Yo man...let me congratulate U on the way U went about this and are going about this.
U didn't all keep after her and everything like 99.87346364736% of us did.
U are giving her the chance 2 take that opportunity with someone else, and she will NOT 4get U at all. I'm sure that she does think of U, etc.
Just give it time man, I'm in the exact position U are in, same exact age difference between me and my ex. Only thing is that she wasn't "kooky and needy" as U put it with yours.
I also made the mistake of chasing after her and doing all the wrong things like not accepting it. Well I finally did, and I haven't tried any contact, etc. since Jan. 4th. My ex has a new man I've heard, so the ball's in her court. If she wants me back, it's up 2 her. She knows how I feel and where I'm at...it's the same with your ex.
Man, U definitely did this the right way...Congratulations 2 U. Maybe our ex's will come back 2 us when they have the time 2 realize that we're what they always needed. I'm willing 2 bet because of the way that U handled it, that she will come back 2 U eventually. Good luck 2 U, man.
-Solo34