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Ok these are very different questions, its something I have always wanted to know. What type of people turn you on? Is there a country that attracts you? Would you prefer to socialise and date people from different countries because you find the people attractive? Ben

Just to say a bit more. We met recently and this is our second date. We get on well, have similar personalities and experiences. She is shyer than me though. I get the feeling that she has always been sidelined when her friends have succeeded in getting relationships. She gives off signals all the time, and everyone tells me shes mad about me. I get the feeling she is terrified!

Its not easy is it? I should know. Its tough because you dont know if she means taking it slow emotionally or physically. If you put a foot out of place you are afraid the whole thing will go wrong. Dony worry, it will make the situation worse as you might give off bad signals and feeling akward might confuse her. Just be the same as you were before she seemed happy with that, dont force it. But there is no harm in asking her! If u need anything, you are welcome to PM me. Ben

I dont understand what happened today? I went out for a picnic with a girl and we really get on, I mean she said yes to the picnic and said she was really looking forward to this, we were hugging, eating, I gave her a neck massage, she was smiling, happy, the sun was shining. At the end of it all there was an akward moment. We sort of went to kiss, then stopped. Later she sent me a message saying that she wanted to be friends? friends dont behave like that! What on earth happened? Someone Help!

I need some help. Its hard to know how to start but I suppose the beginning. I have been out of an 8 year relationship for 4 months now. My relationship was great until the last 3 years when we got a mortgage. My Fiancee took me for granted and stopped caring about me, it was like as long as she was happy, I should be, you know. Then we had financial trouble. Instead of helping she became withdrawn and wanted more and more attention. As the bills mounted I took on 2 more jobs. Finally in the last 18 months she became ill, please note that to this day no doctor has ever found anything wrong with her. She could not work and our debts went out of control, I mean how can 2 sales assistants survive in a mortgaged house these days? While her family should be supporting us like mine were, they didn't. They told her that the debts and our relationship were all my fault and I should be able to cope, and they think that my tough past was to blame. They didnt stop building more and more grudges against me. Eventually we called it a day amid much horrid backstabbing and sold the house to pay the debts. Although her family forced me to give her 75% of the profits after debts were payed. To this day she wants me to support her and I cant move on. I am so sad and have horrible emotional scars. I dont think I could ever have another girlfriend because of my scars and lack of self confidence. I hate the whole situation and I hate her whole facist family. How do I move on? I dont even have any friends left. What do I do?

I know how you feel, but the best revenge you can have is to enjoy your life, prove the people who have hurt you wrong, and have the last laugh by finding someone better. When he sees that, he will know he was wrong.

I Have never spoken so publicly before about me. but if anyone knows how I feel or has been in the same situation I would love to hear your advice. So here goes. I feel in love 8 years ago, got engaged 5 years ago, and was living with my fiancee for 3 years. I never made a good connection with her family because they were so different from anyone i had ever come accross, and when we moved in together they were not supportive - as her parents had just divorced and couldnt be. However we made a go of things with a mortgage and a loan to buy the house and items for it. Before long our money was running thin and credit was used, so I did 2 jobs to pay for things. My other half became unhappy with me working so much and started to become ill with worry. Then she became so ill that she couldnt work, and I had to do 3 jobs, but soon debt escalated. Recently she had moved in secretly with her mother, however she told her parents that I was the cause of our debts and her illness (lie) and they ALL turned on me. All I did was try and help her. Now I have been on my own for 2 months and I am very upset and lonely. My friends are all gone, and until I sell the house, I cant stop working! How do I deal with my ex? How can a prove people wrong? How do I learn to be me again? I dont even know how to talk to people, as I am so scarred by her. Anyone know what I mean?