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  1. curlyl1
    He called me today, to wish me a happy birthday..we chatted and i made some comment about getting old...he said "tell me about it, think we just have to accept it!" What is that all about? He doesnt know that i know his new gf is 22
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    I know what you are saying about him not being the sort of person that i want to be with is right - i just wish my heart would agree. Guess it is just going to take time for my heart to catch up with my head...thanks for all the support
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    Is the fact that they are together so soon after the split mean that they were having an affair, do you think? Or is it just a rebound thing? He says nothing happened before we split - but i just dont know anymore
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    My thoughts exactly, but i couldnt work out whether i was just turning into a bitter ex, as i would hate that to happen. I just cant believe he has flung "us" away
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    Thank you again for all the support - it means the world to me. I am getting better day by day again, but for some weird reason the 22 year old thing is bugging me. One minute i feel sorry for my ex as if he is going through some mid life crisis and that one day he will realise exactly what he has lost, and then the next i am devastated that he has left me for someone so young...do you think it is normal to feel like this?
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    Thank you for your advice. It makes a big difference hearing people's view on things. I agree with you that i should not waste any energy thinking about him and i will try not too - I think i am because this is new news to me. He is a nurse and works with this girl, so i think that he finished with me to be with her. She also finished with her live in partner about a month before he finished with me. He says that he didnt cheat...that is debatable...but even if he didnt physically he did mentally...sorry to go on and on, but i just need to get all my thoughts out and get advice
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    My bfriend finished with me 6 weeks ago (lived together for 3 years). At the time he said he just wasnt in love with me anymore, i asked if there was anyone else a hundred times and he always said no. Today i have found out that he has been dating a girl from his work since 5 days after we split. He is 33 and she is 21. Im gutted and shocked. Please help me to get through this, I was doing so well before i knew this, but this has flung me back to the beginning
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    Hi My boyfriend of 4 years (lived together for 3) finished with me completely out of the blue the week before xmas. Everything had been fine between us, not wonderful but not bad, i thought we were just going through a lttle difficult patch, anyway, he told me that he loved me, but was not in love with me. He said there was nobody else etc etc....anyway...... the first week i contacted him alot as he wished to remain friends, i was happy go lucky when we spoke and everything was ok, the second week i broke down completely, so we then had no contact at all for 3 weeks. On saturday it was arranged that i would go and get all my stuff. We had a great day together laughing etc. When i was leaving he hugged me. I then told him that i knew that he had started seeing a girl from his work, after alot of crying on his part, he admitted it but said that they had only been out twice, and that it was nothing serious as he was going to Oz for a month next month. Anyway, (sorry im rambling) he then told me that he loved me, how great it was to see me, how i was wonderful, beautiful etc etc and that he must be some sort of freak for doing what he has done...blah blah blah (im sure you all have had the same stories)....anyway, i now havent slept since Saturday as i cant work out what is going on, my mind goes round and round....does anyone have an opinion? Please i need my mind to stop! I know it is sad, but i do still love him and want him back.
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    I know i will be very upset, but i will try my hardest not to show it. For some reason though, I think that it is something i have to do alone
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    Thanks, i think you are right. I just need to get it over and done with, it will break my heart yet again but it does have to be done.
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    Hi I really need some advice. My b/f and i split up about 5 weeks ago, we had been together for 4 years and lived together for 3. Anyway, I still have stuff at his house and we still have the financial side of things to sort out. We have agreed that i will go to his on Sat to get everything sorted out, but as it gets closer to sat, i am starting to feel weak and pathetic again, as i still love him so much. Should i call him with some excuse and say that i cant make sat and arrange it for another time when i feel stronger or should i just go?
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    [He was meant to contact me this week to arrange a suitable time for me to collect all of my stuff next week, as i need to hire a van...why has he not contacted me? Surely he wants my stuff out of his life?
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    Nataliejulie - thank you for your words, it is good to know that it does eventually start to get better. Octopus - I am trying my hardest not to contact him, it is just hard to stop myself thinking about him. I keep myself busy but i still cry last thing at night and first thing in the morning. I just cant understand how i never saw this coming.
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    Thanks for all the advice. You are right. I am awaiting him getting back to me with a suitable time for us to sort out financial side of things etc (he works shifts). I wont contact him, and then once i get my stuff etc, i will go on NC again. Thank you all x
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    Did you finish with her? I can understand that i want to speak to him because i feel the same way as i always did, but surely after4 years, if he doesnt want to be with me, we should just move on separately? Or am i seeing things in black and white
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    My b/f of 4 years finished with me a month ago (i lived with him for 3 years). He gave no real reason except that his feelings had changed, and that he was no longer "in love" with me. He says that there is definitely not anyone else. For the first 2 weeks we were in contact, but it was too difficult for me, so for the following 2 weeks we did NC. I then texted him on Sat to arrange to get my stuff and sort out the money side of things etc, he was at work but called me back when he finished. We spoke on the phone for about 25mins. Nothing was mentioned about us, just general chit chat... why did he bother talking to me at all? Why did he not just say come and get your stuff etc, bye? He confuses me more and more. It is driving me crazy
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    How are you today Nikkers? Everyone says we shall have good days and bad ones, i just wish the good ones would start to outweight the bad ones.
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    Thanks. I just seem to be getting worse and worse. One of my friends (who lives with my ex's friend) called me last night for a chat. She told me that my ex and her partner were away out to the pub for a few pints and a game of pool. At the time when she told me i was ok about it, but it must have been playing on my mind because last night i didnt sleep a wink, wondering if he was seeing someone else, had he forgotton all about me etc etc. Today, i feel as uptight as i did on day 1. Nikkers, thanks for being here, it is good to know im not alone. Lion-gu, i wish i could stand tall, im just feel very weak just now
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    Day 12 - was ok at the start of today, but now im desperate to call him, i have all these questions going round my head... is he missing me, is he unhappy, he wanted to be friends, so why has he not contacted me? I
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    Hi My boyfriend of 9 years died a few years ago of cancer. He was told he had 6 months to live. From my point of view, your friend must tell his g/f what is happening. I miss my b/f every day, but it is nice to know that he did not have a choice in leaving me, and that it was outwith his control. Now when i look back i remember how much he loved me and it makes me feel warm inside. It will hurt this girl more if he just finishes with her. I met a new man, and after a 4 year relationship he finished it for no reason - and it hurts just as much but i also have a huge feeling of rejection, which is horrible. Please tell the girl the truth
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    Thanks for the advice. I appreciate it. It is good to know that the way i am feeling is normal, and that i am not losing my mind.. When do you start to feel a bit better?
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    It is 11 days since i have had contact with my b/friend of 4 years (lived with him for 3). I am back staying at my dad's just now (im 33years old) and i spent the night arguing with him, but due to financial situation we have to live together. Anyway, today i am desperate to contact my ex. this is the worst it has ever been. What should i do?
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    Hi Nikkers I am at day 6 too, and i seem to be at exactly the same point as you. I have stuff at his, but i want him to change is mind too. You truly are not alone. Hopefully we will both get stronger day by day
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    Thank you for your message. I know it is over. I accept that i think. I would like to stay friends. Dont think i will call him. Cant face it
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    ok. I will call him tomorrow and arrange to collect my things. Thanks
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