MissYeah24

You're not a perv, alot of 18 year old girls are very sexy. But how long will it be until the novelty wears off? How long until your laying in bed after explosive sex feeling totally unsatisfied because the most rigorous bit of conversation you can get from her is the chances of Justin Timberlake returning to 'N Sync? If it's physicality your after- go for it, providing she understands your intentions. If intellectual pursuits aren't your cup of tea, go for it- you'll never miss intelligent conversation anyway. But if you need some kind of mental stimulation eventually from the person you're with, set your sights a tad older.

Please do not continue this relationship- to avoid sounding like my mother sounded when I was your age, just trust that the person you are at 16 is not the person you'll be at 20 (I'm 24 and I'm still learning this), and there is a significant difference between a 16 and a 20 year old. Some 16 y.o.'s can go to college, and some 20 y.o.'s act like their 12, but ultimately, you'll find more meaningful relationships with people who are in your age group. Do you know how difficult it is to hold a conversation with someone is their teens when you're in your twenties? Not to be disparaging, but applying to grad schools has no correlation to junior prom. The two of you are on different planes, and if it isn't apparant now, it will be soon. And depending on your states laws, it could be illegal. Enjoy your high school years, have fun at games and at lunch and at dances. There will be plenty of time to date 20 year olds- when you're 20.

You like women- enjoy it!

Okay- please help me with this one guys- I'm two years removed from college with plenty of work experience, as I have worked since I was 16. I did very well in university, and am considered an asset to my employers. I fervently want to become a pharmaceutical sales rep, and have even went as far as to accept a mediocre position in an area hospital in order to learn drug jargon and fraternize with physicians. But this has all been in vain. I have interviewed twice now, and heard the same drivel twice: "We love your personality and know you would succeed with us BUT we have decided to go with someone with pharmaceutical experience." Thus, the double edge sword. How can I get the experience necessary without getting the..uh..experience? So here are my questions: 1- What more can I do short of plastering my photo on an I-95 billboard begging a company to hire me...? and.. 2- While my actor/musician friends have been introduced to reality, is there a possibility that my goal of becoming a drug rep will never come to fruition? Please help me with this one - I'm at a loss.

Trust me, she doesn't hate you. This presumed hatred or indifference is the result of absolute contempt for what you did- shatter her world. When you lose that is which you love, it does more than just break your heart or make you emotionally vunerable- it destroyed your belief structure. And as someone who gives two sh**s about money, fame or power, I realize that the one true reason I live is to love- whether it be friends, family, lovers or myself. Every other bit of anything flows from that. I pray you seek help. I'm not going to tell you to join a club, or take up a new hobby. Thats like putting a bandaid on cancer. What you need to do is fix yourself- find out why your afraid, what you lack or fail to give. We get one chance at this often tragic thing called life. No one deserves to feel the pain you now do. Find the love your lacking- the love of yourself.

I never perceived myself to be an idealistic moron living with fanciful expectations. Now I just don't know... Long story short... I suppose when you fall in love with someone who is deep and deliberative(unlike the mindless jocks I dated before), you set yourself up for more resonating pain. My boyfriend of almost 2 years is confused as to if we should continue to live together. His reasoning is something I have never encountered- he can't get motivated to do anything with me around. When we are together, he is consumed with me, whether its going places or simply sitting home watching Law and Order repeats. This scares the hell out of him, because at age 26, he finally is a senior in college and being "worthwhile". I, at 24, graduated college 2 years ago and have been his biggest cheerleader, which is what this lonely person needed. He has told me before that he would not mind a lifetime of solitude, but in the next breath tells me he definitely needs people in his life. I know he loves me, deeply and truly, but I can't understand why he can't multitask school, a part- time job, and a relationship with someone who is independent and enjoys, though does not require, much of his time. Where did I go wrong? Should I move out with a girlfriend and continue the relationship so that he can evaluate whether he's claustrophobic living with me or is there writing on the wall that I'm not reading???