angelika

see, thats the thing... i guess it doesn't always happen for women during intercourse.... kinda sucks. damn the guys... for always having all the fun. lol

So, for the women... I would just like to know... how much better is an orgasm when you have intercourse, rather than oral sex or masterbating? And I've heard that some women can have really long orgasms? I don't know about you, but mine are only but a few seconds long...

Thanks so much Charlit.... I appreciate your understanding words and advice. As for titan, i'm not sure what your situation was with your ex so I can't really say anything about that. I am well aware that a gun wasn't held to my head...but unless you were in my position, I guess you'll never know. As Charlit said, fear of losing him was a major part of it. I wasn't trying to ask for pity... just some input.

My aunt had breast cancer at 40. Its amazing even people in their 20s are getting it now... so if its in genetics, be very cautious. all i can say is that M.D. Anderson Cancer Center in Houston saved my aunts life....and if your mother feels she should travel for treatment, I'd suggest doing some research and look up M.D. Anderson please! Good luck!!

no idea. if i knew, i would tell ya. it still happens to me sometimes.... even after 3 years.

sorry, not sure if i totally understood that first statement you made... you mean you were tempted to just pass up my post and not help me out or what? lol thanks, i know communication is prolly the most imptant thing... and im positive hes not only after sex if thats what you mean. otherwise, he wouldn't have stuck around for the past two years.

hey girl... i also know exactly how ya feel. that happened to me a lil over two years ago, and even though i was only with the guy for a month, it felt like so much longer, and it felt like my heart had been torn in two. it was real abrupt and weird and he didnt really give me a good reason behind it... prolly just the commitment thing. whatever. all i can say is that sometimes guys suck and life goes on..... and it has for me, even though i was depressed for a while, i met the love of my life not too much long after so trust me, you'll find someone better.

Sorry this is long but I'm new and I just felt like typing this out to see if anybody would listen. I know everyone's views are different, but I just need a little input. I'm a 20 year old female with a serious long distance boyfriend of two years. I love him to death.... he's a 23 year old virgin, and he wants to have sex with me. The only problem is.... basically, I'm stuck in the past and I know I shouldn't be. When I was 14/15, I fell into "love" a little too fast and was pressured into having sex with my very controlling 19 year old boyfriend at the time. Our relationship lasted two years on and off, and it was strictly like a phone/sex relationship because I only saw him on rare occasions when he borrowed his friend's car... And the fact that he was four years older than me (and my first boyfriend...man he was a loser), I kept it from everybody. We only had sex a total of 4 or 5 times that I can even count...because I never wanted to. (If you even want to call it that)....All it was to me was excruciating pain....yet I was too naive to tell him to stop. I was young and wasn't ready at all. I was alone and felt that my everything had been taken away from me, but I had no one to tell.... To this day, my family still doesn't know my secret. I felt ashamed and I still do. Its just really hard to even think about it sometimes... and all the emotional crap that I went through. So ever since I ended it with him in 2001 for good, I have not had sex.... and I haven't even had an urge to have sex. Of course I think about it and all but yeah.... I guess the past turned me away from even trying it again. I'm pretty sure he cheated on me because I could never give him what he truly wanted, which was someone to **** his brains out. I kinda started telling myself that I was like a "born again virgin" but I knew my innocence had been lost forever... to someone when I look back, that I didn't even love, which was supposed to be the most important thing to me. Sometimes I feel that my current boyfriend doesn't truly understand what I went through...he just makes it seem like its SO easy to get over... I guess thats my problem. Maybe I'm just scared....scared of both physical and emotional pain, scared of the consequences, scared that my boyfriend will turn into a nympho like my ex, whatever else. To be honest, my ex boyfriend refused to wear a condom, and I feel that I should prob go get checked out just incase... thats another thing that has been on my shoulders for a long time. Its hard to just get up and go to the doc and be worryfree. I know that I'm ready, I'm just not ready to deal with all the extra emotional baggage that goes along with being sexually active....and being in a long distance relationship as well. I don't want it to be us having sex everytime we see eachother and thats it...ya know, see ya in three weeks! When I think about it, perhaps the reason why I was in soooo much pain in the past was because I didn't truly love this guy and I knew I was way too young to be doing that stuff....especially when we weren't having protected sex. (constantly paranoid) So, I'm just hoping that it will be totally different when I do decide to do it again!?!?!??!!? I know he wants to sometime soon because I'm not sure how long he will wait... I don't know what it is with guys, but why the hell do you need to prove to other men that you're a "real" man when you lose your virginity?! Am I making sense....am I totally out of line for feeling this way or does anybody understand me at all? Maybe I just read way too much into it... sometimes I wish I could just erase my memory from four years ago like in Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. blah... any input would be appreciated. AHHHHHH Thanks so much for listening!