buckley

thankyou so much for answering...... but we DID have a relationship but only for 2 mnth when i decided to break up with him as i was going overseas then we stayed friends for 2 mnths BUT HE WAS STILL IN LOVE WITH ME and then i left for overseas where i am now.....do you still think he is still in love with me? is that what he meant in his email? and do you think we should just leave it and get back together when i come home, was that what yuo meant inyour post? what did he ean in his email??? hmm i wonder! so in your post you said people become less atttached to that person when he or she isnt around, but is that true do you think if you have had a relationship and are or in love or atleast still really love them? also did you have a problem you wanted to share cos i will be more then happ to reply to you in return for your help to me. thankyou charlie

can someone please help me understand............if your in love with someone but they move away or are far away form you so that you dont see them for mnths can your love for them become less? my bf was so madly in love with me but now im overseas for 6mnths and he said he still loves me but he feels less and he thinks it is because im not there, is that possible? doesnt distance make the heart fonder? pls help me know, i want to understand where hes at.

I was with my 1st love two and a half yrs ago........ we met in my home country when he was on holiday, i was moving abroad to hsi home country so we kept in touch for oevr a yr until i finally finished my studies and had the chance. during the time of keeping in touch i realized how much he was this person i so connnected with, he felt the same. anyways when i moved abroad and met back up with him the obvious happened, we hooked up. it was full on, ild never felt anything liek it, it was incredible. then he started distancing, he never called me and would only see me every now and then, he warned me about this before we got involved. he was too scared ever since an ex girlfriend of 3 yrs ago had burned him. he said he could only get close to ppl who didnt matter or if he knew it was definetly going to last, and with meit wasnt going to last because i would eventually have to move back to my country and he had tried to but couldnt get a visa to where i lived, but mostly it was the timimng, he said he needed time to sort his head, he had also stopped havin sex with me. i coudltn deal so i would leave thinkng he didnt really have feelings for me and then when i would go to leave he wouldnt stop me but he would hold me in a way that was so strong and he would always say he wouldnt not see me again and he hoped for us to work it out bu he needed time. he wnated so bad to stay friends so i would se ehim again but we always ended up gettin close but it was always me coming onto him and him still being alil distant even sexually. we ended up sayin we would take time apart so we ocudl be just friends cos he staretd havin anxiety attacks and went on antidepressants but timimng have it i had to return home for awhile, i hadnt seen him for ages so iw ent to se ehim and he he had a just sex relationship going on, he said he did the exact same thing to his ex gf who he was madly in love with and he still hoped for us but i said no and i said dint wanna see him unles si was over him. he kept in touch with me but would always say if he saw me again he would be too tempted to get close so was maybe better if we just kept in touch, we saw each other again but i keot my distance, i was still in love with him even htough it had been 6 mnths, i figured he still didnt hope for us as he told me he was going to move city and was still seeing the just sex girl, i asked if he still had feelings for me and he said no then yes but that he couldnt cos too much stress etc. anyways it was a yr later i was movin back to my hoem country and we had kept in touch so i asked to see him, we were so close for so long that i still cared about him and still felt liek we were close, he thougth about ti for 3 mnths n then said no cos he knew he would be too tempted to get close to me again even tho he was still seeing that girl. when he writes ot me he tells me he fantasises abuot me and wants photos and this is 2 n half yrs later, i asked why he would have been tempted and he said cos he still had soft spots for me, but im now over him still going on about fantasisinga botu me etc cos i feel like its all i ever was that or he stil has feelings for me, but anyways ive cut of contact with him seems we cant just be friends but im sad i had to do that, is it normal for ex bfs to fantasise about you and want photos and not see you even tho they wanna cos they know they will get close to u etc..........all i knwo is i feel sorry for his current gf.............did i do the right thing? by cutting of conatct, is what hes doing normal ? does he still have feelings for me? ive moved on and now with a guy who i love very much and treats me good aswell, and dont wanna live in past as my ex continusoulsy does when in touch with me.....

is it ok for guys/boyfriends to fatasise about their exs and keep in touch with them and tell their exs how they would be sooo tempted to have sex with them again or certain things they used to do otgether in bed with one another, and ask for pervy photos of them and tell them they couldnt actually see them again because they know that they would try to come onto them and that it would be wrong to do it for real as they dont want to fall out with their ex or cause complications...........this is what my bofriend has been sayin to his ex behind my back.....should i be worried, is he still in loev with her...am i just security.... do people sometimes just go out with people just to have someone, eveven for a really long time????

Hiya ppl......my name is well buckley obviously, im 22yrs old and currently living in london but from dublin ireland. This is my first time writing on this site and im not usualy the kinda person who can open up this easy, but im really confused. Im usualy a confident exspressive person but lately things have been too much for me and i feel more quiet. Ive got a few things on my mind but i dont wana bothe ryou all with all of it, because believe in me its so complicated...my life usualy is hehe. when i came oevr to london i met this wonderful guy ive kept in touch whos friends with a friend of mine for over a year. weve been off and on for almost 10 mnths now and i just dont know whats goin on. he never calls me yet when i call him hes really happy that i have and gets all excited and asks me over, then the next day walking home he will ask me to stay again and tell me he misses me. then i wont hear from him.....hes told me even before imet him in london how he cant get close to people as hes scared of being hurt again. i said it was ok but as log as i knew he did care about me. I get upset though sometimes when he wont call etc because i dont understand how you can liek someone and not go out of your wayfor them, but i understand hes warned me that he cant do this . he gts really stressed that he will hurt me but i dont listen because i cant..i love him. then outta nowhere he will call and say do u need to know where we stand, and i know its really him who wants to know and then he will say how much he does care about me and htinks of me all the time and his work mates tell me how they always know when ive been at his house nbecause hes all smiley when he walks in to work etc. sometimes i get tired of not knowin if he loves me, hes even stopped being affectionate but when i go to leave him he gets really upset, he never tries to stop me because he knowc he cant get attached yet to me but he gets really upset and he will hug me and not let go and say how important it is to stay in touch etc. we always end up together again though, we try to be friends but it never pulls through to the end. i can feel he loves me but does he really???? he has anxiety attacks and stresses, he cant opn up to me but when i go to walk away he does and its then that he does tell me how he feels and says htings like he wishes i saw other ppl because then he just coudlnt liek me and he wouldnt have to deal with this. what do u think? weird or what??? this time after leaving him he said he still wnated ot get back together but when the time is more right. what do u think of htis. hes slept with someone else when we were apart also, but he said he was down and needed someone. i left him officaly for this but when we kept i touch he always spoke about past times with us and how he would love to have certain times together again usualy in a sexual way though.......can u guys make anythin of this? thanks for your help