pregnantkitty_1985 Posted September 12, 2007 Share Posted September 12, 2007 One, if he's into preteens, then yes I think that qualifies as pedophilia. Two, being into underage girls at all suggests a sex offender in the making whether he's a pedophile or not. What disturbs me is that some people are claiming all men find teen girls sexy and it's perfectly normal to fantasize about teens. I don't feel that it is. Why a teen kid when you could have a woman? (20 year olds are young as well as sexy too, you know.) It sends the message to me that as I get older, my value then decreases. I'm going on 22. Should I pretend to be a little 13 year old school girl or 16 year old in a miniskirt to be sexy? It really sickens me. Link to comment
MissTee Posted September 13, 2007 Share Posted September 13, 2007 My question is: Does he still enjoy sex with you when you're not role playing?? Does he still enjoy YOU? If the answer is "no", then I'd say there's a problem. Link to comment
neutronium Posted July 16, 2009 Share Posted July 16, 2009 Hi. I am a pedophile - I am chemically castrated so that I am an enuch and incapable of committing sexual crimes. Your friend is probably a pedophile too. There is a difference however between a pedophile and a child molester. A pedophile is not necessarily a child molester although he has the potential of becoming. That's why you need to part with him. But if you do it with anger and especially if you start humiliating him he may get worse. He needs help but you also need help. Chances are his life will degrade slowly if you part him suddenly. But you should NOT feel guilty. Most pedophiles deserve to be ALONE. We deserve to die. We are dead anyway - we are dead souls. We didn't respect the most fundamental gift that was given to us: our life. The fact that he is alcoholic adds to the suspicion that he is probably a sex addict. This is a kind of addiction which, if untreated, becomes even worse compared to alcohol and drug addiction combined. It's like a soul-cancer if you know what I mean. Death is the only way out for pedophiles and sex-addicts most of the time. Death. before they turn to true demons and become child-molesters. I have no friends. I hate myself, myfamily, and humanity in general - well I feel I hate everything but its not me. I have tried to kill myself many times but I was too scared to do it correctly. I am ALONE against six and a half billion souls and billions of angels, demons and God Himself. I have no chance at all but you have many chances of saving your life. As for him.. May God help him... I am on multiple drug-therapy: anti-psychotic drugs that keep me sedated. I have no sexual arousal and I wake-up and go to bed every so often. Believe me. Its better if I die and if he dies as well. Death is the only way out for monsters like us. Link to comment
ladyblue07 Posted July 16, 2009 Share Posted July 16, 2009 neutronium, I am glad that you are getting some medical treatment for this problem. It is my belief that pedophiles do need to be medically castrated to be able to stop having inappropriate thoughts about kids. Are you also getting counseling? It sounds like that might help a lot in learning how to form healthy and appropriate relationships with others. Link to comment
neutronium Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 neutronium, I am glad that you are getting some medical treatment for this problem. It is my belief that pedophiles do need to be medically castrated to be able to stop having inappropriate thoughts about kids. Are you also getting counseling? It sounds like that might help a lot in learning how to form healthy and appropriate relationships with others. Medical castration doesn't stop the thoughts. It just incapacitates me from acting out my thoughts. It makes me like a vegetable. And counseling helps a bit but it would have helped more if I had started earlier. After a certain age the sexual patterns in the brain are very hard - if not impossible - to change. the brain is not a computer that you can just erase its bad memory and rewrite the healthy data. Ps: Medical castration distorts the sexual thoughts to an extend that they are so sick that I see nightmares most of the time. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 To the OP: I certainly don't think it's "normal" at all for an adult to be into preteens. I can understand young 18 year old girls, sure, but PRETEENS?? As some other members have mentioned already, underage sex/porn is illegal anyway. I have always found this type of thing very very disturbing and it absolutely freaks me out. I would never, ever stay with a man like that, it sickens me so much. I think you should keep a very very close eye on things and if necessary, report it. Link to comment
ladyblue07 Posted July 18, 2009 Share Posted July 18, 2009 Medical castration doesn't stop the thoughts. It just incapacitates me from acting out my thoughts. It makes me like a vegetable. And counseling helps a bit but it would have helped more if I had started earlier. After a certain age the sexual patterns in the brain are very hard - if not impossible - to change. the brain is not a computer that you can just erase its bad memory and rewrite the healthy data. Ps: Medical castration distorts the sexual thoughts to an extend that they are so sick that I see nightmares most of the time. Well this is definitely something outside of our expertise to help with, so I really hope that you can find a professional who is experienced with this to help you to try to learn new thought patterns. Link to comment
Speranza Posted July 18, 2009 Share Posted July 18, 2009 OP, I don't understand why you need our opinions at all... on your own admission you are sickened by this, feel so uneasy that you are thinking of reporting him, and know that he is thinking of pre-teen girls when he is having sex with you. You asked a blunt question and here's a blunt answer. Yes, you should leave. Get out of there and leave him to his complex and troubling addictions. Seek help yourself and sort out why you were able to accept this behaviour and how you didn't see it as Not Normal - this isn't a criticism, I just mean, you deserve to have a guy love you and only you, and you may need support to avoid that kind of pattern again... Sincerely, there is no good outcome possible here. I would hesitate to be so directive normally but - this isn't normal. Do you really even need to check out with us that a 42 year old man is abnormal for focussing his sexual interest on pre-teens? (And lying about it?) Don't feel stupid, but do get out. He won't go to AA so it's hardly likely he's going to face up to any other problems. I'm truly sorry for you (and him) but I don't think you will be able to help by staying. If he cares at all for you, leaving him might just be the catalyst for him to seek help - but don't count on it. Link to comment
knightingale Posted July 18, 2009 Share Posted July 18, 2009 As someone who was molested by a family member, I find this incredibly disturbing. I'm not going say that he is a pedophile now, but he is well on his way. What if you two were to get married and have children? If he is actually turned on by the idea of molesting his "daughter" now, then there is no doubt in my mind that these fantasies will become a reality. Your gut is telling you exactly what you need to know--that this is wrong and you don't need to be a part of it. I really think you should get out of this relationship as soon as possible. Link to comment
avman Posted July 18, 2009 Share Posted July 18, 2009 This thread is nearly two years old and the OP has not returned. Link to comment
Speranza Posted July 18, 2009 Share Posted July 18, 2009 Hmmmmmmmm - I hadn't realised that. Well - here's hoping she got out. Link to comment
knightingale Posted July 19, 2009 Share Posted July 19, 2009 Oops. I didn't even realize, and I usually do. Sorry, avman. Link to comment
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