn't dump (what I thought was) my soulmate just to experience new things. Anyways, what can we do? I'm not going to sit and wait for a "realization" (which honestly could never come or take years)...it hurts but we have to move on.
  23. SighSob
    Day 30+ now. It's still hard to deal with the break-up. She dumped me for another guy. I still don't get the reason. She dropped on me insane amounts of BS and she admitted it. Our mutual friends don't like her anymore and are all by my side - they see what she is doing now with her new boyfriend (if they're still together) - which makes me think she did something "wrong". I just miss the old-her, the one that was immensely sweet, caring and who loved me more than herself. I still don't get how could she jump from a life which revolved around me - and I seriously mean it - to a life where I don't exist at all. Our relationship wasn't healthy (she was too needy, I was too distant), but if she wasn't willing to make it work with me I guess there's something else. Maybe the attraction for this new guy...maybe she wasn't attracted to me anymore...maybe both. (I'm starting to vent...) Will she ever turn back into the person she used to be? How's the relationship with her new boyfriend going? Did she cheat on me? When did our relationship start to fall apart? Does she miss me? Do we have a chance to get back together? Why do my friends hate her now? What the hell has she done/is she doing? Did she stay with me just out of fear for loneliness? Did I stay with her just out of fear for loneliness? Do I want to believe we are meant to be together just because admitting that it wasn't love anymore would hurt too much? I don't know. I just know that when I see something that reminds me of the "old her" (pictures, gifts she gave me...) I can't help but cry like a baby. When I see something that reminds me of the "new her" I feel anger...and think "Am I really crying over this person? Screw her, she doesn't deserve it!". I was doing so well (well, sorta...), it's just that I ran into a super-sweet gift she gave and it did tear me apart.
  24. SighSob
    No. No Contact is about not contacting them. You can think about them as much as you like IMO. Not saying it is healthy, but I think most of us do it anyways, whether we visit these boards or not.
  25. SighSob
    day ???, but a month of NC has passed... it's not about getting back together anymore. I'm actually happy by myself 'cause I have been working a lot to get my life back during this month and a half. I would like to find another girl to fall in love with, and meanwhile I'm enjoying being single. The thought of her happy with her new boyfriend and not thinking about me at all doesn't hurt me anymore. The only thing that hurts is to think about how she lied to me through the last part of our relationship...but I just try not to think about it and in fact I rarely do. No Contact definitely works. I reccomend it to everyone!
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