TooComplex Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Hi all, My wife and I are approaching our 10 year anniversary and we are doing well in our life overall. Within the last few months I have quite abruptly stopped wanting sex or any kind of physical interaction with my wife and I cannot for the life of me work out why. I have suffered from depression on and off for the last 10 years or more and have had varying success with different meds although they all turned down my libido. I have been off any meds for a long time and was doing ok, even in my dark patches my sex drive was still fine. Around the same time I have been feeling this way I also made some healthy life changes, taking regular exercise in the form of surfing, changing my diet to mainly whole-foods, cutting down on alcohol, caffeine and sugars - physically I am feeling fantastic and I'm pretty pleased at what I'm seeing in the mirror these days - getting back a 6-pack at 36 years old is very nice I only work 3 days a week, make great money and live in Southern California where i get plenty of sunshine and outdoor time. Mentally I feel pretty good, in the last few weeks I have started taking a daily dose of 5-HTP and a good omega fish oil for mood and that is helping nicely too, it even managed to kick my libido up a little for a few days but then back to this odd funk. My wife is being supportive and not pushing too much, but today she did come to me and ask that I start to think about why this could be as I think the lack of intimacy is starting to bleed out of the bedroom and into our everyday. I'm worried that I'm starting to lose my physical attraction to my wife. She's got a fantastic figure at 31 years old, better than most 21 year olds, but we all get a little less toned as we get older. Living in S. California the beaches and boardwalks are littered with buff beautiful bodies and I see plenty of them when I'm on my morning surf trips. I'm worried that I'm comparing my wife to every bronzed shapely 18 year old runner that goes skipping by and becoming less attracted to her because of it. Link to comment
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