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  1. terrible
    In response to DN's post .. i agree that it is the readers decision to take or leave what ever anyone posts here, i was mearly making an observation. Another observation i see growing is people debating other peoples posts when they are totally irrellevant to the original persons post... but hey i never said i wasn't a hypocrite. Good luck with what ever choice you go with.. fantasys are fun.
  2. terrible
    Everyone has their own opinions. I've browsed this site through and through many times and a continuing trend i'm seeing is very streight people juging others that are genuinely good people that are open enough to enjoy life and experiment and try new things. I think the fact that you and your wife have been together for so long without any MAJOR almost divorse type conflicts, i personaly think it's cool that you and your wife openly communicate with eachother about trying new things. She is willing to talk to you openly about it, and it -seems- you guys have a relitively good relationship with eachother. I think if it does it for you, and it does it for her and you are all comfortable with it then talk about it some more then as long as you are all confident with your feelings for eachother, and trust eachother, i think it could be a bit of spice to add to your marriage, if your confident she isn't going to turn around and ask for a divorece the next day.. i would say it's better to try these new experiencves out together and both enjoy it, then to keep your feelings bottled up.
  3. terrible
    hmm.. well for my first experience with enotalone i got way more than i bargained for.. i decided that i don't want to be a victim, and have got myself more help.. i really dont know what to say to you both, except that i feel like i've just been involved with a true slice of jerry springer. My boyfriend wants to forgive me and try and repair my mistake, but now i'm too scared and don't want to be a disappointment..
  4. terrible
    wow.. i dont know what to say. i talked to my boyfriend about everything, i don't believe he has any secrets, i don't believe in keeping secrets from people we care about. i really cared about this guy, but i didn't know how much it would hurt him this way because this is a different situation from the other time. i've decided i'm not going to commit to ANYONE in a long time so i can re evaluate my own values. thanks for all the advice, in some ways everyone here is right. life is choice, i hope other people read here and see how screwed up things can get.. i'm glad this happened to me now, and not later when i could have possibly been married or something. crap happens, and we all need a little hurt in our lives to make us stronger. my choices have hurt me just as bad as him, just in different ways. now i'm alone, i can sort out my own crap and not bring anyone else down in the process....
  5. terrible
    what i don't get is that i find great guys, these guys are good looking, caring, devoted and loving, they hold on to me so tight, and then something clicks in my head and i want to get away from them. i don't want to be the one to break it iff so i'll cheat or lie about something, and after they show their limp squashed hearts it's only then i realise that i would love to stay with this guy, he is a great guy, and i knew it all along i'm such a dickhead.. but it's too late. they hate me, i cry and feel so depressed, and don't understand why i hurt myself and others so needlessly.
  6. terrible
    thanks for all your advice, it's refreshing to have other peoples perspectives, i guess thats why this site is so sucsessfull. I am going over to my b/f place tonight to be dumped. i figure i don't deserve his loyalty, and i'll stick with trainning just with a different instructor. what is the key to feeling satisfied with being monogamus?
  7. terrible
    i read alot about it on the net, but it's different to getting a real persons feedback on the subject. I have all the symptoms and i'm booked to see my doc tomorrow. I've never had this kind of reaction before, there doesn't seem to be any other explanation. i have no idea how to start the conversation with my teacher, who i respect, 'oh, by the way did you know you have an std?' meanwhile he has a partner and a 5 month old child of his own. as soon as i noticed the symptoms i stopped having contact, it's just such a sensitive subject
  8. terrible
    Does anyone have any advice on this? it would be nice to get some feedback to start with, i'm trying to stay positive, but it's hard when you know your going to live with this for the rest of your life till there's a cure, even some cancers are curable..
  9. terrible
    My boyfriend and i were having intimacy problems.. we haven't seen eachother in a long time, and i felt lonely. I was at trainning and got talking to my sensei about it, and one thing lead to another, and for the first time i didn't use protection, because i (stupid me) assumed he would have told me if he had anything.. i didn't know how bad and ashamed i would feel afterwards, and told my boyfriend the same week. i didn't want to loose him, because i thought he would be a great father, and partner some day, but i was naieve to think we would be able to have a trusting relationship after that. I got dumped, and left with herpes. which i will live with for the rest of my life. I'm looking for people also trying to deal with this virus, and how others manage and cope with it. Thankyou for reading this, feel free to contact me at email removed if you to are interested in sharing stories, ideas and support.
  10. terrible
    thanks for your response, it's a bit of a stalemate subject, thousands of people go through similar situations.. i guess i'm a bit lost. we are still together, he said i can go over to his place on the weekend to talk about it some more, and see where this whole thing is going. a friend reccommended this site to me because lots of friendly people give eachother advice.. thanks, i hope i can return the favour to another some time.
  11. terrible
    my bf says i'm going to end up sad and alone. what would you do?
  12. terrible
    i'm just interested in what peoples general thoughts on this are, my boyfriend is a bit controlling, and the tighter he holds the more i pushed away.. i don't know why. i told my martial arts instructor that i was attracted to him, but wouldn't jepodise his relationship with his partner and 5mths old baby girl.. and basically i couldn't train with him anymore. he said he would have been lying if he said he had no attraction to me, and a few weeks later we started having intimate meetings after class. i felt guilty and bad, my bf knew i'd cheated in a past relationship. i told him not long after, and now i feel even worse. my bf parents told him to give me a second chance. i've had long term relationships in the past, and this isn't one of them, but it feels like one. i only felt lust for my instructor, not love, sensei feels the same way. i told sensei it had to stop and he is fine with it and happy i can still train with him. i want to make it up to my bf. it's made me realise what companionship really means. i don't know why i have to cross 'the line' to the extreme to feel decided on an emotion. thankyou for reading this, i know it's long, i just wanted to know if anyone else has been in this situation and how it worked out for them? if it worked out at all?
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