Suzanne1281 Posted July 4, 2008 Share Posted July 4, 2008 I knew it would be inevitable I'd have to see him at some point. We have mutual friends. I just didn't think I'd have to see him so soon after he left me for his ex (please read my other threads to read the whole drama--he lied a lot, tried to keep both of us, kept swinging back and forth). I ignored him and he could barely make eye contact with me either. At first it was horrible, I was shaking, my friends asked me why I looked sad, got quiet...but my friends were great and I had fun with them. After everything he put me through, it was alright to just ignore him, right? Also, when he asked me how I was doing I said "Okay...I'm day to day right now.." That was ok to say right? I didn't have to tell him I'm a mess sometimes, right? And one of our friends asked him what was wrong and he said "I'm sad--I just had all these thoughts come into my head right now.." I wonder what he was sad about--guilt, regret, unhappy with the decision he made? Im comforted that I heard that because if he was super happy with this girl he left me for, he wouldn't be telling his friends he was sad. One of our mutual friends who is very flirty by nature (and doens't know my and the ex's situation) was flirting with me all night as well. I wasn't pushing him away, but I wasn't all over him or anything. I know you're not supposed to flirt with your ex's friends, but it was mainly on his part. That's ok, right? At the end of the night, we were all leaving and the ex stayed behind, by himself, sitting at the bar. We were all outside waiting for our smoker friends to finish their cigarettes-I looked inside and he was sitting at the bar by himself with his head in his hands. I don't know if I'm supposed to feel guilty about this, but I was smiling inside knowing he's not happy. Anyway, was it the right thing to do to just ignore and not try and reach out to him in any way? I'm not a cold person and hate thinking that I came off as cold to him...but everytime I got sad and wished we were talking, I reminded myself of all the crap he put me through and how he made me feel and it was easier to just talk to my other friends. When we finally were leaving, he looked outside at us and I didn't even look at him-just walked away. Furthermore, I have another question, but will just write it in this post: he's been broken up and back together with this girl at least 3 times now. How is it going to work between them if it didn't work the first 3 times? Does that ever happen? Link to comment
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