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Sorry, but what does this mean? Fear? Do I really? I guess I do show a lot of fear, the fear of him hating me, the fear of never seeing him again, the fear of him forgetting me. Oh Gosh, I don't want him to forget me. Thats one of my biggest fears. Thats what I mean by "Losing him" him forgetting me. My biggest fear is of him hating me. I wish I had never met him, I wish I didn't like him How do I not care what he thinks of me? Thats the biggest challenge....
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Your right, I will try and contact him more, for all I know he thinks better of me then I think he does. I will call him sometime soon and try and talk to him. Thank you again!
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What do you mean I want "This" yet I want "That"? Of course hes no celebrity, but hes someone that changed my life in away. He inspired me and gave me hope, and gave me the gift of admiration. I do worry what he thinks of me, I don't want someone that I love that much (crush & admire wise) dislike me in anyway. I'm worried that if I call him and say "Hi, how are you doing? Whats up?" hes going to really think I'm nuts because first of all we aren't close. We are not friends, merely aquaitences. Scuse' my spelling. It's like, I call him, and I ask him how hes doing and whats up-but he really doesn't want to talk to me or hear from me. I'm always scared that hes judging me and thinking "Vaxil, why in the hell are you calling me? You have no reason to!" I don't know if it's that I need to let him go-he doesn't treat me badly, hes very nice infact. Sweet and caring actuly-I just have a hard time connecting with him. I often feel jealous and sad when I relize...that we don't connect very well. I mean, we do connect, and we can talk, but we just aren't as close as I wish we were. It causes me some heart-ache, thats what I'm trying to get over I guess. The feeling of not being with him. I do wish I could find a way to socialize around him, but we live in different worlds entirely. Hes homeschooled and he lives in a different suberb then I do. It would be rather hard to socialize with him on a regular basis. We have many comman interests, but, we still are so different, that it's hard to talk sometimes. When I saw him last sunday, I talked to him more then I ever did before. And he wasn't annoyed, he talked back to me, and we laughed together and shared conversation.I usualy see him every 3-6 weeks for only for a day. I'm amazed I've kept my crush on him! When it comes to talking on the phone, I can't do it without a reason. Because it's like, I have to ask him a question to get to him to talk to me(Most of the time, but not EVERYtime) and it's rather stupid to be on the phone and one person is asking questions. Discussions between me and him are odd. We've never found anything to discuss to be honest. Thank you again, please don't feel obligated to respond! I don't want you to feel as if you HAVE to help me! Buck thank you so much for your advice!
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I'm afraid, that if I 'let him go' and forget about him. Then I will wake up one day and regret that descion. It's also that I don't want to 'let him go' because he means so much to me! Not only in the crush love way, but also in the "I deeply admire you" kind of way. I feel like I've met a celebrity basically. Thats odd actuly, now that I think about it. He never said anything to anyone else either...for instance, during a Play Cast Party that we had last sunday, he never said anyone elses names either! He smiled the entire time, he listened, and he told stories of his own, but he never once tried to get anyone's attention specificly! Hmmm... I guess I'm not the only one...The thing is that he isn't shy at all, hes just naturaly quiet. Hes the same way around boys... I don't know if it's that he doesn't "care" about me exactly. Like, I don't know if I was kidnapped or stolen if he would worry about me. Well, yah he'd probably be worried, but I don't know if he would call anyone else from our Play and ask about my disappearance. Lousy example-I'm sorry. I guess I think I still have a chance to gain his friendship. If I show him that I care and I'm interested in what hes doing-he might relize that I do care and that I want his friendship. But on the other hand, I'm also worried that if I show to much (Like calling him only wanting to ask how he was) he might get the feeling that I'm stalking him. It's his friendship that I'm trying to gain, not a relationship with him. Not that I'd turn him down if he wanted one with me, but I know it's just not going to happen. If I can't have a relationship with him, then I want to be his friend. confusing. I'm sorry. Thank you again!
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Well, when I say 'friend' I generaly mean "Can I come over?" "Want to go see a movie with me (friendish way)" "Did you hear about the latest news?" I could never call him say "Want to go see a movie with me?" even in a friendish way...its odd but...first, I know he would say "No" second, we aren't close, We don't talk to each other unless theres a discussion. Usualy friendwise, you are just drawn to certain types of people, we are not two people that are drawn to eachother naturaly. I have make conversation or ask him a question to get him to talk to me. Hes never said my name before!!!! Hes know my name, but hes never said " 'Vaxil' could you hand me this?" or, "Vaxil what do you think?" I have to be the one that speaks in order to get him to talk to me! He would never talk to me unless I spoke a word to him....I don't think he cares about me really If he did in any shape or form I'm sure he would say something to me! To him, I'm like the annoying kid in the chair next to him asking him for a date! I'm the kid no one cares about to him. He would never want to be with the "Annoying" kid. (Not saying I'm annoying, I'm pointing out that I'm different from everyone else) It's odd, hes just like everyone else, yet hes different...I'm the sore thumb on the hand, I'm not that similar to anyone else. He is! I'm afraid of forgetting him I guess....I'm afraid of letting him go because I'll regret it. Like, I forget about him, and then suddenly I remember him and go "I want to talk to him!" but he doesn't remember me....because I forgot about him. I just now relized that. It's not only that I like him, its that hes like a celebrity to me. I admire him so much. Thank you so much Ksk0_0! That was some of the best advice I've ever received. Thank you so much!
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I wish spending more time with him and talking to him was possible, but honestly I don't know if that could work. I'd call him everyday if I could-the problem with that is I don't really have much to even say to him. Hes more of a guy who listens and responds then a guy who talks and expects to be listened too. I'm the same way. I don't really know how to be a friend to him, crud. I don't even know if he would ever think of me as his 'friend'! We are just different...in ways that its hard to explain. Hes quiet, yet he fits in with the talkative group...How would I become his friend?
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Is it even possible to get over an obbession like this?
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Thats actuly a very nice thought!
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I must agree, I hope you understand that at 16 its illegal to be smoking and drinking. As for the guy, I do agree with the person above. Hes probably looking for a one night stand. Stay away from him. Thats my advice!
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Well, we arn't exactly FRIENDS... I mean, I don't go over to his house or call him up and go "Hey you wanna chat?" I was in a play with him a few months ago, and the stage manager has this 'thing' about keeping the entire cast in contact. So I've been seeing him in cast trips. Like we all went to an amusment park, we all saw in another play he was in, and I saw him last sunday at another cast trip. (Only boy to show up too, yay) But, hes homeschooled, I go to public school. I don't call him unless I want to wish him luck or tell him something important, or ask him something. I'd love to call him up and chat like a friend, but we honestly aren't 'friends' just aquaitences. I can call him up and ask for advice and simply say "Thanks for whatever" or "I hope your doing" fine, and he'll talk with me. But hes never called me or anything. What do you mean, he knows we are sharing memories? I don't think he even knew about the camera! Come to think of it, I only see him every 2-3 weeks. Only when the cast gets together. Its most likly I'll be seeing him in January in a few weeks. It's not an everyday thing. at all. I can't just 'let him go' maybe in awhile, but I don't want to 'let him go' just yet. Another odd thing is that he is a mix of an intro and extrovert. Hes quiet, not shy at all, but just quiet. But he seems to gear more torwards the extroverted people in crowds. I'm can be either depending on the situation, extroverted or introverted. We are so similar, yet we are so different. It seems to me that it would be hard to form a friendship with him. But I don't want to let him go.. Thank you!
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Well, thats a perfect oppurtunity to text him! Just simply sau something like "Hi! I'm on a road trip, what are you up to?" Its most likely, to me at least, that he likes you. I'm sure he would be glad to hear from you!
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Wonderfuly defined.
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I guess I have a lot of questions about this guy I'm crushing on. (Lets call him Jason) I can ask if he wants to be my friend, I can ask how to be his friend, how to call and talk to him, how to ask him out...ect.) I want the answers to all of these. I could post each question and I would never feel satisfied. I guess there is one main problem all my questions underly on. My Problem is that I'm obbessed. Yes, obbessed. I am obbessed with "Jason". I'm not sure how to live, handle, or get rid of this obbession with him. When I say obbession, I mean it this way. I am ALWAYS thinking about him. I am writing down a list of things I know about him, writing memories and experiences so I don't forget him, his pictures are the first ones in my album, a photo in my wallet, fantasizing dates and such, trying to be near him whenever I can...and a few other things. ...and on top of that I can't get him out of my mind. It's almost like I'm a stalker I don't live near him, but if I did, I promise you that I would be riding near his house every day and think "This is his house, I am at Jason's house." and maybe I'd take a blade of grass. It's getting really weird. I'll admit one time when me and him and nearly 10 other people were at an amusement park I took a camera specificly to take pictures of him... But I did that because I don't ever want to forget him or the memories we share. This needs to stop. I feel like I'm stalking him and I know thats not right. Another problem is that I can't just "let him go I'm too afraid of forgetting him. I don't want to forget him. I tried once, and I ended coming back to him. Sometimes I'm near tears of simply thinking about losing him! ...Am I obbessed? What should I do to deal with this "obbession" if I have it? How do I deal with the emotional pain yet not "forget him"? Thank you,
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Day_Walker is right, generaly when a girl says "That guy is soooo hot!" they are speaking about someone's looks. What I've noticed is that when your in a relationship with someone you don't really say "My boyfriend is so hot" you usualy say " I like him because hes Nice, exciting, talkable..ect.) They don't base it on looks alone.
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You could also just try talking to her on the phone like the usual "How is it going?" and "What have you been up to?" and then asking her out at the end.
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I do agree, see if you can find sometime to just get to know him. You don't have to go right out and say "I like you!" you can give him hints that you like him back, that way you can tell him without directly saying it. It sounds like he likes you to me! But time will tell.
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No, I don't think so. Disagreement sure, but it wouldn't be anything I'd ever "hate" him for.
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someone you like is against things you strongly stand for? It's a long story, so I'll cut it short. I had a Play Cast Party at an amusement park yesterday, I had the best chance to talk and get to know him. Which I did. Yet, I learned some things about him that disturbed me. Nothing serious. Only his views on some things that I stand strongly for. I don't want to mention them though. But yet, even after getting to understand someone better, I still feel attracted to him. Why is this? Does it Mean I'm compromising? Thank you,
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Caldus, I'm not going to ask him out. I could never ask him out! Your right. I'm going to call him and see how it goes. He he talks, then it shows that theres a chance we can become friends, if not, then I'mgoing to assume that hes not worth it. Thank You again.
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Thank you so much Caldus. I appreciate your thoughts. It really helps... I'm just so lost. I don't want to take the chance thats what my problem is. Because in my mind I know that in reality if he really is "stuck up" like 'what ifs' are making him sound like then really just worth it.
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The question is; is he? What if he doesn't care if I call him or not? What if he wishes I would NEVER call?? I've called him five times, and talked 3 times. We don't blankly talk, I do carry on conversations. Its just that this particular time its POINTLESS! I want to give him a compliment, the other times its been that I need a question answerd. He never had said "Leave alone" or "stop calling me"...but what if he is?
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Your right. I admire this boy like I do a celebrity, and I admire to him to a great extent. To have someone that I admire to that degree dislike me in anyway would tear me up inside. Your right, I'm afraid of what he thinks of me. I'm trying to be his friend, I have low self-confidence, and I'm afraid of making a fool of myself in front of him.
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I don't know Dancer, his looks was probly the first thing I noticed about him. I'm pretty physicaly attracted to him. Infact, I hate the way hes so hard to talk to! Better then him? How could I be better then him?
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Thank you so much Dancer and Awsome, that ment a lot to me. It made so much sense to me. Thank you. My concern is off the wall. Pathetic even. I admire this boy so much, its not only that I crush on him. To have someone that I admire dislike me tears me inside. How should I try and not care what he thinks of me?
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No, but honestly, I'm not even his friend. He much less has or could have a crush on me!