DariaM239

I don't think you should block him. I do understand your frustration though. I hate having to double txt or be the only one making the effort. At this point I'd ask him straight up if he's even interested and if you guys are still meeting up. Maybe just give him a chance and see what he says and if you still get nothing from him, just forget about him and move on.

As much as I don't like to think about it in that way. You are right. Thank you.

Hi, so first off I don't think there is anything wrong with me asking back for MY money, regardless of who it is. And yes, I had the money but like I said, I myself had an upcoming trip and couldn't afford to spend anymore. In the end I did send it to him because he's my friend. I didn't ask back for the money until THREE weeks later and that was only because I noticed he was going out to brunch and bars with friends, so I felt offended ( I should've mentioned that in the original post).

So he just said he needed space for right now. And I respect that, but at the same time I did not find it ok of him to use my past against me and compare me to his other friends and then basically call me selfish because I HAVE been there for him when he needed me (not just with the money situation) I just didn't detail that in the beginning. But because of that is exactly why I am shocked by his current attitude. I'm just going to let it be.

He seems depressed and to be honest I don't think he is in the right mental and emotional state of mind for a serious relationship right now. And congrats on the new job opportunity! Don't let your relationship problems overshadow your own accomplishments, perhaps you can see this as a new beginning for you.

Hi! So it definitely sucks that he really used you for the most part. He clearly is a loser, piece of well you know... but yeah I get the need for wanting to act petty, I probably would want to too, but the best thing you can do is just continue living your life and just focus on yourself. Eventually you'll not even think about that bum and feel dumb for even wanting to get back at him.

Welp here I am again. Currently feeling confused and sad because my "bestfriend" of 14 years pretty much wants nothing to do with me anymore. It all started when he was in Germany and he txted me saying he needed $200. He's never one to ask me for money, however, I myself had a trip coming up and I told him no I could not afford to send it to him right now. Because of the time difference I went to sleep woke up the next morning to all his missed calls and txt. He still really needed the money to put gas in the car rental and make it back to the airport. Now how the heck does someone go on a trip with no financial plan. I don’t know. Whatever. So I send him the money. The following weekend me and him plus a group of friends were supposed to go on a trip together. He ends up not showing up at all. I was extremely upset that he didn’t show up, I ended up getting drunk and blocked him just for the night cause I didn’t want to hear his excuses. He was extremely offended. We eventually talked it out and all was well (or at least I thought). 3 weeks pass by and I’m asking him back for my $200. He was extremely offended because he said he really had no money, but he sent me the money 2 days later and then he just started acting weird. I asked him if everything was okay. He said... “I need space from you right now, because honestly you always make everything about yourself” he started comparing me to his “real friends” he started using my past against me, saying all I do is make dumb stupid choices and he was tired of always having to hear me out and be there for me. (Yes this is the same guy that picked me up from the guys house at 2am, this topic is in a past post). He was offended that I kept pressing him about the money and that I blocked him that night. But honestly what really hurt me the most was when he said, I burden him with my problems and him comparing me to his other friends. His words were "my other friends have been there for me at my worst, since day one and with you I honestly can't look back on a moment you've been there for me" This all happened yesterday. He said all this in an audio message. I still have not said responded back to him because as CRAZY as this sounds. I still have hope that we can fix things, and the best thing I can do right now to save our friendship is for me to say nothing at all. Because once I start saying how I feel, hurtful words are going to be said and there will be no going back from it. Am I insane for still wanting him as my friend?? I feel like there's something so much deeper bothering him and he doesn't want to tell me. Idk. But this is the guy that we literally call each other family. We always talk about how we’ll speak at each others weddings and be the best aunt/uncle to each others kids. This guy has really been there for me at MY lowest, so for him to change up on me like that has me absolutely shocked and hurt. I just don’t know what to do.

I was in a 6 year relationship up until the end of last year, the relationship ended amicably so I'm grateful for that. However, even though I don't miss that relationship I miss just having someone to go out with. I started the dating thing back in July and it sucked haha. So now I'm at a point in my life where I decided to take a break from dating and just focus on myself. With that being said I'm contemplating on doing an international trip (South Korea). I only know a girl that lives there with her husband and they are willing to show me around for a day and then the rest of the time I'd be on my own. Because I'm a woman safety is really my main concern and I also don't speak Korean. Has anyone ever done a solo international trip? And if you have, any tips? What are your thoughts?? Should I go for it?

Ok, so the homework thing. I've done that before once, for my ex of 6 years, but he paid me to do it cause heck no would I do it for free haha but everything else that really sucks and I can't imagine how you must be feeling. Your mind must be all over the place right now but you have to confront him about it, it's going to be uncomfortable but you can't keep ignoring it. You also deserve way better. No one should ever be someone's second choice. Wishing you the best of luck!

Friend and best friend are 2 different things. I wouldn't call my 2 best friends just "friends" because they are way more than that to me. A best friend to me is like family.

No, this was some guy I met at a friends party this past weekend.

He def gives off creepy vibes. Perhaps you don't actually miss him. I think you just miss the attention that he gave you? Also the constant checking your phone to see if he's reached out, I can definitely relate to that feeling, haha. It sucks but tbh he sounds like a red flag. Feel better soon!

He's not gay and he has a gf! His gf and I are actually good friends too. Not all guys think that way 🙂

first off, so sorry you had to go through something like that. No one deserves to be cheated on. Someone already said this, but she'll never truly feel sorry, only sorry that she was caught. With time everything you've been through will hurt less. I was cheated on once, funny enough I didn't find out till after the break up, but still I was very upset and it definitely hurt my ego. I wanted answers so bad, but he actually ended up blocking me and ended up dating the girl he cheated on me with. I ended up just letting it go and looking back on it, I don't even care anymore. If she does try to contact you again, definitely ignore her. You'll feel tempted to want to say something but for your own mental peace, don't give in! You got this. Best of luck to you.

Ok so. I have my 2 best friends in the whole world that I trust more than anything. I've known them both for over 10 years (we're in our 20's still). One is a girl and the other is a guy. The other day someone made a comment to me saying "I dont trust a girl with a GUY Best friend" to which I responded, "But I have a guy best friend'! and he said "Ok, but lets be real if you and him were to both get reaaallyy drunk, you guys would probably hook up or something" and I said definitely not because we've both been drunk before and nothing like that has ever happened. I've had conversations like this before with both guys and girls who find it hard to believe that any person could have a BEST friend that's the opposite sex. What do you guys think?