thehaunted123

REALLY drunk girls where it's so bad that they can't speak clearly is an obvious turnoff, it makes it easier to "score" with em (i hate that word), but that would be it. Drunk girls, who can still talk and get on with really well is great however. If you have just met them or don't know them very well they will be far more open to talking.

If it looks like she's spent a lot of time on something, for example, hair. or it's something she's never wore before, like a new bit of jewellery or something of that sort, just comment casual but as if you mean it "hey, i like your hair, do something new to it?" Works for me anyway.

I have the same problem sort off. I can talk for something for a while then run out of ideas. If it's with a girl you like ask her what she's done over the week/weekend, chances are she'll say she done [this and that], there are two leads for you to talk about already.

I asked a girl about a week ago if she wanted to head out with some friends (and her friends) and she said yes. Her friends and mine bar one couldnt make it, so we went out anyway. got along great, this is the first time I'd actually met her in person, the start was a bit akward but we got on really well. Bought her some drinks (nightclub), talked for a while, but eventually I ran out of things to say for a conversation. I've asked her out again next week and she said yeah. This time I want to make a better impression I guess. I need to be a bit more talkative. First of all, I need some conversational tips, she is 16, I am 18. We get along great but I cant keep repeating the same conversation over and over y'know. Second of all as far as it seems, I would say she likes me, I really like her, how do you go in for that kiss? I'm not overly confident, I'm confident enough though I would say (3 months to a year ago even asking her would have been a mission, I've lost 3 stone in weight since then aswell.) Thanks if anyone can help.

Yeah I realise not every girl is going to like me, I can live with that and rejection by thinking what you just said to me there.. The bad breath and odor arent a problem, I'm clean and I take my time to dress well so I guess presenting myself isnt a problem, just actually talking to them and what I said above.. But it's still worth the try I would say. The going to pubs or bars to meet others is the only other way I have, I've tried everywhere else really with no luck, and my friends seem to be able to do it no problem so I might as well try. Thanks for the tips and all, I'll see how it goes, hopefully something works out

Okay, me and my friends are going out on sunday night to a bar... lots of girls there blah blah, my friends dont have any problem getting girls and stuff, but they arent shy, I am, I could probably over come that though, but I don't know how to go about even talking to girls or whatever...thats what I find hard. (It might help that bit more if someone from the UK answers it, as UK pubs might be different from Americans? but answer anyway ) Thanks to anyone who replies

Depends on what age you are. If you are in your late twentys or so, he would be 35+ at least... then it shouldnt matter.

Okay here it is. I'm 17, yeah, you could all say its young, but I've never went out with a girl in my life, not even close to it. At my age thats not too normal, even if its young, Its not accepted by todays society, and you're looked apon differently everywhere. All that can be said for me is that I've never went out with a girl before, not close, nothing close to it, I really want too, but not just something that is going to last 2 weeks and nothing more, I want something that matters that big more I guess. Right now I have no intrest in sex, I'll take it one step at a time. All my friends have went out with someone before, infact. I dont know one person who hasnt went out with someone before, apart from me. Its really depressing thinking about it like that, I hate it. I've tried a lot of things, nothing ever works, and now I think about it all the time.. I've been looked down on before because of it, it is the worst feeling ever, but dont get me wrong, I dont want to go out with someone just to stop that treatment I'm getting from other people, I want something that matters. I'm not too confident, but not too shy, I can talk if I'm spoken too really. Recently there was this one girl though, I really liked her, she was quiet aswell, I tried, I spoke to her as much as I could with as much confidence and normallity that I could... I wouldnt get much of a reply other than "mmmm" "yea" "no".... It was hopeless, one of my mates started talking to her and she was talking normally to him. That set my self esteem really down.... It was asif I wasnt good enough or something Now I'm back to square one while my mates are all going out with people and I'm on my own completely, only one of them realised this, and said my time will come soon, but it hasnt come, that was a good while ago... I'm fed up with it now. Sorry about this post, I just really need to vent/rant about it and get it out of me or I wont be able to sleep normally or something, it feels better

Go to a music store, you might see someone looking at a cd you like, walk up and look at a CD, and ask them casually do they like that band, and continue on from there.

I also use the computer a lot and my social life isnt too big. Disconnect your computer, I mean every wire from the back of your tower. Go downtown and look for a part time job, youll get to know people, and earn some money.

I'm going to give that a try, thanks, better than sitting around waiting

right, its probably similar to other problems around here I'm sure, i checked, but whatever, here it goes I have problems talking to girls completely, I dont know if its my looks, or personality, members.lycos.co.uk/blackgoatupload/Upload/Image004.jpg thats a picture to see for yourself. I'm 17, that picture was taken 2 months ago, I've lost a bit of weight since then though which is good, i'm not too big. anyway, would that be the problem that I'm 17 and never went out with someone while all my friends do? thats the only difference I can see, I recently tried with a girl, but nothing happened and I lost it all to someone else really, never heard from her again and i know she has no intrest at all, its one of those things that can be told. can anyone suggest how i can meet girls, all my friends are boys, so i dont know any anymore. if anyone can suggest how, then can you suggest how I can get someone to like me, but without making it the most obvious thing ever or something, I'm a shy person I already know that, I'm also a somewhat private person at times, cant help that. I've tried being different personality wise, a bit more outgoing, and other things, but its not me, and didnt work anyway... someone told me before (someone online) that it takes a guy to approach a girl in most cases anyway, is that true? thanks.