RobustMouse

I know for a positive fact that he doesn't, and never will like me. I accepted that from the beginning since I first met him. How am I supposed to talk to him? And what if he doesn't want to talk to me?

But what if he doesn't want to talk to me? I know he will listen and say "Thank You" but, what if he cares heckless wether I gave him a compliment or not? Or even talk to him?

I have empathy, lots of empathy. I don't think meds will help you that much, what you should do is just talk her someway. I think that your obbessivness(sp?) will dimmin if you spend some time talking or being with her. Get to know her even more!

I don't see why it would be a bad idea, I'm a nearly exact situation myself. If you don't want to make it look you like her, then just let her know that you care about her and wish her a happy christmas with a gift or a card or something. She would be delighted probably that you desighted to give her something!

How do you become a guy's friend? This guy that I'm crushing on is someone I will never be in a relationship with. Not now, not ever. He would never have any interest in me. I knew that from the beginning and have basically accepted that. But on the other hand, I can't force myself to stop 'liking' him and I still want to be his friend. The problem is, I don't know how. I've talked to him on the phone three times, we get along and can laugh together. I sent him a greeting card on Thanksgiving. We are strong aquaitences(Sp?). I'm not sure how to gain his friendship. I have low self-confidence so its a nightmare when I try and call him. Last night I spent 2 HOURS trying to get the courage to call him-and just couldn't do it. It was a pathetic sight! I am planning to call him today though. (Noon) How do you talk to a guy? How am I supposed to be his friend if I can't even call him to give him a compliment! I'm so worried about what he thinks of me. I'm afraid if I call him-he won't want to talk to me, like he'll hate me. But thats stupid because why would he hate me if I called to give him a compliment? We actuly have quite a bit in comman, and but I'm so afraid talking to him! I'm afraid I'll make a fool of myself and he'll dislike me.

Jason is a very weird person. He is quiet as a mouse. He hardly ever talks. He only "comes alive" when hes performing in a play. Thats his true passion in life. He is very direct. "Yes" "No" "Five years" "Maybe" It is SO hard to talk to him. It's almost crazy! on top of that, I do have his number and his address. I've sent him a greeting card, and called him several times. But I am so afraid that he will hate me if I call him up and disturb him. Or think I'm weird...I'm worried of what he thinks of me. I'm to sared to call him because I'm afraid I'll make a fool of myself and blow it. Or annoy him.

Hi everyone, I've got myself in a bit of situation again. I need some advice for it. I'm so lost on what to do. How do you know if you love someone? I've been pondering this latley, I can't figure it out wether or wether not I still like this boy I met a few months ago at a community theatre play. I've talked to him several times. Hes quiet, very quiet, but not shy at all. (Lets say his name is Jason) I really used to be obbessed with Jason. I mean, really obbessed. I hated leaving practice because I wasn't able to see him, the week we had off really killed me. I'm embarrassed to admit it, but I was almost like a stalker! I was lucky enough that he and I became very good aquaitences. After our play ended, we had a cast party at an amusement park. I even hugged him good bye... ...and then I got over him! Yes! After nearly three months I felt as if I was over him. I called him five times but, I never had any kind of contact with him other then that. But I was over him! I didn't care anymore! I thought "I loved you, and I'll always remember you, but I'm over you!" I honestly thought I didn't care anymore about him. Until Friday. Some of the cast members were asked (Not by him personaly, but by a stage manager) to go see a play he was in. I went and saw it, I didn't think I would care if I saw him again. I didn't think he would have any kind of affect on me. But he did sadly. When he launched out onto the stage, giving a war like cry for his part, I was mezmorized. There was Jason, the boy I loved, and the one I had not seen for nearly three months! I swear I instantly fell for him again. I watched the play, I was able to sit next to his Mom, we talked, and I got to know more about him. I watched the play, but I was focused solely on him. Memorizing his body motions. embarrassingly, his costume had TONS of rips, I looked at him. It was just like it was in the play. But now...I am so confused on what my feelings are. When I saw him again on Friday, it was like, just weird. I don't know anymore. I don't know if I still have feelings for him! Right now, I wish I could see him and talk to him. But it's more like...Like I want to get to know him better. When I think of talking to him, its not even "Lets get together kind of way" its more like. "I want to get to know you, I want to be your friend" and "Are you my Soul mate?" and "If you are, will we end up together" I feel an attachment to him I can't describe. I look on him with admiration, very big admiration. But I assure that I don't _think_ it's only admiration. I'm so confused on wether it's love or something else. Sorry that took so long...Thank You.

Thank you all of you! It does feel good to vent! Muneca, I'm sorry, but I don't really understand what you mean on the "idea" of him. I'm not to sure what you mean by that I know what you mean by not forcing ourselves on anyone. I guess I just wanted to be part of his life, not only because I like him but also because I admire him so much. I never really hit it off with him because I was to shy to talk with him. We have a lot in comman believe it or not, but I'm just really shy. But... On the other hand, I feel as if this is true too. I'm an introvert, so is he. I can be outgoing, but most of the time I'm fairly calm. Jason...he really is in introvert. For awhile he didn't talk to us, seriously! He didn't seem shy, just not talkative at all. But, torwards the end of the play, I did notice that he got more open with us, and I also noticed that he seemed to 'hang' more with the very extrovert people! Gosh. I really do feel confused.

Hi everyone, How are you all? I'm alright, except for a little Teenage-Love problem I'm in. I feel I to vent, and get some advice on it. Please forgive my intrusion, I'm just glad that I found someplace that I can post at. I guess I might as well start. I'll need to give some history. I worked as a backstage hand in a children's theatre play, and in the play, I began to feel very strongly for one of the actors. (I'll call him Jason). I developed a very strong crush on Jason from the first day that I met him. I went to rehearsals, I talked with him, I flirted with him, honestly I tried to know him as best as I could. Then the play ended. I stayed up intil 4 AM the day before the last performace drawing and coloring a picture for him that I framed. I gave it to him along with a letter. I saw him again at a cast party that one of the stage managers held. That was nearly a month ago, the last time I talked to him was 2 weeks ago. End of history. hope that wasn't to boring! Anyway, my main concern is complicated, I'm sowwy. I'll explain it. I've accepted that fact that me and Jason will never be together in a boyfriend/girlfriend kind of way. I know all to well he will never look at me the same way I look at him. But... I still don't want him to forget me. I don't want to lose contact with him, I don't want him to forget me, I want to be his friend. The thing is, I don't know how to be. Jason and I never talked much during the play or at the cast party, we just never hit it off. We did once, but never again. I would have to ask him a question in order to get him to talk to me. I can't really even consider him an aquatence. Still, I don't want to lose him, he means to much to me, he gave me hope, I've got a huge crush on him, and I don't want him out of my life! Yet, if we were never friends to begin with, what makes me think he and I will grow close? I don't know. What do you all think? Thank you!