WTHUWY Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 Hey guys....so me and my 'babies daddy' are together after alot of crap....anyway, we both have a very very high sex drive. But lately I've been really horney and I'm wanting to have sex all the time. I'm 27 wks pregnant and he's all concerned about having sex too much. My doctor said its ok as long as we're not doing anything crazy. Anyway, he literally has me on a limit to 3 times a wk! I can't deal with that! Anyone here support his idea that sex while pregnant is bad for the baby? I'm usually on top or doggy style so he's not smashing the baby, we don't do anything rough...what's the problem?? Link to comment
waveseer Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 You will hear from the guys on this, but it's a mental block some men have. Link to comment
Catdancer Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 I am 26 weeks pregnant and we have sex all the time. We still do it with him on top, he just supports most of his weight on his arms. Also, I've found that doggie is the most comfortable for me. As to the baby, they actually enjoy the rocking motion of sex and it's comforting to them. My OB said that as long as I wasnt bleeding or cramping, go for it!! Also, the emotional bond created while having sex is good for mom, dad and baby. Link to comment
Catdancer Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 Oh and you wont smash the baby. I asked my OB the same thing and he laughed at me! lol Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 It's a normal things for guys to be overly paranoid wait until he's afraid of poking the baby in the head speech LOL. If doctor says it's ok, then it's ok I had sex on up until the day before I had my son. Plan to do the same with this one too. Link to comment
BeStrongBeHappy Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 If he's worried about it, why not get a book that shows some less deep penetration positions like side to side where he doesn't have to worry about it. Then ask him to try them out with you! Link to comment
Aviatormy Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 I think that it is great that he is concerned for the childs well being and all but I agree, you should take him to a doctors appointment with you and bring this question up in front of him. Maybe he just needs to hear it from the doctor that it is ok to still have sex. There also might be the possibility that he is not as turned on with sex while you are pregnant. Some guys think it is erotic to have sex with their pregnant SO while others may not be able to get aroused as often. I definitely would not complain to him about the lack of sex because then he might develope a discomfort towards the idea. I am sure that he wants to please you but if there is pressure to do so, he will not be all that into it. Communication is key Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 I also think it is a mental block. A lot of people find sex while pregnancy weird yet a lot of couples do it. Try it in a laying side position with him coming from the back. There won't be a baby between you and it is less strenuous. Link to comment
thejigsup Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 I'm so sorry, but I'm ROTFLMAO! You can't hurt the baby with sex. Just where do you think the baby is, in your vagina? The baby is far, far, removed from any danger of the penis hitting it, even if he had 12"! Link to comment
WTHUWY Posted December 11, 2008 Author Share Posted December 11, 2008 There also might be the possibility that he is not as turned on with sex while you are pregnant. Some guys think it is erotic to have sex with their pregnant SO while others may not be able to get aroused as often. He definitely gets aroused...he's always wanting me to walk around the house naked....says how sexy I am pregnant....He's all about oral sex right now ALL the time. But actual penetration, not so much. Link to comment
BeStrongBeHappy Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 Haha! Maybe's he using your pregnancy as an EXCUSE to get more oral. Some love love oral so much they'd prefer it to vaginal intercourse. "Oh look honey, i don't want to hurt the baby, how about a b.j. instead?" LoL. Link to comment
WTHUWY Posted December 11, 2008 Author Share Posted December 11, 2008 LOL! No I mean he loves giving me oral! All the time. I can only return the favor so often. Its a little uncomfy for me right now and my gag reflex is really sensitive right now. Link to comment
Aviatormy Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 LOL! No I mean he loves giving me oral! All the time. I can only return the favor so often. Its a little uncomfy for me right now and my gag reflex is really sensitive right now. Oh man. I can not go down on a girl without wanting to have intercourse with her. I find that very strange. I love going down on a girl and it always leads to sex. Perhaps you can tie him up and rape him lol. Then he would have no choice ha ha. Link to comment
WTHUWY Posted December 11, 2008 Author Share Posted December 11, 2008 Oh man. I can not go down on a girl without wanting to have intercourse with her. I find that very strange. I love going down on a girl and it always leads to sex. Perhaps you can tie him up and rape him lol. Then he would have no choice ha ha. I can't receive oral with out wanting to have sex! lol Link to comment
Lecturer Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 Hmm, yeah it's all in his head - not much we can do about it. Personally, I'm never one to turn down sex, and I certainly found my wife attractive when pregnant...but near the end there I must admit I was looking forward to having "my wife" back (yes, her slim hot body!). The big reason is actually probably because position restrictions that came in near the end.. made sex a bit less interesting. Oh.. and the vagina shape changed a bit!... that wasn't the most attractive Not sure if it happens to all women.. but like.. the front wall "caved in" .. hard to describe.... hmmm whereas I can normally go straight into her vagina.. I ended up having to go more towards her back, then up. She's really really small though, so maybe its not every woman. Link to comment
missingdaddy Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 i have 2 kids and sex was never as great as when i was pregnant. you get as much as you need...and if it is close to your due date sex is a grest way to induce labor Link to comment
Isha Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 Sex during pregnancy is perfectly natural and safe unless your waters have broken. Putting anything in your vagina when you are leaking fluid significantly increases the chance of infection. Do you have a medical condition in your pregnancy that would warrant a limit to 3 times a week? If not then that's a very unnecessary rule. I very much enjoyed almost daily sex while pregnant and for my partner my round belly and breasts were a huge turn on. Maybe have a quick google and show him an article on how safe it is? Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 I doubt anyone would be looking forward to having sex while their water is gushing out LOL ewww God I hated that feeling so much!! Sex during pregnancy was honestly the best ever. (Once I was able to do it without getting sick every 2 minutes of course.. ) Link to comment
Sky-Cherries Posted December 12, 2008 Share Posted December 12, 2008 I had sex up until an hour before I was due to be induced. Thank god I never had a problem with my fiance finding my sexy. He didn't mind doing the six legged bedroom beast every single night Link to comment
Hope75 Posted December 13, 2008 Share Posted December 13, 2008 Doctors will tell you that in a low risk pregnancy sex is perfectly safe, and as Cat said the rocking sensation actually is relaxing to the baby and it's comforting to mom and dad and keeps their bond during a changing time for both of them. For many women, once the first trimester is over and the nausea and fatigue subsides sex can feel better than it ever has thanks to the increased blood flow and engorgement of the sexual organs. As far as oral sex, doctors say it's OK but no blowing into the vagina or you can get an air embolism which can be fatal. Enjoy! Link to comment
justimagine Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 I'm 7.5 months pregnant and want it all the time too but he never wants it. Doesnt help me feel attractive at all because its already hard to feel pretty when your gaining baby weight... but! yea we go for weeks without it. Even if I buy lingerie and make him videos or whatever he doesnt look at them and really doesnt even notice im in anything hotter than usual. He often says no to me cuz he's tired. lol I don't know what guy says no to his horny girl... but mine does... i'm just going to pretend that its because of the baby because I have never had anything but compliments about me in bed before and I refuse to believe its because I suck. haha ... maybe he's gay or doesnt love me... oh dear god! lol but yea i've heard that a lot of guys are scared of sex during pregnancy Link to comment
top bloke Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 I was under the impression to not have sex in the early stages but 3 months in was like we just met again.. I dont want to sound weird here but my pregnant wife was just as sexy as always I was not letting her not be fed for soo long..youve got to be kidding me about some of your guys right?? The fact is that it is very liberating not having to worry about contraception and indulging in unrestricted sex..I wish I had a button to turn off my fertility !!! Link to comment
Lamprey Posted January 28, 2009 Share Posted January 28, 2009 Might be a mental block, I can't imagine having sex during pregnancy. Not attractive to me. Link to comment
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