Jeremy21 Posted June 25, 2008 Share Posted June 25, 2008 So I won't bore everyone with the full story, but there's a girl I've had feelings for since about January now. We had known each other a little bit before that (mutual friend) but it was at that time we started hanging out a lot and it was often just the two of us. As well, for the period of a few months she would often share really personal things about her life (particularly related to eating disorder troubles, which she's dealt with for a few years) that she told me she wasn't sharing with anyone else (I don't know whether that included her ED therapist). Basically, within a rather short period of time we became really close friends. I'm terrible at picking up signals but I realized around that point that she seemed to be somewhat interested in me, and I eventually worked up the courage to ask her about it and admit I was becoming interested too. The catch? Well, she has a bf, and has for some time. However, she admitted in that conversation that she was in fact interested...she even said, maybe half jokingly, (since we also talked about my own of loneliness for so long) that perhaps I could just wait for her to break up with her BF. My sister, in particular, also really picked up on the "signs" she was giving off and felt pretty strongly from me telling her about it that my friend was probably getting pretty close to breaking up with her BF and going to me, and other people assumed that as well. Never happened. Around late March, she became really distant (not just from me, from all her friends) due largely to her going through some ED treatment again. Somewhere in May she started opening up again and we've hung out a bit and talked more often, though not as much as before. This is someone I have so much in common with and is practically everything I'd want in a relationship. I've found as time has gone on that I've really developed feelings for her and I want almost desperately to be with her. But I'm starting to wonder if I was foolish to let myself get close and I'm feeling more and more heartbroken as her relationship with her BF continues. I can still tell she really cares for me as a friend but I don't know if she still has any romantic interest in me. And it seems like she and her BF really fight a lot and that he isn't very good at being supportive of her with her issues (seriously, he seems to be a massive jerk sometimes), but that's been going on for some time and I'm not sure I see any particular sign of them breaking up, even though I was almost sure of it a few months ago. In a nutshell: is this the kind of thing where I'm just going to have to move on and distance myself if necessary? Or is there maybe some hope that they're going to break up? Is it worth waiting around here? Link to comment
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