Rm0812

that is definitely NOT the issue, i'm glad she's doing well, i have not a resentful feeling about the fact that she is (and probably will always be) more successful than i. i guess another thing about this is that perhaps i've been lying to myself for a long time, so much that i deny i miss any physical (in person) attention from my g/f. i never allowed myself to feel that i need that attention, that i'm fine with this whole long distance thing, that i'm "not a woman" and i don't need the emotional/physical attention. my g/f has admitted that she's the opposite, and she needs all that, but i've always been "fine". i guess it's really snuck up on me, that i've suppressed that idea for so long, and now a girl is actually providing me with the said attention that i've subconsciously longed for a long time that i can't help but get sucked in..... i dont know

well it hadnt always been 2000 miles....started out as friends at the same school, then the relationship started as a 2 hr drive apart after my transfer, then the last 2 yrs it's been a 2k miles....i know i know im just picking at the insignificance....but we have spoke about that, i would either move to where she is, or she would move where i am if i find a job here. and as recent as a couple weeks ago, we toyed with the idea that she could look into moving out here even before i'm done with school.....but now i don't know if that's too great of an idea anymore....wouldn't want her to move her whole life 2k miles and things wind up not working out..... ARRRRRRRRGGGGG

well for the longest time, i saw myself as a 1-woman man, i see myself as the devoted family man type, but due to recent events, i'm beginning to question/doubt myself.... i'm trying to take into consideration of some of the advices ive gotten so far, and perhaps inform my g/f of my doubts. we are 2000 miles apart, been a long distance relationship from the get-go (6 yrs), though we get along well and seem to be quite compatible, and it's always been the understanding that once i'm through with school we'd get married and live together. however, we've never honestly been TOGETHER up to this point. i've virtually enjoyed a true single guy's lifestyle without the "hindrances" that sometimes a significant other would cause. i do "crazy" boy stuff like spending my paychecks on my car and motorcycle, i go racing (both), i'm no stranger to last minute up-and-go roadtrips with buddies, and other little things from eating dinner at midnight to spending all day sitting around doing nothing, to having a messy pigstall of a room. i've basically been free to come and go as i please. and all the while i have been faithful to my lady, which haven't been an issue until recently. more and more of our friends are getting married, and as recently as last week with my sister's wedding, she has been talking more about "our future". we have talked about in some details in the past, and i've always looked forward to "it" -whatever "it" is. but in a recent conversation we had about living together, she said to me (verbatim) "you know your lifestyle will change greatly." at the time it didn't have much effect on me as i understand exactly what she meant. but more and more that phrase is running through my head the more and more "scared" now i'm becoming. and as i mentioned in the other post, she has had similar doubts about if we're staying together for the sake of it, because that's just what we've done and we haven't tried anything different. although she has since retracted her statement(s) but the fact that i know she has at one point questioned "us" doesn't calm my doubts either, however, i am in no way trying to "pin" this on her. she's always thought highly of me, she thinks that i'm the greatest, that i would be a great dad (despite some of our conflicting views/believes on various issues), and i don't know if it's just my guilty conscience, but it seems as though she's been praising me more and more this last couple weeks....how special i am, how much she loves me and how great i'll be and such. before i took those kind of comments as true compliments (as they are intended to be), but i'm beginning to feel pressure from them. i don't know/think that i can live up to her expectation, i fear i'm doomed to become a disappointment to her. i haven't done anything TOO regretable with this other girl (from the other thread) to consider myself as a cheater, dishonest perhaps. so i'm not only questioning the faithfulness aspect, i'm simply doubting myself as a whole, am i really a "family man"? i mean com'on, a girl that i barely know for 5 months can derail my thinking this easily, im a much weaker person than i could ever imagine. can i really sacrifice the lifestyle that i've become so accustomed to? not saying that married life is a prison, but let's admit it, it's a world of difference and sacrifice is inevitable. and most of all...how could i even begin to bring this up? esp. when she thinks that we've made up and everything is "dandy"? and i know for a fact that the slightest mention of what's going on in my mind will completely devastate her. i really am not sure if i should bring this up also because i'm not sure that i'm not going to be fine. i'm not sure either way, that's why i'm hesitant on even mentioning, hoping perhaps this is just a small bump that will work itself out (or i'll work myself out) and would become a non-issue and not worth bringing it in the open and cause head/heartache and pain from what could be a moot point. what do i do????

real men love vaginas in all sizes and shapes.....just not too hairy of one, but thats nothing a razor cant fix

she was probably testing to see if you were straight or not by the way you held the bag. did u stick it in ur armpit? did u strap it around ur shoulder? or did u just clinched onto it with a fist like it was a football? when i hold my g/f's purse...say while she goes to the bathroom, i do the fist thing to make sure i look caring, BUT manly lol

thats how i get myself in trouble alot, i like walking by women/girls and look at them in the eyes and smile, regardless of if i find them attractive...and for those who i find attractive, i raise my brows as i smile....its like my silent way of saying....."how you doin'?" so i don't know if he likes you or not, but i know for me, if a girl keeps looking at me as we passes, i automatically assume she likes me, heck, most us guys think a girl likes us if they simply don't avoid us, it's not hard to mislead a guy, so you can't really go by what a guy thinks when a girl looks at him.

not knowing and not caring are 2 different things, some people drink just to get drunk, and they know very well what their tolerances are

sadly at this current moment, no i dont. i get excited when i see this girl, i miss her when i don't, granted we've only been friends for a few months. with my gf, it's like we've been apart/independent from one another for so long that i feel like i really don't need her physically or emotionally, and in the past she has made a similar mention. deep down i've been asking myself alot lately that have i simply grown too acustomed to our relationship? to her? that i no longer feel the excitement like a new relationship would have? i mean being thousands miles apart 320 days out of the year can't help with this "connection" you're speaking of. i'm not trying to make excuses, but time after time i ask that, i just don't have the answer, or i'm just too scared to answer them....i just don't know.

im really starting to fall into a very dark and dangerous hole....i really dont want preaching, but more suggestions/advices from people who perhaps had similar past experiences. for background info, i have been "with" my g/f for 6 yrs.....all of which have been long distance. we have always went to different universities, and afterwards she moved north for a job while i decided to pursue a second degree on the west coast. we see each other over holidays back home, and here and there maybe once every anywhere from 2 to 4 months. for the most part, things work, we get along great when we see each other i guess because we know we have to put aside everything else during the short time we have together. as all couples, we argue about stupid stuff when we're on the computer or over the phone, but generally we make up quickly and move on. but recently, things been deteriorating slightly. we argue more often, over more meaningless things, and takes us longer to make up, we both are getting more testy with one another. about a month ago it got to a point where she mentioned perhaps we should try "different things". but we seemed to have patched things up again and had a wonderful time together when we saw each other last week. but now onto separation probably until christmas/new years, and it feels like its just a matter of time before we argue and fight about something stupid. and she's so far ahead in her life than i am in mine, i'm still neck deep in loans, still going to school, still doing crazy boyish stuff, while she's all grown up and making big money and owns a nice house. it almost feels like i'm holding her back from what she really wants that i can't provide. but i do love her and genuinely care about her, but just really starting to question our future, or the lack there of one. so then enters this girl. i met her at my work, she's there all the time, and i see her all the time. it was definitely a physical attraction at first, she's very "hot" for the lack of a more sophisticated description, she's spanish and only been in the states for about 6 months, so still strong spanish accent, which i found ridiculously "hot" (again). i didn't really try to talk to her at first as i knew it would be meaningless/unproductive. but then when things started to go south in my relationship, i started to flirt and hit on this girl. and to my astonishment, she returned the flavor. so now after a couple months of this, she finally decided that we needed to talk. and i sort of had an idea what about. last night, we sat down and chatted for a few hours and everything basically came into the open. she admitted that she lives with this guy, and that she's married (though it took her a while to bring it out). i kind of had an idea from listening to other people she works with, and a silver band on her ring finger, but i wasn't sure as she never mentioned a thing up to this point. and i confirmed her assumption that i have a g/f. she wasn't too thrilled but she admitted that it made her feel less bad about not telling me about her marriage which she really sees no future in. she admitted that she married out of impulse and really doesn't like the guy anymore, especially the more she sees and knows me. we parted ways with several casual kisses on the lips and on my neck....and so it begins she likes me alot and i like her alot too, but i'm confused as to what capacity. she's a really nice girl especially after a long talk and now knowing more about her, but also the suspense of a girl who i really don't know much about is definitely adding to the attraction. i know what i'm doing is selfish and morally wrong, and i know i should either stop or break it off with my g/f. HOWEVER, i'm not sure i'm ready to do the latter, we have so much history, our families, and all the other things that a 6-yr relationship have. but i'm no longer 100% convinced that it's a sure path to a life-long partnership. i know it could just be a very small kink in the chain because of the given recent events, and the bad timing of an interested lady friend that's blurring my vision. but i really want to see how each works out before i stick with one path, and it's not a fair thing to do. i don't know what i'm doing, i mean i know, but then again i don't. anyone with past experience like such please share. i just need to talk about this to "someone", just not anyone that i know....