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Yep, she cheated, not once, but twice...as far as you know. She's failed the test, she's done, buh-bye, don't look back...sorry baby. she has no respect for you, you need to show her the same. Just leave, don't even say anything cept to the kids...keep them close. Kids are great...cheating wife, not so great. I hope someone cheats on her

Princess must be one of those cheating * * * * * *... hahahaha, I hate them. You should go somewhere else, cuz you don't need to be here telling people who cheat not to ever tell. I hope you get/have been cheated on, I wanna hear about it

If YOU want something, then YOU do it. I deal with parents trying to tell me what to do and why as well. I am 23 years old and can make those decisions my damn self. If you don't do something you want to do, you may regret it Be careful though, the promises from your girlfriend are only words...whether you two are in the best relationship in the world or not, she can not guarantee anything. But, that should not deterr you away from doing it. If you make the decision to go there, you need to be doing it for yourself. If that is the case, and you move and things dont work out, you will be fine...AND in a new exciting place. What you need to think about is just that. What happens if things don't work out? Hopefully they do, and hopefully you will be happy with whatever you decide to do, but from me to you, do what you want, not what your parents want...you can do anything. Good luck!!

Hey guys, Thank You for your replies!! I am sorry that it took me a few days to respond, but have been very busy. Halo- I don't blame my father for any of his problems stemming from PTSD, I have researched it, understood it, and tried to get help for him...to no avail. He has said many times he is going to stop drinking, which only spurs the episodes of PTSD along. He denies that he needs to see a psychiatrist or anything like that, he refuses! At this point, I don't feel he is trustworthy when he says something will get done...at all No, those are not my only options. I feel strongly about wanting to start my own business, as this is something I feel I can do, and do well. Also, the money involved can be VERY good, if done right. I don't want to answer to a "boss" or have to schedule my personal life around work. I am aware that this is not something most people can say and act out at the same time, because it is hard to start a business. But, I have an opportunity to do just that, successfuly, so I want to go down that road first and see where it takes me. I am not trapped here, but feel like I am because I have always felt that if I don't do exactly what he wants then he will be upset, or will be offended. I am acquiring my appraisers license through him (if you are not aware, an appraisers assistant has to train under a licensed appraiser for 2,000 field hours) and I think he will feel like I basically "used" the business just to get my license. Also, I do not live with them, I live with my fiance, her 5 yr. old, and in a couple weeks my son Iceman, Thank you for replying. You were right about reputation. My father has been doing this for over 20 years. We live in a moderately sized valley, which is growing in massive amounts at a quick pace. He has had a reputation up until about 3-4 years ago of being one of the best appraisers in the valley, hands down. People, even regular clients, have turned away from us because of our turn around times. They used to be up to par, but as I stated in my initial post, he has let the business slip. This hurts me in more than one way. A- if I stay here, like I said before, I will have to re-erect the business. B- if I go out on my own, I have the same name, so people will be leary of it to begin with. That Sucks!! I want to go out on my own, I REALLY REALLY do...but have no idea how to break it to him without a blowup...

I am 23 years old. Have dealt with an alcoholic father who also fights bouts with PTSD, which is from his service in the Marines during Vietnam. He has taught me with a certain passion to respect others, to respect him, and to do whats right. These things are right in and of themselves, but have I not been respected in return....in general. My father has been there to provide financial support, and at times was there emotionally....at times. I never really knew about the drinking, and how much it affected me until I moved away for college...I guess my family thought I was "finally old enough" to hear the bad stuff, and to stop censoring it from me. I am the "baby" of the family...and have NEVER liked that term, but have been called that since I can remember. My father is an appraiser, and a very good one at that. I had never been interested in doing that, because for years it was ALL FAMILY RUN. Which is nice, but takes its toll on the family, which is something I treasure much more than money or status. When I was 18, I started community college here in my home town, and was asked to work for my dad during that time. Knowing that it would be hard to find an employer with flexible hours allowing me time at school, and knowing that I DID NOT in any way want to work there, I still felt somewhat obligated to do so...and I did. It was hard for me to say what I wanted to say...as it always is and was. Now, 5 years later, with a child on the way, I am taking an interest in appraising as a profession. One problem: I am different than my dad, and different than my brother (who is also an appraiser, here, and not happy...because he works here). I don't have much of a relationship with either of them, but put on a smiley face, and they have no idea that things are as hard for me as they are...I have never been allowed, by any member of my family, to be an individual. I am different, I don't want to settle for anything and just live a "blah" life, as they are. I want to enjoy when I do see them, and am finding its very hard to do that when I see them everyday..both in my professional life, and in my personal life. I have had things done for me for my entire life (community college, university paid for, spending money given to me the whole time, and now, if I settle for this, my job), which was nice, until I realized I needed to be self-sufficient, and need to prove to me that I have done something to better my situation, and now my fiance and my son's situation. I want to start my own business with a friend who understands me and I understand him. The biggest problem is that this business here is struggling, and its directly correlated with his drinking and letting the business go in recent years. He is burnt out. I can (A) continue to settle to work here, knowing that I am going to be miserable...but make him happy, or (B) I can go out, start my own business and just accept that those actions may impair my relationship with him. I know the decision sounds easy, but when it comes down to it, I was taught to respect others...almost more than myself. And now I am having a hard time with going out on my own...I don't want to lose what relationship I have with my father, but if I stay, that relationship, I feel, will diminish anyways. He is not telling me to be the best I can be, he is asking me to settle for what he has already done for me..and when he is ready to hand the business to me (and my brother...) I will have to re-erect the business, and I have a feeling I will be told how to do that too...imagine that. To me-thats a disrespectful notion, which is consistent with how he has been towards me for twenty-three years. I may just be venting, but someone else's point of view would be appreciated...or just to hear from someone who can identify with my situation. Thanks